Why is living with your parents considered pathetic? (Page 2)

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I've seen multiple people saying it's pathetic to live with your parents and they won't date someone who lives with their parents. I plan on living with my parents cause I want to take care of them. They raised me and made the person I am today so it's my duty and my wish to live with and take care of them. One lady actually told me she'd rather move out and then get her parents to move in with her instead not staying in their house? Why is this considered pathetic by people? What are your views?

xkforcesc2 · Answer

It isn't so much living with parents that is looked down upon, its being unable or unwilling to take care of yourself that is. Few would look down on someone that lives with their parents to take care of them in their old age.

Jager66 · Answer

I don't think there is anything inherently wrong with it. I think our current way of doing things leaves us disconnected, which is sad.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends at what age. Usually it means you’re not financially independent or are extremely immature/need mama to cook and clean for you because you’re unable to do it yourself and that is extremely unattractive. Also, (I am now single) I used to get on with my ex’s parents, but the moment he cheated on me and I got angry (I mean, he was more than obviously the one who had done something wrong) they took his defences against me pretty much like angry chickens trying to defend their little sweet chick. So... living with the parents of my partner? No thanks. Unless hey are 80, need care and I’ve been married with the guy for at least 20 years.

Anonymous · Answer

In Muslim communities they don’t allow their ‘child’ who’s probably 30 to live independently as they deem family important

Anonymous · Answer

Lol try afford rent in my country, most people dont have a choice until they take out a mortgage and buy their own house

pootytangg · Answer

Bitch in this economy? Shit if my parents were not so all up in my business I would have stayed longer. My parents are well enough to take care of themselves. However, when the time comes to take care of them I'll step up.

John959 · Answer

As long as the girl Is trying to do something with her life and not expect me to pay for all her expenses then I dont care where she lives so long as it's not her ex boyfriends house or a meth lab.

LuvAsh · Answer

If ur a grown adult and u don't have a job or snythingngoing for ur life and living off your parents if what I find pathetic. Ecspecially if you're disrespectful towards them🤦🏾

MrMilti · Answer

There is a difference between "living with your parents" and "your parents living with you".

The first is pathetic, because it means you have not accomplished anything for yourself so far and are still dependent of your parents.

ryryryan · Answer

If that's the reason they don't date u or spend time with u then I think they are really looking for a guy who's resources they can exploit so u shouldn't bother with them anyway if ur not interested in being a sugar daddy

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly what I think is that people don’t have at all their own opinions or view points. It’s always and only what society says so or thinks, more like a default mode for their minds.

And of course people will always find some way to put others down and make themselves superior for thinking that way

Anonymous · Answer

this stigma is without a doubt, without question, looks worse in men than it does in women, that is a fact, my guess is because historically, traditionally speaking, men are viewed as the provider/breadwinner

intjgamer · Answer

Conservative nature and traditional cultural value. People are told they need to flee the coop after they are old enough to start a family of their own.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

TBH you shouldn't care whst anyone else thinks. If that's what you want to do then do it. As for dating, i'm sure you'll find someone who understands and find it endearing

kat101 · Answer

If you're in college right now it's honestly normal. After you get older and graduate you might change your mind. After growing more independent you might think of moving out. That's just me honestly.

brittslitt · Answer

You need to learn how to live on your own instead of depending on your parents. you're 19 so your parents can't be that old. you need to develop as a person. I've seen a lot of comments to where you seem like you lack growth

DizzyDesii · Answer

I think when you're 25+ you need to move out. If they have a medical condition, maybe get them a stay at home nurse

DakotaNorth · Answer

My daughter lives with me and I have no problem with her boyfriend coming over.

DDpsy · Answer

It is a very North American cultural norm don't mind it too much in India.

princessfromjupiter · Answer

Because it indicates a high degree of dependence, emotionally, physically and most likely financially. It just really stops being cute to be incapable of looking after yourself at a certain age.

MusicMayhem · Answer

Cause girls will assume you have no job and can't support yourself. Also they don't want your parents to hear you banging or for them to bust into your room while she's giving you a bj cause parents are often nosy and always checking up on you.

themomo84 · Answer

I can't imagine living with my parent. I left home at 18 and enlisted in the US navy. I'm not judging your situation, we are all different. Take care

crazycakes08 · Answer

Because you should be in a financial situation where you can support yourself

TheSoundOfSilas · Answer

There are a few factors, but the biggest one is that it implies a low financial standing. Nobody wants to admit it, but everyone looks down on the poor even nowadays.

bklynbadboy1 · Answer

@DizzyDesii anytime ma! @htownmama I agree 25 is a late bloomer I moved out of my parents house at 18 joined the Marines and they paid for college for me so I totally agree with you

Lovethedove · Answer

Independent is amazing.  It’s so fulfilling to have your own space & develop as an adult.

stuntbrain · Answer

Living with your parents usually implies being reliant upon them

NellieCake · Answer

It shouldn't be if you respect everyone's space, privacy etc. and don't get on each other's nerves. Personally I left home in the fourth grade, long story.

SushiBenedict · Answer

Maybe just because the freedom but to live with them ( if they need someone to taking care of, why not? )

Anonymous · Answer

American values being imposed to the rest of the world cultures

krogaan · Answer

am 33 and i i live with my parents it's way too expensive to live alone yell need 3k a month minimum live in toronto

Anonymous · Answer

I started living on my own at 22, after college, before that I stayed in a dorm. So I don’t know, I can’t relate, but it’s annoying to go to friends places, and have their strict parents there.

000_000 · Answer

Side question, Is it bad to live with your parents if you’re trying to save up for a down payment on a starter home?

Anonymous · Answer

It's considered pathetic in the west. In Asia it's quite common and isn't seen weird

Anonymous · Answer

In order to have a relationship you need leave your parents because your partner will need all your attention

Gedaria · Answer

I think the picture says it all. He is old enough not to be there...

loveslongnails · Answer

Depends how old you are, or if you have a special situation.

mateynine · Answer

I've lived alone for the past year and I feel pretty pathetic.

Anonymous · Answer

It's pathetic because you will depend on free rent. I don't buy your rationalization that you want to 'take care of them'... you just want a free ride.

I will never date anyone who can't stand on their own two feet independently. Why you might ask? I'm not about to be their new financial provider. Someone who has never been able to provide for themselves isn't about to figure it out, they'll just look for the next person to leech off of.

Anonymous · Answer

You know how much more $$ I’d had if I could just live @ home? 😭😭😭😭😭😭

hoodiegirl · Answer

Depends on the situation

fulloflife · Answer

A sexy man pays his own bills

007kingifrit · Answer

its a cultural thing, in america its considered pathetic. what country are you from?

Anonymous · Answer

In my country living with your parents isn't pathetic it's actually normal

_yagurrll · Answer

Because people think if u live with them that ur not independent

Nuremberg45 · Answer

Depends on the situation

jessicarosen · Answer

People that think that are stupid.

MovieNerd1 · Answer

Because if you live without your parents  You are basically free

311WasAnInsideJam · Answer

Most fiscally responsible way to live, really

VIVANT · Answer

To create dutiful blind consumers.

Anonymous · Answer

ignore what others think

shadow_5 · Answer

Coz you don't get freedom

apple24 · Answer

i couldn't care less lol I love families.

JerryReed · Answer

I don't think it is.

_Harley_Quinn_ · Answer

Nope

Anonymous · Answer

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