Are you more likely to trust a male or female babysitter? Why?

[Kas19]

My boyfriend and I were just discussing this amongst other concerns with raising children. We both came to the conclusion we wouldn't be able trust a male babysitter. Though it's hard to trust anyone these days.

What are your thoughts?

[kyleelyn199723]

I think it’s depends on a person. You can’t necessarily rely on somebody just because they are a female. I’ve had plenty of baby sitters as a kid and all females. One passed out while taking prescription drugs, another one brought a guy over to my parents house etc. I think my most trustworthy babysitter was a nanny.

[Kas19]

I'm glad you had a good nanny, I've heard great things about Nanny's.

Do you mind me asking if you felt that you had a closer relationship with your nanny compared to your mother? I've heard that can be common.

[Kas19]

Also, your pfp is stunning 😌

[kyleelyn199723]

Well I kind of have a biased opinion because my mother was typically a negative person in my life but I was definitely close with my nanny and I still think about where she is at and how she is doing here and there. She helped my family out tremendously. Unfortunately she quit because of my mother 😕 but I would definitely not considered her a mother over my real mother. And thank you so much 😊

[Kas19]

I see. I'm glad you had such an important person in your life. And of course! :)

[IraqLobster]

Her picture says a striper.
And she looks much older than the age she claims to be.

[Mangospacho]

True. It’s all based in the person and not just the gender.

[Kas19]

@IraqLobster I'm sorry pretty women don't like you. Get well soon luv

[kyleelyn199723]

@Iralobster I used to work at a strip club as a bartender and I am actually 23 😉 you’re welcome.

[kyleelyn199723]

But thanks for that I always get told I look younger 😘

[NorthShoreCalling]

Both can be good, not that I’d ever have a personal babysitter myself, but out of the good guys and girls I’d probably lean towards a female as they do tend to have slightly more intuitiveness with children from what I’ve seen. I could be proved otherwise yet though.

[weasley8]

I would prefer a relative to babysit. And since I have brothers, but no sisters, they would most likely be a guy. However, if I were to go with someone who isn't a relative, most of my girl friends are better with kids than my guy friends. A lot of my guy friends actually scare kids. It's not intentional, and it's probably because they're taller, but as a result they tend to be rather awkward with kids, and not know what to say, even if the kid isn't running away. So I'd probably go with one of my girl friends. If that also wasn't an option, I'd ask a family to watch them. One which already has kids.

I wouldn't just pick some teenager from the neighborhood though, regardless of their gender. Absolutely not.

[WAT88]

No it's because people telling them that men are dangerous. That's why females can rape little boys and get away with it.

[NathanDavis]

Personally, I would only trust family and relatives on this, and then I would know who I could trust the most, which could be my younger brother, my aunt, or a couple of my female cousins.

I don't like the idea of professionals/strangers doing the babysitting, but if I absolutely had to, it would be a woman with tons and millions of references, and I would do everything I could to check on them and everything, I would not "just trust someone."

[Kas19]

Well said.

[jshm2]

I wouldn't trust either of you to come up with any good judgement to begin with.

You've both been watching too much babysitter porn, to boot, it seems.

In actual fact, au pair, childminding/babysitting, nanny and other such child orientated professions tend to be mostly female dominated anyway. But it should be the qualifications and experience of the individual, not their gender, that should be the deal breaker.

For 2 bucks an hour you're not exactly going to get Mary Poppins, and will need to be grateful for the boy next door offering.

[Beautyforeverybody]

Female ones of course. Just talking statistically, females on average commit much less sexual crimes and are not as violent as males.
However, I wouldn’y trust every woman to do such job. They need to be picked carefully and be supervised till they earn the trust of the parents.

[WAT88]

Females are more likely to abuse children that's a fact. They probably also rape them more often as females never get caught anyways.

[BCA6010]

I wouldn't trust a babysitter period without first knowing them. My parents liked to get neighbors' teen kids (usually girls) for that role, because they knew the parents, knew the girls, and therefore knew what to expect. I would probably do something similar in the same situation.

[nawtee_me]

According to one study,
Parents were the perpetrators in more than 90 percent of kidnappings and abductions. Mothers and female family members were responsible for the majority – 60 percent. However, fathers and male relatives were responsible for 64 percent of all kidnappings.

You can not trust anyone...

[Kas19]

According to a U. S. Department of Justice report from 2001 (unfortunately the most recent statistics on baby-sitter crimes), 77 percent of sex crimes by baby sitters are committed by males.*

When it comes to physical abuse, female baby sitters are more frequently implicated, but since most baby sitters are women, this fact isn’t surprising.) Actual baby sitter crime rates are low, though. According to the U. S. Department of Health and Human Services

slate.com/.../...e-men-to-care-for-their-kids.html

I was specifically talking about babysitters, though what you said is very true. We don't trust our family to watch our children.

