My high school bully added me on Facebook. Should I block him?

[TsundereMatrix]

I had this guy bully me since I was 14, maybe even earlier than that. He would brutally bully me into adulthood. Now I see him as someone I can’t trust and need to avoid.

He’s friends with my best guy friend from high school and so I refuse to go visit him when this bully is there.

This guy still calls me the names he called me in school, even as adults and used to physically attack me which took a big toll on my mental health. My friend keeps telling this guy has changed and he’s not the same guy from school but I don’t believe him. I still refuse to be around this guy.

Just now he added me on Facebook and I’m tempted to just block him. My parents still tell me to stay clear of him. I’ve met his cousins before who say he gives them a bad name because they share the same last name and I’m good friends with his ex girlfriend who also doesn’t like him anymore.

[Malikai96]

The fact that your best friend is friends with him is the most concerning part for me. Is he aware of the extent of the bullying that occurred? You're right to refuse to be around him, definitely block. No matter how much we want to believe that people can change, the chance that they actually will is slim to none. He would have to want to change, continuing to call you names wouldn't be indicative of that at all. Take the words of his cousins and ex girlfriend to heart, they probably have spent more time with him than your friend, if he isn't aware of what a jerk this dude is.

[EmbraceThePain]

You can if he’s changed and maybe one day you can tell him how you feel or felt about him all of those times he bullied you. He might responded in a honest and helpful manner. If you don’t want to do this, you can just ignore him and move on with your life. Perhaps the first option would bring you more closure? By getting your thoughts out there so he can hear them, and then you can move on. You don’t have to be friends with him, but maybe confronting him about what he’s done in the past can help you heal now and in the future.

[ZiZi_Bell]

I'd say do what you feel you need to in order to be happy. Block him if that'll give you peace of mind. I'd definitely say he lost the right to be friends with everyone.

[ILoveAnime]

Either block him or add him and make a move that will ruin all his social reputation (or the little that he still has)

[Udbhav_Bantwal]

You definitely should block him. It will only disappoint you more if you have contact with him cause people like that almost never change for the better and in your mind you'd be thinking, he tortured me maybe he wants to apologize or something like that but they never regret doing any of that and that will just make you more angry at him so if ever anyone encounters their childhood bullies, you don't have to let them have any place in your life, it's not running from your fear, it is just being smart and saving yourself from more anger and disappointment...

[whatamievendoing117]

... I'd block him. Think about it, he probably just wants to force himself on you. He's twisted already, why else would he? He's trying a press.. When I say this don't derange yourself, I expect you to understand what I mean and grit your teeth instead. Worry about worser potential, just for that bastard.

[PondyPand]

If you're uncomfortable, that should be all you need to know.

[Paris13]

Don't Trust Him. He may Ridicule and Be Rude and Crude ONLINE AT ANY TIME.
DECLINE ACCEPTANCE. xxoo

[Drumlin2001]

Accept his request. Then post a story on his board about how he made you feel as a teen, for all his friends, family and colleagues to see

[ChocolateCheesecake]

That's actually a dandy idea

[Drumlin2001]

Thank you, i have them occasionally

[ChocolateCheesecake]

Lmao

[lesleyl99]

If I were u I would definetly block the person, buillies are horrible people.

[TallAnon]

It probably won't make you too happy, so just cut em out of your life 😊😊

[sasukeuchiha7]

I'd probably block him. I'm not letting someone like that back into my life.

[legalboxers]

I hated people from HS, my bullies still bully me on the street when they see me, they still have the same mindset.

[LegateLanius]

I'd tell him to fuck off, then block him. You don't need an asshole like that in your life.

[Pinay_ako]

ignore his request and move on

[Giggletr0n]

Yeah sure if you still don't like the person

[kittyluv]

Block that idiot.

[OldSchool_Metalhead]

Block his ass

[jacquesvol]

Of course.

[Paris13]

Glad, bae, I took you back. lolxx

[jacquesvol]

@Paris13 I never knew you in HS, never bullied you, hun.

[Paris13]

Lol I wish you were My older Bro Out of School. xx

[jacquesvol]

@Paris13 you're so young!

[Nachowedgie]

Block him

[Nahid1707]

Yes 🤦‍♂️