If your partner decides to punish your kid with physical pain, would you agree with it?

[Anonymous]

I personally would kick his testicles, if he tries to hit or spank my kid. Nobody can touch my kid like that. I am not going to carry a kid for 9 months and suffer from childbirth for many hours so that my kid get hit/spanked or whatever by the dad.

I would not allow my partner to hit/spank my kid.

I would leave my partner, if he/she even tries to hit or spank my kid.

I dont mind it if he/she hits/spanks my kid for punischment

Indifferent

Other

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+1 y

I also think that people who need to physical punish their kids are lazy and incompetent. There are many other punishments. I mean adults dont get spanked or hit for doing something wrong, why should a kid get spanked?

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+1 y

I also would allow him to hit me, if I ever dare to hit our future potential kids. I ask this question because I noticed that many gag users or many americans think it is ok to hit kids which shocked me. It is illegal to hit your kid here by the way. Is hitting/spanking your kid legal in america?

[Stephanielongoria]

I don't care what was the reason. I would never allowed someone beating my kids. there's other ways like taking away electronic devices. Or no tv for a week. Only parents know the wifi password. I was abusive by my parents as a child. I don't wishe it on anyone. My mom would have her mental break downs she would just barged into my room for no reason and start hitting me with whatever. So no hitting is not the way for discipline. I had to go to theraphy sessions it couses so much damege to the child.

[Danalikes89]

There is a major difference between a loving disciple and a beating.

[Stephanielongoria]

@Danalikes89 Counselors from my school tought me that violence gets you no where. I believe kids are smart like my neice she is 6 years old. Once my sister tells her to stop running she stops , She knows better if she misbehaves that means no tablet for a week. In fact my sister she is about your age she is 32 .

[Stephanielongoria]

@Danalikes89 We got beating with belt , hanger , 🎾 pots.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

@Danalikes89 I agree with you.

[Stephanielongoria]

@ThisIsMyOpinion It doesn't matter what you want to call it. Abuse is abuse it's not fair on the poor kids.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

It is not abuse. Far from it.
What do you think it involves?

[CapricornHoney]

I absolutely would not agree with that. Physical abuse is not how you get anyone behave. I wouldn’t physically abuse my partner if he did want to do that in retaliation though. It’s sort of hypocritical 😂

[Asker]

I turn into an overprotective bitch when it comes to my potential kids haha

[CapricornHoney]

Understandable 😂

[CapricornHoney]

Thanks for MHO!

[jgokgotit]

The dad (biological, not step) has every right to discipline like the mother does. He has equal responsibility to raise the kid. So the argument of the mother deciding the method of discipline due to carrying the child for 9 months is invalid. In the case of a scenario where one parent has custody and the other visitation, the custodial parent has the responsibility of disciplining the child. The style of discipline has to be decided and agreed upon by both parents or else the child will feel like one parent has more authority than the other parent, which will lead the child to disrespecting one parent and running to the other. To answer the question of whether or not I would agree if my partner decides to punish my child with physical pain, it depends on the situation. I am a firm believer in physical pain punishment if the child's action could harm them physically. For example, I would spank a child who runs in the road, plays with fire, fights or something similar because I am teaching them that physical pain comes with that action. I would hope that they associate the physical pain with their action so they do not hurt themselves worse. If their action has consequences other than physical then physical pain would not be appropriate. And spanking a child is legal in the US as long as excessive or permanent harm is not caused. For example, it is ok to lightly smack a child's hands, but using force that could injure them is illegal.

[lightbulb27]

I've had GF's with kids, and seen relationships like this.

My answer is no for most cases, that the birth parent should be disciplining and the "bolt on" parent provides support.

Don't forget about the "love" and positive reinforcement aspect.

Add another dimension of the birth father being involved, shared custody with a possible bolt on woman for the birth father and you can see how kids become scrambled eggs mentally. They just need to understand right/wrong, their place, love and support and guidance. An inconsistent, or out of kilter framework, or abusive scenario creates havoc in their development. That's not professional, that's by observation.

