When would you cut off/distance yourself from your sibling?

[Anonymous]

My older sister never seems to be happy for me when something good happens in my life and she gets low key jealous when people around us start complimenting me about anything from looks, career or love interests.
People have approached me to ask me why does my sister hate me so much. These people are neighbors, church members and family friends. She pretends that she is such a great sister to me in front of my brothers and our parents so they can continue to laud what a wonderful sister she is to her younger siblings.
Some of things she has done were: Ruin my babyshower by using it as a rivalry with her ex bestfriend. By the time that shower ended, my family was divided and my aunt and my cousins didn't speak to us for over 5 years. She lied to everyone including my niece at her sweet 16 saying that she didn't know where I was when all along I was waiting for the ride she promised she'd send for me. My niece balled her eyes out the entire night thinking I flacked on her.
There's so much more but it would be way too long to write down. She's toxic and brings me nothing but negativity and stress to my home. She offers no support whatsoever and it feels like she only wants to sabotage me any chance she gets. She has told me to my face that I am not her sister 3x. When I tell my parents what she does, they say that I am acting this way because of my husband and they accuse me of being boy crazy for putting him first before family. This infuriates me! She's toxic! I feel its time to cut her out of my life. Ain't no way in hell would I have let her stick around this long if she was a friend and not my sister. Am I wrong if I do? Would you so the same? I feel like if I keep her around she's gonna betray me so bad that I may flip out on her.

Would you cut your sister out your life

Would you continue to tolerate because she is family

[Emerald5]

You can still continue to accept her as your sister. Just try to keep your distance from her as much as possible so that you don't get the stress and pressure and so that life can be more pleasing as often as possible.
Now, here is the tricky part which is what might help you. It appears that your sister likes to disturb you and make you unhappy because it seems like she likes to see you that way. This makes you have the impression that she has a toxic personality.
Watch the Youtube video "hooponopono meditation" made by "Aaron Doughty" which explains what it is, how it works and try it out. It may not sound like something normal but I have used it once on a simple non-family relationship and it seems to be effective.
I wish you positive success in correcting your family relationships.

[cheapshotbob]

i kind of did but i got a niece and nephew so i got to show them im better than her so i allow some things even though i could easily walk away if it was not fr her kids. i raised them pretty much and anyone who has raised kids knows you can't walk away when you have raised them...

[DailyIntrovert]

I don't think it's wrong to cut her out at all. Just because someone shares your blood it doesn't give them privilege to disturb your peace in any way. I stopped talking to my brother almost 2 years ago and have felt so much better since doing so. He's always been an oppressive figure in my life and since I was cutting out toxic friends I reevaluated our sibling relationship and what I would do if we didn't have one and ended up cutting him out my life too. I don't regret it one bit.

[christinana13]

Just because they are family does not mean you have to put up with their toxic bullshit. Blood is NOT always thicker! I had to cut my sister off 3 years ago. I still love her, pray she gets herself together at last, and can succeed, but i can do this from afar. I had had enough.

[HoratioCaine]

blood isn't always thicker than water. do what you have to do

[masonlandry]

Anybody that caused me purely negative feelings, I would cut out. No matter what their relation to me. Why in the world would I be around anyone who I gained nothing from and was always brought down by? I don't tolerate being treated poorly and I certainly don't reward it.

[ohshee]

I feel you its so draining i look at it this way if she's trying to push ur buttons ,, she's doing it ,, and i know its becausel ,, u have enough,, but just to keep the peace between everyone u can't beat her up lol i recommendstay away from her and remember if she is trying to fuck up ur world dont give in to her by letting her see ur pissed upset angry ,, because if you dont give here thoses then she's not going to be happy and she will mess up so how some way

[ShineDJJ]

There's nothing wrong with cutting off a toxic person. Doesn't matter what their relationship is to you. No one should have to be miserable just because of blood relations. I also think that you should reevaluate your relationships with relatives who choose to not listen to you since they are basically enablers at this point. If anyone I was related to was a terrible person, I would have removed them from my life years ago and not cared who pitched a fit about it.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

Family is a privilege, not a right. Your sister should lose that privilege if she doesn't treat you proper. My mum cut off my aunt after she lost that privilege through things she said and did.

[Karl1982]

Toxic relationships come in all forms... Family or not. I would cut her out. Personally I have 7 sisters and 3 brothers and I have cut out over half of them after my father passed (9 years ago). No need for that negativity in your life.

[yourfavperson]

I've cut my sister off believe me u dont realise how blissful my life has been since. Omg do it💕💕💕

[yourfavperson]

I wish i knew earlier that this isn't normal

[nerms123]

Cut her out. You’ll be so much happier