Ideally would you prefer/have preferred to have kids before or after age 30?

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Feel free to specify an age below since the poll is pretty broad. And if you already have kids, whats the age you preferred vs how it turned out? I personally wanted kids early 20s. I decided to at least finish college first and completed a pointless 4 year degree by age 23. Ideally, i wouldve become a parent by age 24/25 but that sadly didn't happen. I’ve always preferred to birth all my children before the age of 30. At this rate, i’ll be lucky to have at least one before i turn 30. After 30, i have no intentions of birthing more and would much rather adopt at least one child. 
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hi_it_is_me123 · Accepted Answer

I dont understand why many guys want to enjoy their 20s and want kids in their 30s but dont want their women to enjoy their 20s and expect their women to have kids before their 30s. Sperm quality get shittier, the older the men get. I seriously dont understand why any woman want to date so much older guy to get disabled/mentally ill kids. I prefere to have kids before my 30s and I also expect my partner to have kids before his 30s. I would want max 2 kids and i want my partner to be young and fit, and not a bald fat old something in his 30s. Toddlers consume so much energy. At 30s you already get some health problems due to your age and so an old man in his 30s would be a problem for me to look after toddlers

Bananna · Accepted Answer

Changes of complications during pregnancy increase after the age of 32. Men dont give a rat's ass because they aren't the ones carrying the baby. Dont think about baby #1 if you want 2 kids for example. Count from 30... back. 2nd kid at 30. First kids maybe at 27/28? So technically I should have kids by 27 to have my ideal pregnancy with hopefully no complications. Think about yourself FIRST. If someone wrong with the pregnancy it effects YOU and the baby. Yea , 20s is when you have fun. But fun NEVER stops. Responsibilities change... but you have to learn how to multitask, plan ahead and think smart to make fun time happen

Anonymous · Answer

I had my two daughters before 30 and my two sons after 30. From my experience having kids after 30 is a ton easier. However, that may be more because I now have a supportive husband (as well as my two teenage daughters) who can help me with raising my boys. When I had my first two girls my then husband was kind of a deadbeat so it was almost like I was raising them on my own. After we divorced it literally was that I was raising them on my own (aside from his child support checks, which did help, but it would have been a lot more helpful if he'd been a more active father than just sending money). I also have had to worry a lot less financially since both me and my husband have jobs that pay good salaries. When I was initially raising my girls I was scraping by financially. Also, my two boys (thankfully) came out healthy (and I know that the risks associated with healthy babies do increase with age).
So perhaps the difficulty of raising kids is more so based on circumstances than age. If I'd had a supportive husband and a decent stream of income maybe raising my girls then would have been a similar level of difficulty as raising my boys (at a similar age as my girls were then) now

jgokgotit · Answer

I turn 28 this month and have no kids. I'm glad I do not have kids yet as there are still things in my life I want to sort out first. I think having kids before 25 is not a good idea. It does work out for some people, but most people do not truly have their life together before 25. Even those that do don't yet have enough life experience to be able to effectively raise a child. Depending on career and education requirements for that career, even late 20s can be pushing it. I would like to have children personally when I am 30-35. At those ages I am still young enough that I could handle a young child and their energy level but I'm old enough to keep a cool head. I seriously doubt I'll have a child by 30 since I'm not even in a relationship yet. I refuse to propose to a woman any sooner than 2 years, so I will be 30 years old right there if I even meet someone soon, which even that is in doubt right now. I can understand why women feel the rush to have kids in their 20s, but just because you feel pressured to have kids in your peak is not a good reason to have them. Have the kids when you are ready. Ladies, the relationship game is in your court, not the man's. Just take basic care of yourself and guys will climb out the woodwork to date you. Many millennials are not ready in their 20s due to the financial shitshow we've been dealt. There is no shame in waiting.

razelove · Answer

Psst, switch over to my side of the tracks, compromise, have those babies stability, and just, you know, forget about that strong core of who you are. Simple, right? lol

Hmm, our first was when I was 29, and my wife was 24, would have been a year or so earlier, but there were issues. You can plan and hope, but reality just has you rolling with the punches, and that's just fine :)

Don't have a defeatist attitude, or you might miss good things that come your way. Everything I've seen of you suggests you're a good woman, don't get jaded because a large part of society is buying into BS player narratives on both sides.

electromagnetic · Answer

I used to dream about this lavish lifestyle where I would be married with a child by 25 simply because that what I saw from my parents. As I got older and realized how often we had to move because of their jobs, I realized it wasn’t the lifestyle for me. I wanted to explore with someone without having to consider the pressure it will put on my child having to move around like it did to me. I’m not married but I’ve been with my partner for years and we’ve moved around a lot and been to many great countries. Covid has been the only thing to keep us in one place for more than a year. So maybe now we’ll start a family.