If you and new guy aren't on same page, then you need counseling. As well, I think all parents should get some education about what you are facing and how important it is. The parenting job now is far more difficult and dangerous, moreso than when kids used to wander around in the woods with bears and tigers. They are still out there... in the form of human and they are much much worse. Thus.. you want to be the trusted sources with open communication.

Good luck to you, the rest of us are counting on you to not screw this up:)

[Danalikes89]

People need to understand the difference between loving disciple and abuse. Spanking is not abuse beating a child is abuse. The law states this clearly. If you leave marks and bruises on the skin its abuse. A red ass is a sign of a job well done thats not black and blue. Spanking in America is not illegal but abuse is. I have been told this by DFS many times because i have been reported for child abuse 9 times for spanking my kids. Do you know how many times the claim was found to be false by DFS even with my admission to hitting the child? All nine times its my right by law to discipline my child how i see fit. I was spanked as a child my 8 siblings were to and we are not messed up by it and we all spank our kids. Its funny how in public we only have to tell our children to do something once and the kids know if they dont listen whats next. The kids who cuss, talk back, dont listen, abuse thier parents. They all know mom will tell them 20 times to stop before time out. I have seen it thousands of times. Physical punishment works, Kids need it. If you have emotional trauma from spanking as a child. That was not a loving spanking it was abuse big difference. For as the argument about adults dont get hit for doing wrong. Tell that to the millions around the world who get beat with a cain. Many countries still use caining as a form of punishment for adults just not here in America. We should have it here it would help our out of control population. The fact of the matter spankings not beating works no one can deny that. Does other forms work sure they do but its up to the parents. But go to a mall and you will see who spanks and who dont, just saying.

[Meropatrick]

I really never raised a kid so i dont know what to expect. But some kids on the street i see deserve spanking. Now i would try to find alternative ways to discipline a child (no playstation for three days, no buying a new bicycle if they are acting bad) these things actually work. I remember when i was young my mother used to teach me the alphabet and I wouldn’t understand it so she used to beat me until i feel flames under my skin. I would go to bed wishing i am dead. And have nightmares. Even believe my mom is the devil. It got so bad that i asked her that i will study on my own. So some parents can abuse that. And punish a kid when they don’t deserve it . Punishing a kid for being slow learners doesn't do any good. I believe only the kid should be physically disciplined if they did something really serious. But also if your kid is good and can be talked into things give it a try. As there are genuinely good kids out there. And some really bad nasty ones to. Spare the spanking for those

[PrimalInstinct]

People who turn to physical punish are lazy, incompetent, ignorant or stupid. Take your pick. They all apply.

There is ***NO NEED*** for physical punishment if one lays down ground rules & enforces them.
But as an example - the child has household chores (e. g. taking the garbage out). They refuse to do it. OK. That child can't play on the computer, cell phone or video games until those chores are done.

It is literally that simple. It's not hard. I'm one of 3. People have complimented my parents on how well behaved we were since I was 6. Never got hit. Once.

Physical punishment simply teaches a child that when someone doesn't "obey" you it's perfectly okay to beat the shit out of them. Why do you think bullies often come from troubled households? Because they learn their charming (reality > disrespectful, nasty, ignorant, etc.) behaviour from mommy & daddy dearest.

[Stephanielongoria]

You deserve best mom of the year. I am glad good parents like you exist you are doing great.

[PrimalInstinct]

@kim45456 - with regards to your 2nd update. Physical punishment is legal in the US. It's more often than not used though by the same (dimwitted, stupid, ignorant, poorly-educated) caliber of Americans who thought the coronavirus was related to the corona beer (38% thought that about the beer btw).

As basic as a comparison this may seem. Beating a dog because someone is too stupid, lazy or ignorant to train it properly doesn't do any good. If anything the dog either becomes overly defensive/nervous/shy or overly aggressive & may just adopt a strike-first-before-they-hit-me response.
A child who is physically punished is the same. Overly defensive or overly aggressive. They often end up screwed up to some degree. It's why almost every medical & social professional says it's wrong.

