Oh, that was probably a good idea... Do you know why it is that you don't see him as anything more? Sometimes we have pretty poor reasons for doing the things that we do... Sometimes, people will not pursue something more, simply for the purpose of not changing how things are. Fear of the unknown is a compelling reason, but it isn't a good one
There are several reasons. He has changed is the biggest one. He was before this really playful and confident, happy and energetic person... He even used to do some really sweet gestures to me. It was romantic, even though we never were any couple back then either. I liked him, but now he is quite serious, tired and less confident. I think the relationship he had changed him. I still like him as a friend, but I'm not attracted to him. And then there are other reasons, like the crowd he is hanging with and the fact that he started using weed. It is a big turn off for me. I guess I liked the old him better. 😒 i know it is awful to say this of a friend. But we have known for years and he had a serious relationship in between everything.
@Starbers999 i don't know how to tell it to him... It's just hurtful to say "I liked you before, and back then I would have said yes. Not anymore" 😅😅😅 it is just annoying
Without saying those are the reasons you won't consider him, can you it as a friend? Like, you used to be really playful and now you're serious all the time but say it in a playful way yourselfm If he's salvageable then work though each issue like that, try and get him off the weed, that must be having an effect on him. Try and get the guy you used to like back but do it as a friend not like you are trying to get that guy back. I can't think of any other way sorry and it's easier said than done.
@Starbers999 Thank you for those tips, I have tried to make him understand this before. That the weed has affected him too. He knows it has affected some of his friends, but he denies it affects him. He says he uses it so rarely but I'm not sure if I believe him. I'm not sure if I can do anything now, when we won't see each other in a while. But I'll try. I want him to feel better.
It would be a shame if you let him decline into depression so do your best to help him out a friend and hopefully you will see some change soon. Personally, I would imply you liked him at one point so he feels like being a better man for you. That's only if you think he's salvageable and start seeing some real change. Hope you work something out and good luck😊
Be honest and say I have no romantic/sexual interest in the person instead of beating around the bush until I'm dead. When someone does that to me it's because its long-distance and we met online.
It's best to be open with him so that you are both on the same page. It's better to let him down earlier than later so that there is less disappointment from him and less guilt for you.
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Kill him and hide his body!😊 Absolutely the only way... ahem.. i mean... yeah. Try it out😉
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Just be honest. No sugar coating, just tell him how you see him. The worst thing you can do is make him think he has a chance. It's pure misery.
Usually they were not so close friends so I just ignored it till it goes away.
We can give it a go, but chances are I won't develop long-term feelings
Never lead someone on. Dudes create some serious fiction just to keep hope something will happen. Be respectful and blunt.
Maybe go on a few dates to see how it goes. If you don’t feel the “spark” then be honest with them
I saw that you told him how you feel... How did that go? Did you tell him that you needed to think some more about him as well?
No I didn't, I thought it would just give him hope and I don't want to give any hope if I'm mostly likely not going to change my mind.
Oh, that was probably a good idea... Do you know why it is that you don't see him as anything more? Sometimes we have pretty poor reasons for doing the things that we do... Sometimes, people will not pursue something more, simply for the purpose of not changing how things are. Fear of the unknown is a compelling reason, but it isn't a good one
There are several reasons. He has changed is the biggest one. He was before this really playful and confident, happy and energetic person... He even used to do some really sweet gestures to me. It was romantic, even though we never were any couple back then either. I liked him, but now he is quite serious, tired and less confident. I think the relationship he had changed him. I still like him as a friend, but I'm not attracted to him. And then there are other reasons, like the crowd he is hanging with and the fact that he started using weed. It is a big turn off for me. I guess I liked the old him better. 😒 i know it is awful to say this of a friend. But we have known for years and he had a serious relationship in between everything.
Can you not tell him some of this in a nice way? It seems like you would have said yes to the old him - seems a shame.
@Starbers999 i don't know how to tell it to him... It's just hurtful to say "I liked you before, and back then I would have said yes. Not anymore" 😅😅😅 it is just annoying
Without saying those are the reasons you won't consider him, can you it as a friend? Like, you used to be really playful and now you're serious all the time but say it in a playful way yourselfm If he's salvageable then work though each issue like that, try and get him off the weed, that must be having an effect on him. Try and get the guy you used to like back but do it as a friend not like you are trying to get that guy back. I can't think of any other way sorry and it's easier said than done.
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@Starbers999 Thank you for those tips, I have tried to make him understand this before. That the weed has affected him too. He knows it has affected some of his friends, but he denies it affects him. He says he uses it so rarely but I'm not sure if I believe him. I'm not sure if I can do anything now, when we won't see each other in a while. But I'll try. I want him to feel better.
It would be a shame if you let him decline into depression so do your best to help him out a friend and hopefully you will see some change soon. Personally, I would imply you liked him at one point so he feels like being a better man for you. That's only if you think he's salvageable and start seeing some real change. Hope you work something out and good luck😊
Tell him you need some time to think, but no guarantees 😊
No! Never leave someone hanging like that. That's basically girl language for "I'm not interested but I'm too pussy to say it."
Well she said she's not sure about her feelings for him yet, also the "no guarantees" kinda gets the point across
Happens all the time, and everytime end up loosing a friend
If they respect you you shouldn't avoid them. Tell tgem the truth. Its better than leading them on.
Be honest and say I have no romantic/sexual interest in the person instead of beating around the bush until I'm dead. When someone does that to me it's because its long-distance and we met online.
Sing them Friends - Anne Marie and Marshmello
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YOU TELL HIM THE GOD DAMN TRUTH!
I already told him, as the update says
Good for you! Nice!
It's best to be open with him so that you are both on the same page. It's better to let him down earlier than later so that there is less disappointment from him and less guilt for you.
Kill him and hide his body!😊
Absolutely the only way... ahem.. i mean... yeah.
Try it out😉
I wish I knew, I'm in the same situation and I don't want to hurt her feelings.
Try something with her, maybe you will go to a better step. If not , tell her your feeling.
It's a guy
Just tell him what you think initially. I just need to analyze the whole thing, it's just this wasn't expected, hope you understand. I'm flattered
Just tell them clearly you are not attracted to them and if they still push, unfriend them.
oh, bad situation. u have to tell him truth, if u dont have feelings for him, then it can't be love
If you need to think about it, mostly means you're looking for reasons to convince yourself.