Why is living with your parents such a turn off?

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ok, I live with my parents; learned how to cook, pay some of the house bills, take out the trash, got my drivers license, clean the drive way during snow storms (bought a snow blower with my dad and mom), have a part-time job, don't do drugs, work-out 2-3 times a week and I'm going to school. Along these lines I've heard from girls at work that a guy who doesn't have his own apartment is simply not attractive? How come wanting to save money and not having to struggle can be considered such a turn off?

thetundrawolf · Accepted Answer

It is because for many women, it shows a lack of desire to go out and make your mark on the world. Are you ignoring a desire to make it on your own? To own property for yourself? To work hard and achieve that goal? (It is possible)

To a woman that can be a red flag. What if you father a child with her? And you are still lacking the desire to perhaps work two jobs, to have a home, food in the fridge, and security for her, and you both? No woman wants that...

Then there is the issue of your parents. She has to juggle three social attributes now. Your personality, your fathers, and your mothers. What are they like? What do they really think? Does she really want them having an influence over your decisions, and over the rearing of any offspring?

Try to consider it from her perspective. Women like confident men. It shows initiative. Like you have things figured out. You are not afraid. Are these characteristics of someone who lives with their parents?

ThisAndThat · Accepted Answer

Because that's been taught in countries like the US. I'm extremely proud I lived with my parents and thankful too because I was able to take care of them in their last days. I wouldn't change that for the world and I miss them more than life itself.

TheoryOfAvarice · Accepted Answer

No, it's not a turn-off. I still live with my dad. Of course I'd like to move out when I get a good job and have enough money to support myself, but yeah, for now I'm saving and similar to you I help out around the house, can cook for myself and all that. If the guy is independent and capable and such, it's really not such a big deal for me if he still lives at home. It depends on the person, for some people this is a big issue, and other people just don't care as much. Just do what you gotta do. My boyfriend goes back and forth between living at an apartment and staying at home with his parents (who often need him around to support them with certain things)... the only thing that's ever frustrating is that when he doesn't have his own place it can be hard for us to find privacy / somewhere to have sex. We've tossed around the idea of getting an apartment together but unfortunately money is still an issue for the moment.

washize · Accepted Answer

Depends on the girl. For example, I've got my own place, and have been on my own since I was 18. So i find it a bit of a turn off if a guy doesn't have the same as me. But I'm dating so I don't have to worry about that.

However, most men and women DON'T HAVE A CHOICE but to live with their parents, as the economy is shit, and many young people don't have many prospects for jobs even with A HIGHER EDUCATION as many jobs get outsourced, or foreigners with more education are given the jobs at a lower play.

So its pretty unrealistic today to expect a 20-something to be living on their own. It sucks balls though, not being able to have a place to go to for sex. You either pay for a hotel or bang in your car in an alley somewhere. I can see how that'd be a turn off for anyone.

But don't sweat it. Just date women who live with their parents too.

Ildskf · Accepted Answer

It's not a turn off at all... to me at least. My BF lives at home and is in dental school in order to save money. I live at home too while I'm in grad school to save money. Although it's a hassle because we can't really be alone... we know that one day we will soon because
we are saving for our future.
If a girl can't understand this maybe she can't appreciate you... and it isn't worth your time anyway

dodger221 · Answer

It depends on how old you are when you are still living with your parents. Like 23 and living with your parents, but once you get older then that, it makes it seem like you are immature cause you still live with your parents. It just gives the impression that you can't or don't want to provide for yourself.
Its not just for guys though. I think women need to move out of the house around the same time as men

Hyped_up_on_coffee · Answer

I think its because some women expect a man to be a provider. The thing though is I don't really blame anyone for living at home if they are a college student because tuition is skyrocketing. On the down side you  can't  bring people to your place and bang them

cantfindmysocks · Answer

imagine this u take ur partner up to your room and start a heated makeoutbsession then all of the sudden ur mom walks in carrying some fresh folded towels saying whoops I will be out in a jiffy sets them on your bed and starts to leave and then reminds you oh by the way Hun u have a doctors appt Monday remember? an then leaves saying u kids have fun now... not very hot huh? yeah it partner might not find that to be a turn on moment

Anonymous · Answer

It's a turn off because it's awkward to date someone and spend time with someone when their parents are in the next room. You have to meet the parents earlier in the relationship if you ever want to go to their house or pick them up, that sucks too. It also screams immaturity and suggests the person is taking advantage of people rather than being an adult and supporting themselves.

blueberry92 · Answer

no it's not a turn off. girls just want a guy who can help her start a family. I don't know if that makes sense

ZEDA_X · Answer

its normal in many cultures to stay with your parents, help them as they age. some cultures equate being a prick with being an adult.

Why is living with your parents such a turn off?

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