[Gedaria]

My first wife and I nearly came to blows over this. One of the daughters had done something but no one was going to own up to it so she was ready to chastise all of them. Only thing was she had to deal with me first. I told her no way but she was determined to go ahead. I was angry I picked her up by her arms just under her shoulders , and moved her out of the way so the girls could get out of the way of her. She kicked me and I told her to pack it in or things could get bad, if things weren't bad enough.
Thank fully she saw sense.
I didn't realise how hard I had grabbed her , a couple of days I noticed that she had bruises in the area I had grabbed on her..

[Gedaria]

I found the naughty step incredible, being excluded to the dreaded step was hated. I think a slap on the leg with them would have been easier. but that step worked wonders...

[Stephanielongoria]

Hurting an inocent child you don't deserve to be a parent.

[Gedaria]

@Stephanielongoria I wouldn't say sitting on the naughty step as hurting her...

[mattmanyah2]

Spankings are leagal in Texas and I'm pretty sure every state but don't quote me on that. I spank with my hand not with a paddle. Before they are spanked they admit to what they did wrong if they don't timeouts and groundings are added on to the punishment. After the spankings when they are calming down I tell them why what they are doing is unacceptable and we go over ways to correct the behavior... I do agree that just spanking is a terrible punishment if you don't explain good and bad behavior over you will not see it...

[theRen]

There's a rather thin line between discipline and physical abuse. Things like this always depend of the situation at hand, which is why its hard to form a solid stance when we speak in hypotheticals. I still recognize the benefits of proper physical discipline of course, but from my own childhood experience the line between abuse and punishment was so blurred that I honestly don't know if I could ever do things like that to my own child in the future. I don't want to become what my own father is to me now, to my future child y'know.

[alice55]

If I find out he slapped my kids I would hit him with baseball bat. I've been used as a punching ball when I was a kid by my mother and it's horrible (not feeling safe around the person who's supposed to love you the most and protect you is one of the worse feelings). So i definitely don't want my kid to ever feel this.
Or maybe I won't do him anything and just call the cops on him.
But I will definitely dump the dude.

[Apple1996]

I spank my kids so no I dont care if my husband does it unless he's doing it just to be mean. And or to my older son because he doesn't learn from spanking so I use different punishment styles with him compared to my younger son that litterally only learns from spanking.
I use to disagree with spanking until I had kids and realized that is just how some kids learn

[Stephanielongoria]

Kids having kids you are way to young to he a mother. Yoy are not mentally ready to be a mom. If you think beating your kids is the answer. This is why people wait to have kids until they're at least 30 years old. You are 23 and aleedy had two kids! What can I say a kid raising a kid.

[Apple1996]

@Stephanielongoria I'm definitely not a kid lol. Age does not make good a parent, I've seen so many more shitty 40 year old parents then I see shitty young parents. I don't think me rarely spanking my kids has any long term effects on them. I'm gonna keep parenting them the way I do cuz thats what works for them. Every child is different. Some need spanked, other dont. You can't sit here and say that we all learn the same because that would be false

[Stephanielongoria]

You are still a child yourself. My aunt she is 43 years old she has a beautiful 4 month old baby and she is an amazing mother. Shebis mentally and financially ready to be a mom.

[Stephanielongoria]

Kids raising kids.

[Apple1996]

@Stephanielongoria your old aunts child will probably have some future issue. My mother in law accidentally had a baby at 40 and he has some learning issues that stemed from her having him so old. She also had a kids in her teens and said having one older is soo much more difficult. Like I was litterally raising their baby and my baby at the same time cuz she couldnt take care of him

[Apple1996]

@Stephanielongoria by the way I'm completely mentally and financially stable to raise my kids. I'm a stay at home mom, I devoted my whole life to raising them. My husband works and we have more then enough money for my kids. They are extremely spoiled, so much so that I have to watch myself sometimes cuz they are becoming too privileged

[Stephanielongoria]

How old is your mother in law? I belive she is mature enough to handle a big responsibility with a baby.

