It sounds counter intuitive in a way lass but first throw away the notion that you will be to "noisy" ha yes sometimes this may come across as a little full on or whatever buut you will learn to read the situation better and what level works, it's hard but push down that intimidated feeling and start casual, I usually say or ask anything I feel like, even things that seem personal in a way I will tell or ask someone I've just met, try to keep a casual nature about it so you don't seem rude, even simple things like "been busy today?" If they say something like "not really, just got out of hospital" go ahead and say something akin to "oh shit, what was wrong?", Common sense says if they mentioned it then you can ask, if they don't want to share details again keep a casual tone and say it's fair enough and end with well hope things are going ok then maybe change the direction of conversation with a time you had been in hospital, the mix of being interested in personal matters backed up with openness about your own situation is very socially disarming, it makes others subconsciously aware that you are both invested in talking and sharing your own thoughts, i often ask about tattoos I like and what others they have, if I can have a close look, really anything can spark a conversation naturally even if it seems the wrong thing to stay, just stay polite.
This is getting rather long so I'll cut it there but if you want more specific advice just ask 😀
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There is nothing like practice. Be around people, watch how they interact, listen to how the start conversations or how they greet people. It takes time and practice. And as with everything, it will not always work or always go smoothly. But you can learn, and do just as good as anyone else. To some degree, just do it. To a degree, fake it until you make it. If you act more confident, you will be more confident. Again, don't except this to work just the way you want right off. It does take time and practice. But there is no time like the present, to start. Expect some "bruises" along the way, but that is normal for almost everyone.
Get over the feeling that people won't like you loud. I'm the loudest person in the group and the most loved. Make your move throw out some holes and witty banter. Get a feel for how they react and go from there it's a trial and error situation. So just get yourself out there getting your skills on point
Your an introvert. Extroverts enjoy the crowd. You don't. There is nothing to change. Love yourself. You will be sociable and outgoing with those whom you can learn to TRUST. Not random strangers. Trust your gut. There is a reason why your selective with people.
If it's not who you are, you can't and shouldn't try to force yourself. Staying quiet is fine. Everyone says you should talk or be worried about awkward silences, but don't worry about it. Often saying nothing is the best this to say.
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1. spend more time with people outdoor, like going out with friends, travel with groups
2. try to be as simple as you can, by keeping your words easy like you can start by saying ( hi, how are you? ) and the rest will come by itself.
being with people all the time will give you the chance to develop a way of speaking.U can actually force yourself being an extrovert but that means ure changing yourself.. so its okay if u dont feel like it, maybe after a while u’ll feel like needing new people and feeling more excited to meet new ones to part of ur life but just dont force it
First off be more confident in yourself, even if you have to fake it until you make it then it will become easy.
Also bring up topics that absolutely everyone can jump on. Such as musicBe a good listener and be inquisitive. The truth is most people are self involved. People's favorite subjects are themselves. Hit on something someone cares about, is passionate about and they'll talk your ear off. And odds are they'll like you for this reason.
Here's the catch. It has to be genuine. You can't fake otherwise you're just a manipulative person.Have the same issue. For me alcohol used to make it work, but now even that doesn't help. Honestly only way I'm relaxed right now is if you place me on music. I was DJing in few parties we had and then I'm totally relaxed and enjoying the party. Either that or awkward standing in silence. You could try to find your way to relax. There must be something :)
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Ask them how their bum is for love bites, that will break the ice.
Ask them about themselves. Keep them talking about then and what they like untill you find something you connect with and thats your in. While the person is talking about themselves or they likes it also gives you a chance of who they are
force yourself for a month to go on social outing a few times a week. Practice and exposure will help. You might never be a natural but you can develop yourself to be socially comfortable
Choose the right people to go out with
It’s ok to not like 99% of population and like just 1% as long as u r on the same lineLol you lowkey have to be fake til u forget your being fake and that just becomes who you are.
How you feel is normal. Just keep practicing
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