Do men love their wives more than their kids?

[Pocahontas2000]

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I think parents should love each other in the first place so that kids see what a true love is and develop healthy attachment types.

[Anonymous]

A few, but i'd guess most don't. I don't think that's terrible as the parent love for a child tends to be unconditional.

However I do think that the parent relationship ideally is the strongest and the center of the family.

Sadly in a lot of cases the parents relationship is weak or dormant, and they are living together and raising the kids. There's a movie where a guy describes his marriage as 'like running a day care with someone you dated once'. That's not ideal. But it's where a lot of people are.

[Pocahontas2000]

That sucks. I am scared of relationships and hate to think that my life might get that sad someday. I want to marry someday but I also don’t want because I couldn’t be able to handle loving with a man who I just dated once. That’s why I always finish relationships earlier than it turns into something serious. It’s better to never open your heart than to open it onpy to live a dull and boring life later. It’s better to never marry and be the woman who got away or something. It really hurts me to realiZe that everything that was once so beautiful becomes that ugly someday. And your comment just kinda proved it.

[Opinion Owner]

Well it fades for a lot and maybe most people. It might be a minority but there are millions of people who’ve been married decades and are still deeply in love.

And actually I don’t think it’s better to never open your heart at all.

On top of that I found having kids to be amazing. I love them like crazy.

[Anonymous]

FUCK NO!

The second my kids were born, my wife became second in the list.
She can leave my world as long as she doesn't take my children, which is true of most men and why many females get bitter and angry and use the children as weapons during a split.
Women (generally) hate not being the priority at all times and when they know they have the power to take away the thing that is more important to you, they do it vindictively and without any remorse.

[Pocahontas2000]

My dad loves my mom more than us, even though that he loves us more than the world, more than the life and he’s the best kind of dad I could ever dream of. It makes me happy to know that.

What you describe makes me feel like you see your future wife as only child making machine. I am not trying to be rude, just I felt that way.

[Opinion Owner]

He loves her more than you, From your perspective.
I love my wife, but my life would go on without her. Without my children, I would be part of the ever growing statistics of male suicide.

My wife isn't "future" she is now, and she has had my two children.
My wife is the most amazing person I had ever met in my life, but my children are part of me.
I live and breath for my children.

[Cobra62849]

Sorry, but you sound like a terrible husband.

[Noah-z]

@Cobra62849 its an old post but why do you think so?

[Opinion Owner]

@Cobra62849 and you sound like a typical delusional female. The concept of the “ol’ ball and chain” wasn’t because men were happy in marriage. The joke “take my wife, please” was popular back in the older days because men knew how miserable marriage was.

I love my wife, I treat her like gold. Your assumptions are based solely on your need to believe that a husband should put you first. I never said I didn’t love my wife, I simply said my life would go on without her.

[weysally]

take a look at wildlife
the male protects his mate
the female protects their young the same mostly in humans

[LaBrownEyes]

I'd hope so. Happy wife means happy kids. Kids don't always have to come first nor should they.

[Cobra62849]

I think the spouse should come first, always. I couldn’t imagine wanting to stay in a relationship where I was second to the kids I helped make. That’s just sad. Plus, kids need to have an example of a solid, healthy relationship which their parents need to provide.

[QuietRunner]

I agree, the spouse relationship should be a priority

[Finchie40]

You should always make your partner your number 1 priority but it doesn't usually work out that way considering 1 usually loves the other more then they love them. When you dont make each other your number 1 priority then that's what causes relationships and marriages to crumble and you should really reconsider your relationship

[ChurchOfIron]

Mmmmmmmm. Possibly? My dad does, I think. Yeah, I think it might be true. But I also think it's true that mothers love their kids more than their husbands. Like, by a lot. Maybe they should love each other, but nature has its interests, too.

[abc3643]

In theory, yes. In real deep true love, the love for your significant other is more powerful than all other loves.

However, in a marriage where there is still love, but not with that ferocity, the kids get elevated in priority.

[eagle1951]

Well I'm going to say yes in a way. I knew my wife 6 years longer. and for 37 years before she passed away this feb. , But i''l also say it's not that I loved her more, it's just that i knew her longer.

[ChrisTruthseeker]

I loved my wife and child and would have died for them.
We're not together anymore and I can't love her the same, but I am a father for life and will always love my child.

[ShortCircuit]

I know I would, which is one of the many reasons I've chosen not to have children.

[Max_SS]

I think both men and women will tend to love their kids more

[Anonymous]

Nope. Why would I love my wife when she is a pussy lover. I only love my son. Because daughter means bloody bisexual. I have bisexual.

[EnocV]

Good question... I'm not married yet... But I'm not sure..

[reptocarl]

It’s a different kind of love for each

[Ankitasingh466]

They love their kids more and it's fair.

[Noah-z]

I don’t think so.

[Lance1965]

I think most dads love their kids more.

[Cobra62849]

That’s… really upsetting actually. Glad I won’t be having kids now

[meturmother]

I'd hope not

[AngelLily]

I hope not.

[DzDzhhh]

NAW.

[Jhon24]

Nope

[Anonymous]

Kids

[Anonymous]

No..