[Apple1996]

@Stephanielongoria she is in her 40s and no she can't watch him because she blew her back out from being pregnant and giving birth. My baby brother in law is now 7 and since I moved out he takes care of himself. Like walks to school, makes his own lunches and dinners. Tbh its really sad, he deserves parents that do fun stuff with him but that doesn't happen when the parents are old

[leonidas69]

You say it's your kid. Is it not your partners kid too? If I had a child I would punish them however I felt fit trying to avoid being a hot head as always. If the mother tried to tell me I couldn't punish my child how I felt fit I would question her.

I think too many children have gone without punishments of any kind. I've seen 5 year olds swear at their parents, threatening them and had no repercussions.

[Stephanielongoria]

We can't judge some kids have ADHD they can get out of control. People point fingers at the parents and say they are doing a bad job at parenting. My aunt had 3 kids only one of them got out of control spanking made it worst. My other two cousin's would know right away when my aunt meant stop. But my other cousin my aunt would tell him look at me when I'm talking he would grab an object and entertain himself while someone talk to him. Also he wouldn't sit still my aunt kept hitting him assuming he was a bad kid. Finally a teacher convince her to get professinal health for her child. My cousin was diagnosed with ADHD. He has to take special medication other wise he can get out of control.

[leonidas69]

That doesn't interact with my comment at all. It's like you're talking to yourself.

[Asker]

No, i am against physical abuse or punishment

[Asker]

I dont have a problem if he punish them without physical abuse

[Stephanielongoria]

Well according to your comment you witness 5 year old kids swearing and threatening at the parent. My point is some kids may have ADD/ADHD without even noticed. The behavior of the child you had just discribe it's not normal behavior. Children with ADHA can drive any one nuts. My point here is we don't know for sure why the parent won't discipline the child we don't know for sure if that child could possibly have ADHD only the parent would know how to handle the they're child's behavior.

[leonidas69]

Abuse and punishment are different and definitely not synonymous. I said I've seen children go without any repercussions. Without any punishment at all. I don't care if a child had mental health issues. That's irrelevant to weather or not they should be punished.

[Stephanielongoria]

Do you have children?

[leonidas69]

Also irrelevant.

[Stephanielongoria]

Look you get upset all you want. I am just sharing my point. How isnit irrelevant you clearly said you don't carebif the child has ADHD but yet you are claim that the parent let's the child act in a certain way. I am working on earning my degree in Psychology. That's how I am inform.

[Stephanielongoria]

Look I'm not here to aurgue just trying to prove my point

[leonidas69]

1. I don't know what gave you the impression I am upset, lol.

2. I don't care if the child has any mental health issues because it's irrelevant to weather or not they should be punished.

3. You seem like you are here to argue, lol.

4. Good luck with your degree. Based on our conversation sofar, I believe you'll need it.

[Stephanielongoria]

I am not upset lol you just jump to conclusion.

[leonidas69]

😂 I never assumed you were; infact it's the other way around. Hell, you can even re-read it, the proof is just above.

You're in your own fucking world. Off your head or something. I take back the good luck because I think you'd be a terrible psychologist.

[Asker]

It is abuse if you hit them, period

[Stephanielongoria]

Wow this 20 year old girl acts way more matter then you. She is right abuse is abuse it doesn't matter.

[leonidas69]

"Matter then" me? I'm going to assume you meant smarter* and than*, lol.

If you look at the definition of abuse then I can see your confusion, or even point of view. But the definition of punishment brings the perspective that is necessary in this discussion for you to differentiate between punishment and abuse.

Is it abuse if the police officer give out a fine for possessing drugs? No. It's a punishment.