[Kas19]

I'm confused about the 60% vs 64% though. Do you have a link to the study?

[nawtee_me]

Okay just noticed that this was from 2017.
www.google.com/search

[Kas19]

Ahh gotcha. Thanks for sharing :) It was pretty shocking but not too surprising I suppose.

[WAT88]

@kas19 female abusers are never caught the statistics are completely irrelevant and have obviously nothing to do with reality. People who have been raped by women often only find out during therapy that it was rape since we live in a culture where females are considered angels. I would explicitly not Trust females.

[Kas19]

@WAT88 That is very true. Female abusers, especially sexual abusers aren't taken seriously. I hope you didn't have that experience.

[Newhead]

I wouldn't trust a man to babysit my pet rock, let alone a small human. I almost killed my ex-boyfriend for losing my dog, then he had the nerve to talk back to me like I was kidding when I told him that I would pay someone to make him disappear if the dog was not back by twelve. They are very immature, irresponsible and selfish, they can't even be trusted to babysit themselves, so what I'm trying to say is... hell no.

[WAT88]

You are a sexist piece of shit.

[Newhead]

@WAT88 Thanks baby.

[Drumlin2001]

I trust my friends and OH friends regardless of gender. I've left my son with female family members and male friends.
I'd treat strangers with equal distrust, regardless of gender. If i were looking for a stranger to care for my kids i'd try to find a reputable provider who has done suffcient background checks and has safegaurds in place. I believe all the carers at my sons nursery are female, but wouldn't bother me at all if a man started working there

[genericname85]

honestly, i wouldn't get a babysitter, unless it's a good kid that i know very well from my neighbourhood. i'd always rather get my family to watch after my children. my parents are super eager to do that anyway, so i don't even see the need for a babysitter.

[zed-789]

When I think of nurturing, I think women. So I would hire a woman. I don’t hate men, but for some reason I have my guards up way more with a man than a woman. It would be too stressful on me to hire a male baby sitter.

[NoManTwo]

People may call me an old fashion sexist, but I do believe women are psychologically different from men and have a motherly instinct.

No man can replicate that even though he can be a good caretaker.

[WAT88]

@NoManTwo weird that women abuse their kids more often then. You're just delusional. In psychology what you have is called the wonderful women syndrome.

[NoManTwo]

@WAT88 Not as many women butt fuck little boys or rape little girls.

[zed-789]

@WAT88 I get where ur coming from and technically I don’t have a good reason to be biased but I think biology do play a role. There will always be dangerous human beings regardless of race. But the fact that women naturally r designed to be nurturing and have more empathy and instinctual need to take care of a child rather than hurt it, u can not deny. Even though there r women who rape, there isn’t much women who rape little girls and boys. I don’t know for sure but many sexual assaults that I can even look up mostly involve men. So if I had to make a choice with women (potentially risking a 5% of them hurting a child sexually or otherwise) or a man (potentially risking 50% of them hurting a child sexually or otherwise) which do u think I’m gonna go with?

[Apple1996]

I dont trust anyone to watch my children besides a few family members. Gender doesn't play part into that I would just as equally allow my brother or sister to watch my kids cause i trust them on the same level.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I believe in hiring a Female babysitter but set up Nanny Cams
to be sure your Kids is being taken care of and always review
the Nanny Cams always make sure that the Nanny Cam is
set up so it's very secure.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

My mom. But I think Pretzel would be able to hold the house down on her own for a couple of hours. Not that I’d be gone for that long. Unless I’m going grocery shopping or something, that might take a while. But I don’t need a lot so it should only take like 40 minutes. And I’m gone every three week so she’s kinda used to it.

[serious]

For me it is not applicable because I am never going to marry nor have kids but even in general after I saw the Hollywood movie " Baby sitter" I don't think it is going to be easy to trust either male or female baby sitters.

[TommyMountainFigure]

It's not about who other people trust more. The fact is, you trust female babysitters more therefore that is who you hire.
Personally? I wouldn't trust ANYONE with my kids other than close family.

[Adam1978]

Well since most babysitters are friends and family. You already have a good judgment of them. So gender shouldn't matter.

[NorthAfrican]

I generally wouldn't trust strangers taking care of my kids. But if i had to... then absolutely women babysitters.

[WAT88]

Absolutely not. They get away with abusing and raping kids and even killing them in every instance that's a fact.

[Feelicks]

I don't trust babysitters period. I'll tell them up front that there will be cameras with microphones in every room and that misconduct will be dealt with harshly.

I'd rather have a relative watch them.

[karaspara]

If I was hiring a babysitter I would be amazed if a male turned up rather than a female however my main babysitter is my Dad but of course that's different

[TonyMetal___86]

None, only the mother can be trusted, that's why my future wife must adore becoming a housewife