Yyyyp789 · Answer

Well in my case I'm turning 27 soon. I have my career and education goals to pursue. Plus I currently don't have a partner/boyfriend either. Although I do wish to have kids before the age of 30. But based on the circumstances it doesn't seems like it. Considering I'm single, marriage doesn't practically happen too soon. It takes few years for the dating phase and to consider someone even potential for marriage. And from my experiences, I can tell that most guys are often hesitant to get married, some are even allergic to the name of it. Perhaps I'm fishing in the pond. But who knows what the future has in store for me.

Dragonpurple · Answer

A lot of my family just starts having kids soon as they get married, none of them have ever had a child before marriage. Then they keep popping them out until mother nature won't allow it.

I have an uncle with 18 children, my mother has 17 or 18 siblings too, my dad has 12 or so.

I have many other aunts and uncles that have at least a dozen or more kids. Lets just say in this area, my family is doing their part to repopulate the earth... except me and my one child. With my ex wife of course, my current wife and I are unable to have children... and that's been pretty hard.

KingdomForAKiss · Answer

I had my first at 22. I wasn't ready and it was incredibly difficult to be a single parent and finish college. My daughter was 3 when I graduated college and started my career. Ideally, I'd have (been in a loving marriage) waited a bit to at least have finished college. I'd like to have had at least one more before 30 but I am not 32. I tried dating again when my daughter was 8. That relationship was rough and I haven't attempted to date again.

So the likelihood of me having another child is very slim. 35 is my personal cutoff age.

Jitbitkit · Answer

I find this is a hard one and all about preference also. For me, I dont want ti be 40 dealing with young kids. And i dont want to even be early 30s starting off as chances of becoming pregnant are harder and id like to have more freedom as I get older. They say wait until you are older and live your life. Yes , i want to live my life but I dont want to be 40 with a young child. I am 22 now so I want to be pregnant by the time I am 24/25. I am young and I have loads of energy and I would prefer to be older and live my life then. I also want to. be able to see. my grandchildren grow up and see a good fraction of My childrens lives.

katiesmuff · Answer

I was 21 with my first, 31 with my second and 35 with my third. It would have been nicer if second and third were closer to one, but life didn't work that way for me. That being said all the pregnancies were without problems and these kids are the best.

ladsin · Answer

I just turned 27. If I could do things over I would’ve gotten into my current profession earlier rather than going to college and gotten married in my early 20s and started having kids around 25. I still want quite a few kids, but I’m starting our behind.

Alyssa11 · Answer

Honestly and truly, ideally before 30 and even more ideally now. I always pictured myself a young mum at like 22/23. It’s a bit too late now to make that dream come true lol but early 20s would be great anyway. Having a child is a blessing at any age.

HOAAH · Answer

my son was born at 27
my daughter was born at 29
and my last daughter was born at 34

Comparing my pregnancies, my first two was much easier than my last.
I gained so much more weight with my last baby and was much more tired with her pregnancy than the other two.

Babybebe15 · Answer

Late 20s to early 30s. I raised my nephew almost full time from the age of 21 - 24 so I am in no rush to go through raising kids again lol.
And I’m someone who absolutely loved kids, worked with them for years, and wanted a bunch of them, but once you go through it the excitement goes away. Plus raising kids is a lot of work.

ohshee · Answer

Right now in this moment of time I would be doing everything in my power not to have a child the world is a silver right now all the lies manipulation that's going on is for a reason and one day it's going to slap this right in the face and depending on which direction is headed there's no way in this world that I would want to be responsible for a child because depending on what happens it's going to be very hard to take care of the children. And when I have children I want to be in their lives every single day without drama being scared without me getting killed or something in that being around for that child this is not right

exitseven · Answer

we had our 3 kids before age 30. It was a big adjustment and looking back maybe I lacked maturity and patience. Maybe if I was older I would have been better prepared but it was a wild ride at times and now I am 50 and the last one graduates from college in a few weeks. My wife and I are thinking about what the next chapter will be like.