[Asker]

It is illegal to spank, hit or other physical force on the kid here anyway. There are better punishments than physical abuse

[Stephanielongoria]

Girl just ignore him he is just a douchie guy

[leonidas69]

First of all I'll point out that I never said physical punishment was the first or foremost punishment.

Secondly I'll point out that you said "illegal here" knowing that wherever you are might have different laws than other places regarding physically punishing your children.

[Stephanielongoria]

You are not a lawyer , you are not a social worker. If you were you be awear that spanking hitting whatever is abuse you shit head!

[leonidas69]

Ignorance really must be bliss for you.

You don't know what I do for work.

More identifying marks for your intelligence level is present in your last message but I won't call you names for it this time. It's frustrating trying to get you to understand. I can only explain it so many different ways. I can't understand it for you. I hope that should your relationship fail, you allow the baby daddy to take the kid.

[Stephanielongoria]

Wow you will most likely end up being a cat hoarder unmarride 40 year old man. Now girl in her right mind will date you jack ass.

[leonidas69]

I'd rather end up 40 and single than 40 divorced with a child. As for the prediction, it's obvious you don't know me.

[Asker]

"You say it's your kid. Is it not your partners kid too? If I had a child I would punish them however I felt fit trying to avoid being a hot head as always. If the mother tried to tell me I couldn't punish my child how I felt fit I would question her. " this is irrelevant to my question. The question was not about forbiding your partner to punish your kid. The question was whether you are ok if your partner punish your Kid with PHYSICAL PAIN or not. There is a huge difference.

[leonidas69]

Kim you didn't use a single question mark in any of your comments. I feel like it is and should be directed at Steph. Whatever your question is; can you ask it in question form to the person it's addressed to?

[Stephanielongoria]

I hope you never have children. I dought that you don't know me at all. You are just talking shit. Ignorance lol please let me laugh. Go asked a social worker you will see what answer she will give you. I hope you never have children. You are frustrated becuase I can peove my point. Now why do you care if I end up divorced what are you now a fortune teller?

[leonidas69]

Reading your poor excuse for English is so cringy. I don't care if you end up divorced. I care if idiots end up sole provider for children they shouldn't have had. It's not fair on the kids.

[Stephanielongoria]

Yoy are one of them on the list since you belie3 beating your future kid it's okay. I hope you never have children. Talj about poor English I'm from spain I can speak French , Italian. I bet English is your only language you know.

[leonidas69]

Then I'm sure you could have asked this dumb question in your language. My ability to speak any extra languages is irrelevant. You're really good at trying to use irrelevant points to dedend your opinions. If you refer back to my original comment: I was trying to express the fact that parenting should be a team effort; and that your attitude was more detrimental than simply physically punishing a child. Comparing your comments about it being your child but not your partners aswell will probably lead to a broken family. A broken family will impact a child a lot more than a smack on the ass on the rare occasion the child isn't responding to other punishments.

[Asker]

@leonidas69 i am just curious. Are you ok with spanking/hitting kids for punischment

[leonidas69]

Why do you feel you need to clarify this? Yes, I think spanking/hitting your kids is a viable form of punishment.

[Asker]

Why can't you punish your kids without physical pain? Does not that make lazy?

[leonidas69]

I never said physical punishments were the only punishments. I'm also pretty sure I mentioned it is not the first or foremost punishment. Where you got the idea that I'm lazy from is impossible for me to comprehend. You have got to be reading between the lines or something. Neither of you have communicated with understanding.

Communication is ways. Then between 2 people there are 4 problems, sending information and recieving information for both parties. I don't have a problem receiving your information even when you miss words or structure your sentence poorly. Therefore, your ability to send information is also adequate (at best). When I send information back to you I know it's adequate because I shared it with a friend who had a laugh and agreed with me. So that's not the problem. Leaving 1 possibility remaining thanks to the process of elimination.

I really cbf with this anymore.

Bye.

