I don’t know if my friends like me?

[Annyyy]

I have a friend group with three other girls. two of them I have known for quite some time but the third of I have only known for three years. At first when we used to hang out, it was chill and there was no problems. But ever since school started this year, I have felt as though they don’t care about me no more. They always hang out just the three of them, they even have a group chat which I’m not in. Even when I’m around them, they talk about how close the three of them are and they tell each other secrets that I never find out about. Ex: one of the girls was talking to this guy and she told the two other friends about him and I only found out when we were hanging out one time. She didn’t even say it to me, she pretended that I knew even though she never said anything. I know this doesn’t dem like a big deal but that was just one time. They always talk about how it’s just the three of them and as if I’m not there. I think the reason why this hurts me so bad is because I thought we were really close but apparently I am not that important to them. They always post when they hang out on social media. And when I do hang out with them it’s usually because I invited myself and after we hang out I have this bitter taste in my mouth everytime because it seems that they wouldn’t really care if am there or not, as if I’m invincible. This year is my last year in high school and I am not a confrontational person and I don’t like drama so what should I do. If I have to be honest, I only really like one of the girls because she is the only one that seems to put in some effort and we actually can talk without it being awkward , but it would be weird if I am only hanging out with her and not the two other girls. I would really appreciate some answers.

[JustSomeGuy11]

I've been there and I think it's better that you move on to a new friend group, which unfortunately is easier said than done. They've collectively shunned you for whatever reason and now see you as a 'fourth wheel'.
I think it'll be fine hanging out with the girl that puts in effort as it seems like it's the other two girls are leading the shunning. However, I will say she might just be doing it to chat shit behind your back to the others, making the other two shun you even more.
School can change people over time especially when it comes to the people you hang out with.

Move on, it'll be better for you in the long run. There's no point putting effort in those that will shun you and not reciprocate.

[Annyyy]

Yeah that is what I thought as well. I have another group of friends and I don’t feel this way with even though I have only started to hang out more this year.

[Sir_Flerrin]

So, this is just a quick and simple piece of advice.

Keep the QA's simple there is no need to go on a tangent like this and explain what color that fly had that was resting on that womans shoulder in the third floor of that office building downtown right next to that old diner nobody goes to but still everbody swears on their grandparents that it's great and just perfect just to say that Bill invited you to his house? Like what.. ...

Forgive my little rant here its nothing personal. Anyway, it's simple really.

What is a friend to you, what are they supposed to do or not?
Make a list and compare your friend's traits and habits with that list.
Done.

I hope I was helpful. :3

[Annyyy]

I’ll keep that in mind for next time. This is my first question I have posted so I thought I had to describe what’s going so people can get the whole picture, well at least my side of things. But thanks for the advice☺️

[Sir_Flerrin]

It's important to give context don't get me wrong it's really just practice that differentiates a well balanced QA from just too much.

No worries, I love to help anytime.

[midhun12]

Well that depends on how close u guys r.. if they r ur besties then don't worry about it cuz this happens to me the same way, i become invisible to them when we hangout but when i try helping them wit their relationship problems they only see me😁, try asking them about their personal issues that u can solve so later they would always be dependent on u.

[Annyyy]

I would consider them my besties but I don’t know if they feel the same way so that is where the problem is. Last year I had a small problem with two of the girls and when I brought it up, they made it sound as if it was my fault so I don't know if I should even bother saying anything to them

[midhun12]

Well if that's the case try hanging out with them as much as u can, help them in their relationship problems nd as i mentioned earlier try solving their personal issues nd cheer them up. Observe if they start calling u to go out or buy u some food or something.. if that happens then they do care about u but to know how deep i must know every exact detail ( i ain't mentalist but TF these things r just a piece of cake to me)✌ good luck

[Annyyy]

Honestly i don’t think i will be so close with them because it just seems that they come to me when the other ones are there and they lowkey rub it in my face how close they are. Especially one of them. She always talks like I don't know what’s going on and it infuriates me so much but I don’t care to show it cause there’s only six months left of this school year

[midhun12]

Lemme guess is it that new girl's butt u wanna kick cuz she's the reason this happened? As much as what u explained i felt like ur the one who's too close wit them nd they aren't, well i guess it's good to show a bit of ur attitude towards them making them realise their presence without u, nd if they r still not bothered about u don't worry maybe they don't find something in u (like being crazy, bold and pathetically stupid is what we boys seek in our friends), don't take it too seriously as they aren't the only friends u got right.. but always remember this make true friends not just best friends.✌

[Iron_Man]

You don't need fair weather friends

[Annyyy]

Hahahahah yeah I don’t want that at all

[Avicenna]

They don't sound like real friends.