I'm a chef and I host Christmas parties every year alongside my wife. We always invite our closest friends and our families. I always invite my best friends from college. Some of them are women and some of them are men but, my all-time best friends are two women. We've gotten through college together, they have been there for me and I have been there for them. I love them so much (in a platonic way). However, whiles my wife is cool with one, she isn't with the other. And that's one of the girls I'm closest to. In college, I actually had the biggest crush on her, but I didn't tell her because I was nervous and I didn't want our friendship to fade away. She was the only girl I had eyes for. I had a crush on her throughout college. We have everything in common and that's what made her my best friend. My wife doesn't like her for some reason though. Like this year, for her 29th birthday, my friend doesn't have family where I'm from because she is from a different state, I baked her a cake. My wife and I got into a huge argument. She said "Why are you always doing nice things for her, why huh? every time she needs you, you are always available!" I didn't argue back but insured that It was not what it was. I love my wife so much, I don't want her to think I'm cheating on her. Later on this evening, we were going over the Christmas invitation list just to ensure that we didn't miss anyone for the party on Saturday. As I was going over the list I called my friends name, My wife said "Why the hell are you inviting her?" I said "Baby she's my friend" and she continued calling her names and saying how she doesn't like her. I said, "Why do you have a problem with her anyways?" she thought I was defending her. I have never seen my wife react like this over any of my friends ever. she gave me an ultimatum that I either tell my friend she can't come or she's canceling the party. I don't want to hurt my wife's or my friends' feelings. What should I do?
Should I invite her or not?