[Asker]

I also never say that you did not say that physical punishments had been the only ones. So you are literally ok with physical punishments because you are too lazy to practice other non pshysical punishments which need you more energy. By hitting your kid you achieve an immediate and temporary sucess than other effective non physical punishments. If you are too lazy, dont make kids. So simple. You also dont hit adults. So who are you to think that you can hit your kid?

[Asker]

You just prove my point

[leonidas69]

You bet your fucking ass I'd hit an adult if nothing else worked.

[Asker]

Ohh now i see how stupid you are. You are not allowed to hit someone if an adult does not hit you. You only can defend yourself or hit back the same way. I mean I also want to kill stupid people like you if nothing else work. But that is not how it works. Everyone has rights. If someone does something unfair to you, you go to police and hurt this adult the same way he/she hurts you.

[Asker]

Only weak people hit kids.

[Asker]

I am done with fucking idiots piece of shits like you. I dont have emphaty with potential child abuser like you. So bye

[simplelikeme]

If anyone puts their hands on my kids they will find my foot up their ass LOL there is no reason to be hitting anyone let alone my kids. There are better ways to deal with things other than hitting. And if I had a partner and she went to hit my kids, I would grab her and throw her out my front door along with her stuff. I will not put up with that.

[Anonymous]

You are doing your children a disservice by your position. Children need discipline, and sparing the lash only pushes the problem down the road. Other punishments are weak and will not suffice. A well disciplined child will only need corporeal punishment a handful of times before they learn to obey.

[Asker]

I would rather lock them in an empty room than hitting them. I also would allow my partner to hit me if I ever dare to hit my or our kids

[R3DthatDude]

Heck no, they haven’t earned the right, and even then they got to talk to me first. 7 years minimum in my kids life And then I got to take them through a personally taught class on what not to do. And then the 1st year they got to come to me and ask and then I might maybe possibly allow them to punish my kid

[R3DthatDude]

Until then I will be doing the laying on of hands

[Bman4907]

I'm a firm believer that you are going to get walked all over by your kids later in life if you continue to think that way. However, my dad used to smack the crap out of me for minor infractions growing up all the time. I don't believe in the tanning of the hides til they can't sit or even using a belt as a tool, but some kids need the slap on the wrist or a spanking sometimes.

[MackToday]

Most child abuse and child homicide is committed by women.
http://www.breakingthescience.org/SimplifiedDataFromDHHS.php

[Asker]

So what is your point?

[MackToday]

You're partner isn't as likely to beat a child as you yourself by statistics.

[Asker]

But I have heard spanking is legal in us?

[MackToday]

As far as I know.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

Sometimes a few spanks are good for the child education. So yes if my son or daughter needs some disciplining I will do it. And I expect my wife to be on my side.

[Stephanielongoria]

I would call child services on you

[Stephanielongoria]

I hope ypu never have children disgustin jack ass

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

@Stephanielongoria I actually will next year. Me and my wife already made our plans for it.
It's one of my dreams to be a father.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

@Stephanielongoria do you think I am going to beat the crap out of them? Never! It always be something very light.

[Stephanielongoria]

Really my gosh you are way to young to have children.

[Stephanielongoria]

You need to wait at least 6 more years to have kids why the rush! Do you even have a career to financially support a baby? Think again now a days people have kids 35 years old and over.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

@Stephanielongoria I want to be his father not his grandfather. I will be almost 30 next year. I don't care what others are doing today. This is what me and my wife want.
And yes I have a career to do support a child.

[Stephanielongoria]

I don't understand , Why are you rushing to have kids. No my aunt sge is 43 years old and she just had a beautiful baby girl. She is a lawyer and her husband he is a doctor. You need to wait. You are wrong grandfather would be a 60 year old not 35 year old. Some people start having kids at 37. Don't you have bigger projects goals to acomplish other then having lids so young? Still it doesn't matter 30 is way to young to have kids. The perfect age to start habing kids is at 35 years old and over.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

@Stephanielongoria I don't think I am rushing at all I will have them at almost 30, is a good age to have kids. I am an engineer and my wife financial manager in a big company. We both have careers to provide for our baby.
And by the way she is also for a few spankings when necessary.

