Girlfriend’s friend is trying to invite herself on our vacation. Do I have a right to put my foot down? (Page 2)
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Be upfront. Tell her it's a trip for only and your girlfriend. That you want to spend alone tome with your girlfriend. It's your vacation that you planned for just the two of you and ask her to respect that.
Yes, and you should. You can apologize to her after if you want. Explain the situation to her and how you feel. She is not your daughter, you are not obligated to take care of her. It's not a package deal, if it was your girlfriend would have said something before you started dating her.
Definitely put your foot down, couple need to have time for themselves and as you mentioned before she has no qualms putting your girlfriend off if she’s dating someone and makes plans. She has no inherent right to be a part of your vacation and if you don’t wan’t her to come she needs to accept that decision
Persinally I would twll her it is 'just' for her and I the momwnt she said, "we'll". I have had zero problems telling girlfriends' friends "no" and feeling zero guilt i doing so. Don't allow her any say in your relationship becauae it will never stop. Definitely put your foot down but don't be a dick about it. Also, don't be wishy-washy about it either. Be direct, be concise, and convey,, "no".
Lol start talking to her friend like your assuming a threesome is going to happen.
It will either scare her off
Or you'll get a threesome
Lay the Law Down Here, Dear, with your Girl, Tell her To Talk Turkey to her Friend and Put this to an END. xxoo
Well your girlfriend should politely handle it but if she’s not comfortable with handling it and you and your girlfriend are on the same page then you should wait until it comes up then politely deal with it and yes it’s ok that you do that.
I don’t see what the big deal is. You just tell her politely the trip is for you and ur girlfriend.
Why do you have a girlfriend with no spine and weird friends?
Anyway, I guess you should be the one to be brutally honest with her friend but this is a gateway to a bad parent-child relationship if this dynamic continues.
I'm sure she will understand if you say you planned a couple's special. That problem can be tricky, but your girlfriend wants to go with you right? I had the opposite problem, her friend had basically no more friends apart from both of us so my girlfriend included her in every single thing. It's not a problem until it happens every single time
You planned this all for her. So yes you have the right to put your foot down
Dude, kick the bitch out. She doesn't have any business coming on your vacation with you. You gotta step up and say, "No bitch, go bitch, yooz a hoe bitch." Who gives a fuck about hurting her feelings? If I was paying for this vacation, I would drop kick her out so fast she think she was on WWE.
Yeah I was in a similar situation at 21 or very early 20s and it sucks. You really need to put your foot down and lay down the law before she and your girlfriend start taking advantage of you otherwise you'll end up breaking up with her if you don't and judging by this situation it might not be a bad thing if you did
If your girlfriend won't shut it down, you have to. Just explain your side. You want alone time. She doesn't like it, tough. Just watch for backlash. Keep records of what you're doing with location and recordings and shit so she can't lie to your girl and try to split you up. She smells dangerous.
Okay, so she's been good so far, to your friend and even you too. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned is said for a reason. Be careful nonetheless, when she's hurt by being left, it can easily go either way. Just be prepared, that's all.
Tell her no. Explain to her how you laid it out for us. This is a couples trip. If she found someone to be her partner (friend, romantic SO, whatever) then she could come along, but otherwise, not this time... Sorry, not sorry.
Wow... You're a better man than me... because I would take advantage of this situation! Lol. You hate this situation, but a lot of men out their would kill to be in your situation.
My girlfriend and I are kinky as hell... so this would be an ideal threesome situation.
You even said:
"I don’t want her to come because 1.) She’ll want to stay with us, and I don’t want to share a hotel room or AirBnB with her."
Even better. Have sex in front of her then. She'll get the message.
Still don't see this as a bad situation. Other people may disagree. Seriously though. If she wants to do everything with you guys and be around you guys 24/7, just fuck in the same room as her. She will either get the message or want to join.
Your girlfriends friend should understand that this is your vacation with your girlfriend. I don’t know why she wants to third wheel. Who knows, maybe she likes you!
You should speak to your girlfriend again about the situation and tell her that you want this special time for the both of you, no third wheeling. You guys can go somewhere else together another time.
It doesn't matter if she feels bad. If this is YOUR trip together then you need to put your foot down now. Set that frame today so tomorrow this shit doesn't keep happening.
As a couple, you need alone time on at least some vacations. There is nothing rude or unfair about saying this vacation, or that 'get away', is for us to recharge as a couple.
I say put you foot down and just straight up let her know she isn't going, the trip is only for you and your girl. If she has a problem with it, that sucks but it isn't your problem. Whatever you say make sure your girlfriend is there so she can't make up some BS to her.
Yes, honestly. I would go as far as you have to obligation to protect what would make you and your relationship happy. No one else will take care of your relationship.