Tiffany_Taylor_Made · Answer

I would rather have kids after 30. I'm 30 now and don't have kids yet, but I want some. I want to get married first, which I will plan after the pandemic ends. It might be until next year that everything is back to normal. When things return to normal, I might focus on having kids at age 31. I thought about having kids when I was in my 20s, but I thought against it because I was more focused on raising my income. At this point, I'm financially stable enough to take some breaks from work for maternity leave.

pleasestopthis · Answer

Before I reached my 20s I thought the ideal age was between 25 and 30 but now I'm reaching my 28th birthday and still got no kids. I still think the ideal age is during your late 20s because by that age people are generally mature enough to raise a child, financially stable and still very fertile. Fertility decreases after that and a lot of people struggle to conceive when they wait too long

genericname85 · Answer

i'm conflicted on this. cause having them earlier is better for my peprsonal life. you know the earlier you get them, the more freedom of obligation you have when you're old, cause your kids will be mature and independend at that point.

but it would probably better for them if they were born later in my life, cause then i'm further in my personal development so that i am able to be a better father than younger me...

HaveNoName · Answer

My first condition was obviously to be married. I never wanted to be married before I was 30 so naturally "before 30" was off the cards. Next consideration was to have kids sooner than later. I would not have wanted to be nearing retirement as the kids are still on college or still trying to settle down. Had both before I was 35.

proNutro · Answer

I wanted to be having one in two years from now but that won’t be happening...
I hope to have my first at least when I’m 27. I’d be fine with having one at 27 and then my seconds at 30. A third after but that’s all.

JEndigoBleue · Answer

No children. I wanted children. I did not meet anyone to settle down to have a family with in my 20s and 30s. I'm in retirement mode now. I'm not thinking about having kids in my late 40s. I'll be working after my retirement age trying to get them through college. Hoping they get a scholarships, etc. My tolerance level is gone for children. I helped raised my family and friend's children. Aunt of 2, many of cousins and Godmother of 10. So, I'm good. I just want to settle down with a good man and keep enjoying life.

Zelda_5 · Answer

I'm not sure I want kids but if I do I'd want to finish whatever post secondary education I'm doing first and have them around age 28-32 ish, though my ideals may change in the future.

Avicenna · Answer

My first child was born when I was 37. I'm glad I had my 20s to enjoy without kids, and I think 30 is a good age to become a first-time parent.

0112358 · Answer

I had one before 30 and two after.  was young compared to peers and meant I didn't have as much money as they've had for their kids growing up later. Energy wise it's better young.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

In my early twenties I thought I would be a dad in my late twenties and I really wanted it, but then in my early thirties I didn't want it so much and mid-30s I got a vasectomy.

spartan55 · Answer

I went the later route. Married at 32, son was born when I was 35. Vasectomy, done. by the way, I thoroughly enjoyed my twenties.

CakesNCream · Answer

Before 30 and ideally late 20s.  It isn't too late for me just yet, but I am worried about it lol I would like to have my first child at 27

loves2learn · Answer

I had my oldest at 28. It was perfect. My second at 32. That was a good age too. If you have your kids in your early 30s that is still great.

19magic · Answer

I want between 2-4 and before 30s but the way life will probably plan out is I'll have the one I have had her at 22

Ally247 · Answer

I’d prefer to have kids before 30, I don’t want to be old with young kiddos, I’m not a big fan of that dynamic.

mimi051998 · Answer

I want at least 3 kids but I will be happy with however many God has in store for me. I prefer any age between 24-32 years old. But I'm trying to get my career going before having kids.

Coulis · Answer

I had my first at 27 and that's fine. If i had a husband younger i would have liked to start around 23.

Sarairocketship · Answer

I think I would like to have a child at 25/26. I know, right? My plan has always been to marry at 25. But you know how that goes. I just want to have the energy to raise them and to be around when they're older so I could give them advice and support them. Of course we never know when we're going to die, but I pray to God it's after all my kids are grown up. It makes me so happy to think of raising kids with my future husband.

WesBrewer · Answer

I’d want kids in my early 30s, so that I would already be grounded in life and have a house and stuff, I could also have hopefully had my happy years with my wife without kids as well, but if it is twins (especially girls) than I am happy with whenever.

Paolaa988 · Answer

I wanna have kids before 30 also but i want to find the right guy first and a steady job so im hoping after 25 like 26-29? If not my early 30s im really hoping. It's my dream to be a mom but i dont wanna have a baby just to have one, i want my child to have a good life and both parents committed and in love which sheesh that nowadays is rare...