[Stephanielongoria]

It doesn't matter still way to young. My aunt she is 43 and she kust had a baby she got married at 37 . I don't understand you also got married young! Why do you want to have kids now? Why don't you want to wait when you're 35 or 40?

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

@Stephanielongoria can't find a single reason to wait. And I can think of a lot to have them next year.

[Stephanielongoria]

You are still way to young.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

@Stephanielongoria are you trying to convince me of that just because I said a spanking now and then is good for a child's education?

[Stephanielongoria]

Well lets just say if you believe beating your child will help him or her learn a lesson. Shows that you are not mature mentally ready to be a parent. If you are going to beat your kid for every little thing clearly you are not ready to be a dad. Use words kids are smart you explain to them the reason why its wrong and why they shouldn't do it they will know and learn. Taking away electronic devices grounding them forba week. They will learn. I hope your wife has complications getting pregnant or have a miscarige. It is not fear to bring a poor inocent child in to this world only because you want to beat the hell on the poor kid. Just simple dont have kids.

[Stephanielongoria]

And you siad I want to be his father. Yet you are expecting to be a boy. A child is not an accessory having a kid is a huge responsibility.

[Stephanielongoria]

You can't control or deside what gender ypu want the baby to be. Clearly ypu think having a baby is an object or a accessory that yoy can do whatever ypu want. No! A child deserves to be in a healthy violence free life.

[Stephanielongoria]

You belive that with violence the child will learn. You are wrong clearly you aren't mature or ready to have a child. I hope your wife has trouble getting pregnant.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

@Stephanielongoria a few things...
1. I won't beat my child without reason and for every little thing he does. I will do different things in different situations and I will never leave a bruise or anything. I will not be abusive to my children.
2. I say he I could say she. Either one will be very loved.
3. Are you really hoping that a woman you don't know have a miscarriage? Really?

[Stephanielongoria]

Yes because that poor child will suffer violence. You said it yourself with violence the child will learn. You aren't ready for a baby. Just wait until you get older

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

@Stephanielongoria I said a few spanks. Not violence.
Don't need to worry about my kid. He or she will be born by the end of next year and will be very loved and well educated.

[Stephanielongoria]

If of course your wife is hable to get prgenant. If she has fertility complications that will never happen.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

@Stephanielongoria that is a very remote possibility. Only a very small percentage of couples have problems conceiving
But even if we are very unlucky and that happens like I said my dream is to be a father. I will simply adopt.

[user5212017]

It all depends on the type of punishment/ physical pain. There is a difference in spanking and bearing your child. I personally think a spanking now and then isn't a bad thing if it is warranted. I have seen the outcome of children who didn't get punished as a kid and they turn into giant a**holes as adults. I deal with incarcerated females everyday, and I can't tell you how many young ones (19-22) that come in on a daily basis that have no respect for anyone.

[Mikey876]

I shouted at my girlfriend's 7yr old daughter and she kicked me in the testicles with a lot of force. It was so painful that I went to A&E and I was lucky to get a badly swollen ballsack and not loose a Ball. I asked her to wash the dishes because it was her duty but she swung her elbow round and got me in the balls again. I give up because it's too painful.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Since your not a mother yet and we don't know about your partner I just curious why this thought came to your mind when you don't even have kids of your own? 🤔

[Stephanielongoria]

Maybe she was abusive as a child. You never know people past.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

@stephanielongoria I am from an Asian country it's very normal here to get hit by parents for displining, they love as well its not too bad sometimes hits are required you become strong mentally and physically..
I don't really know may be something bad happened to you yes for those narcisst parents who hit for sadism should be punished

[Stephanielongoria]

I have abusive parents that would hit me for whatever reason.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

You are ok now right? Or you still stay with them

[Stephanielongoria]

Nah I move away to chicago now live on my own life is great now for me.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Good for you👍👏

[Asker]

Because I realized how normam it is to hit/spank your kid in america

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Thank god that you are not in Asian country you would be surprised 😂

[Asker]

I am from an Asian country born in austria

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Well God bless your husband then Amen!!! 😇👍😊

[Asker]

? What,?

[MissDawn7961]

kim45456 - no one should allow just anyone to discipline their child ! only my husband or I are allowed to touch our children ! thanks

[Sonorous]

It depends on how young the kid is, what method of physical pain, the wrongdoing, and the parent's intent. One change could alter my response.

[AngelLily]

If the kid did something to deserve punishment then yes.

[just_a_potato]

It depends on how they're doing it, the belt is a no no

[jgirl99]

I dont believe in physical punishment, on the other hand if my son mouths off to me I will spank him on his hand or his butt

[Hyper2]

Getting spanked is pretty normal in my culture. My mom literally told my teachers in school not to hesitate and hit me if I did something wrong lol.

[Stephanielongoria]

Wow your teacher should have call child services. Trust me you were better of in foster care if I was your teacher I would have called social child services on your mom. You had abusove parents your mother never deserve you.

[Hyper2]

As I said spanking kids is NORMAL in my culture. Corporal punishment was also normal in schools. So... 1) the world is bigger than your backyard 2) my parents weren't abusive 3) my parents gave me and my siblings an amazing life , probably better than yours . 4) hell no I would NOT have been better off in foster care.

by the way who are you?

[Stephanielongoria]

None of your business

[Stephanielongoria]

Why do you care

[Hyper2]

I don't care. So don't reply on my post with dumb shit. Thanks

[Stephanielongoria]

Why do you care?

[johny0000]

Yes.. in India.. parents can do it.. if they find their kids are doing/ going wrong.. But I would not be harsh to stop my partner if she crosses the line.

[MiaMpoxa]

I would absolutely punish him if he ever get that idea. I would never let this behavior

[Aakash_Hangargi]

What if your kid is indisciplined and irritated you more and doesn't listen to you what will you do?

[MiaMpoxa]

Bro there's a lot of ways talking or trying to distract would have.. But hitting it its very bad... i myself would feel like shit even to slap someone I cannot do any harm to anyone.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

I am not for the abusive hotting was just curious like you know when it totally reaches above limit how one would act

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Hitting*

[Dchrls78104]

Sometimes. It should not be excessive or the only punishment.

[Stephanielongoria]

Well I mean kids are smart they know better. For example my 6 year old neice she knows better if she misbehave that means no tablet for a week. So she learn her lesson. My sister and I we were abuse when we were kids so maybe that could be the reason why I don't agree with spanking. I can see what you mean but my sister and I we got wiped with the belt. I would never put a hand on my future kids.

[COMMODOREII]

It is legal to spank or slap your kid. If it turns into abuse it is illegal.

[ConstantPain]

No I don't need to use physical force to discipline my future son.

[Anonymous]

Spanking I got the belt when I was younger. "Here is for whatever you did wrong today wack wack wack"-dad

[Asker]

Wtf..

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, wtf is what I thought he told me scars will make you a man.

[Opinion Owner]

Luckly I'm not in that environment anymore.
All that being said, I would never have a partner or child.

[Asker]

That is sad

[Anonymous]

Yeah I wouldn’t be happy if someone was hitting my kid. I’d definitely consider leaving them

[HerLucidNightt]

Indifferent. Not a belt though.

[Avicenna]

No, I'd prevent her from doing that

[Agape93]

With permission, yeah

[CaptainSmartass]

I wouldn't allow it.

Simples...

[JesseTheMan]

Fuck no. That's retarded lol.

[Plitty-Tank]

I would not tolerate it.

[BButterfly]

Over my dead body

[scooogy]

You're pregnant?

[Asker]

No, I am not hahah

[scooogy]

Anyway I'm on your side, my father's violence almost ruined the family.