Joey_007 · Answer

At least 30 and ideally late 30s. 36 is my ideal. I'd like to hoe a bit up till 30 which is when I'll start looking for a serious relationship and my personal rule is to only marry after officially being with someone for 6 years, that's when I'll be open to it, she'll decide when or whether or not.

Side Note: Where do you get the energy to churn out this many posts I just did one and got tired half way through, yena? Props thou.

BUNroaster · Answer

After 30 I'm in no rush. A family isn't my goal in life. I'll have a family if I am inspired to have one. I just see a lot of other issues in the world I'd rather focus on and put my love and efforts into.

beebella · Answer

Before 30, but that would have to happen within the next couple years and I honestly don't see how that's possible for me, personally.

jahaims · Answer

Had two kids and I'm only 29. Going to do it young so I can keep up with them as teenagers. Me and my dad are good friends and like doing the same stuff but his age prevents him from some of that.

DarcRefractions · Answer

I'm not where I want to be. and I would want my future "wife" to be secure as well as my kids. so by 32, I should feel more comfortable. I could afford 1 kid right now tho. but that not the point I still have dreams I want to accomplish.

my only concern is the health of the child older parents have children are higher risk I heard

REALSTEEL · Answer

causee it gives you time to plan and get ready hopefully find a goid woman by tgen thats honest and faithful

EmotionOfFear · Answer

At least 30 and definitely early 30s. So many risks increase for birth defects the longer you wait. Women past 34? Risk goes WAY up, having a child with them.

Anonymous · Answer

I was 34 and 36 when I had children. Their mother was 36 and 38. We had been married for 12 years. I’m glad we waited. Having children late keeps you young and in touch with younger people longer. It’s your own kids, of course, but also their friends’ parents with whom you end up socializing. Having focused on our careers in our 20s and early 30s, we’ll be able to retire early as our kids finish college.

Anpu23 · Answer

We were both 20 when our oldest was born and 29 when the youngest was. I agree, just about perfect.

Wiredone · Answer

We had 3 kids. one at age 23, 30 and the last at 32. I wish the last two we had while still in our 20's

nella965 · Answer

Statistics have shown that people who marry at older ages tend to have more lasting marriages. Parents who give birth in their 30s also tend to also have less financial worries when it comes to raising kids.

Nahid1707 · Answer

That’s a good question, preferably before thirty with her and even if i have one child in my life, I’ll be happy 😊😊

Anonymous · Answer

I want to have 3 kids, I'd want to have some in my mid twenties- mid thirties. Any age under 35.

Paulychicago10 · Answer

I did years ago, but have no inclination to have them now.

Djaay · Answer

Well I have 10 children with my first wife who sadly tragically passed on. 2 with my current younger wife of 5 years. Honestly , the younger the healthier for bearing children. I might add that I was present for the birth of all twelve of my children.

menina · Answer

I'm not sure if I want kids. But if I decide to have them, I would prefer them to be born in my early 30's.
Even if I wanted to have children now it wouldn't be possible, since I can't be in a relationship and I'm not ready.

Gezginmalkoçoğlu · Answer

I think under 30 because; body natural balance is very important

Maspolomas · Answer

I had two before the age of 30 and one after the age of 30

Leavesbound · Answer

The older you are the better financial position you will be in to take care of them. The younger you are the better the chances of meeting your great grandchildren.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

met my ex husband at 27, married 30 or 31. first kid 33, last kid 35... all good. never planned it.  no such thing as which is better... just let life take its course.

connemara_crocodile · Answer

After 30 for sure. I'm 29, no kids and I regret nothing. I had great experiences in life and love, I saved good money, and now I feel ready to have kids.

putthefootdown · Answer

I voted i dont want to be a parent. My ego is too big, and i can't afford it. How few can these days, is beyond me, but not beyond me seeing why that: some people will always have kids. Always.

sattii1987 · Answer

Well I had my first child when I was 26 and my second one is on the way now when I am 33

LorraineGates · Answer

I had my first child at 27. Have had another two since then, now 32. Plan to have more. I think around age 30 is ideal to start. Too much younger and my life wasn't together. Too old and your children aren't as healthy.

Apple1996 · Answer

I'm hoping to have all my kids before the age of 30. Still not set on how many I want though so might end up having my last at 30 but that's the oldest I would go.

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