Is it common for parents to be harsher on daughters?

[Anonymous]

Obviously patriarchy has existed since the beginning of time but is it a common thing to treat daughters like the outcasts, be extremely harsh on them and treat them like the maid, beat them and use harsh words with them whilst being extra caring and loving towards sons and ensuring their feet don’t ever touch the ground?

I don’t know if it’s just my culture but I don’t know any man to have ever changed their own bedsheets, most don’t know how to cook unless they work as a chef. One boy went off to halls for university and his mother would take over cooked meals every few days on a two hour drive whereas believe me if it were a girl they wouldn’t care if she ate or not they’d leave the cooking to her.

In childhood I got the most beatings and if ever my parents hit my brother (very gently) I’d overhear them at night regretting it saying “I feel terrible about hitting my son today.” But they never felt bad about whatever they did to me. I began to realise that I was worth nothing because I am a girl and just accepted it as my fate when I was younger which led to tolerating a lot of abuse in my first relationship. That was just what I was used to.

Now that I realise what it was and how much society will do anything to hate women I work hard to smash the patriarchy.

[Jamie05rhs]

Wow. Okay- first of all, no one should ever be beaten! It makes me very sad and angry hearing that that happened to you. That was NOT RIGHT.

Second, daughters are just as valuable as sons. A child should not be discriminated against just because they are female. And a male child should not be given preferential treatment because of their gender, either.

Third: Yes, the Patriarchy should be smashed, and I hope you are successful in smashing it!

[Jamie05rhs]

Thank you for the MHO.

[Smegskull]

No. If anything I would be the reverse but I'm not a feminist and don't believe in the patriarchy conspiracy.
I would be telling my daughters they get to choose between being responsible for themselves or finding a good husband to take resposibility for them. My sons would not have that choice so I would have to be harsher with them to ensure they aren't a burden to society.

[EmbraceThePain]

I actually think it is historically accurate for parents to be harsher to their daughters. There may be some biological basis for this as almost everything can be traced to some evolutionary biology reasoning. I think parents are more likely to be stricter to their daughters because they saw their daughters as more fragile, likely to become victim of abuse, etc. Also, for awhile women's trajectory in life was fairly linear and nearly identical. It was to have a child, raise a family, be a housewife, etc. A daughter being risky, going out a lot, and doing other "masculine" things would put her at risk for not becoming the model woman. Parents seemed to usually protect their daughters more too as they aren't as strong as boys physically, mentally, and emotionally

[Ninjazzed]

That’s a crock of shit.

Most boys nowadays can’t even control their emotions, like anger and end up smashing their fists through a wall. Getting torn up over a video game.

This is because boys mature at a slower rate than girls. Boys are strong in the physical part, just not mentally or emotionally.

[lightbulb27]

your culture and/or family issues. and one I'd leave as it's abusive to you and oppressive. I do sheets, clean the house, mow the lawn, feed the animals. I know other men who do nothing and women who did nothing. My sister never lifted a finger around the house, but I did lots of work... albeit volunteered to do so. It's all your environment, dont generalize. do make a choice as to what you think is right to change in your future now that you are grown.

fairness, self worth may be an underlying wound of yours to work out. I have my own, you got yours... it's a messed up world and starts from the parents.

[Ninjazzed]

Yeah, I’ve grown up around plenty of families who expected their daughters to clean and be house slaves while they let their sons freely be lazy and stay on video games.

[COMMODOREII]

That is relative. I have seen it go either way girls or boys being treated better than the opposite sex. The fault lies with the parents.

[es20490446e]

https://youtu.be/rOxswN82lTU

[boggboss]

Some people are i would more so say they tend to be more restrictive

[Zygum]

In some culture, women are treated harshly, it is in Men Dominated societies, males are preferred than females, it is very common practice in Indo Pak

[888theGreat]

They know they will be paying for another child if she gets knocked up

[Anonymous]

Are you by any chance from a culture that's known to dominate primarily in shithole countries?

[Miah02]

My momma was, but my pops was easy on me

[bamesjond0069]

"Obviously patriarchy has existed..." this is all i needed to read. Your parents are strict on you because you've been turning into a psychopath. Obviously you needed even more strict upbringing than you got.

[Asker]

Wow you really are an idiot. Looks like you’re the psychopath who gets triggered and judges people they don’t even know.

[bamesjond0069]

Im not triggered. I really dont care. But you obviously have some serious shit going on in your head so it doesn't surprise me they came down on your ass.

[Asker]

For you to think abuse is OK shows what your mental state is so I rest my case

[bamesjond0069]

i didn't read your post but whatever they did wasn't enough. Nothing is too severe when it comes to stopping self causes mental issues like you have

[Asker]

I am convinced you are an absolute troll from hell 😂😂😂 get the fuck off my post you lonely old tramp

[Ninjazzed]

If that’s as far as you got then I take it there’s a reason they make medication for people like you.

[JimmyDogFish]

Get the fuck out of this website you troll. This is clearly a troll question because firstly you are anonymous so you are trying to hide it. Secondly you already know that what your parents did was abuse. Also assuming you are over 18 the times these events might've happened women were really respected and given higher rights and many sexist phrases against men were hard not to find. Patriarchy made men act tough and help and respect women. This is not patriarchy. I bet you are just a troll 12 year old who has no idea what the context meaning of patriarchy is.

[SistersBigBro]

I like to be tough on my sister. He seems happy with me too.

[Anonymous]

It's possible because Daughters usually have more options and freedom than Sons.

[KostasKouvalis]

In YOUR culture, 100%

[Danish87]

You know from which culture is she?

[KostasKouvalis]

@Danish87 Yeah. We talked in PM

[Danish87]

@KotasKouvalis so have you ever read about that culture? What stature woman has? You just passed judgement about how woman are treated.

[Asker]

Technically it isn’t the case. Women are given very high status in Bengal. Kali is revered by all Hindus and even some Christians. I think it’s just my family tbf.

[KostasKouvalis]

Well, I've met a lot of South Asian families even in the states and Canada that were very strict.

@Danish87, so now you're being a hypocrite and making assumptions about ME. Why don't you mind your own business. Because I could say some interesting things about YOU people too.

[KostasKouvalis]

@Danish87, oh shit. You're actually Indian, not Danish. That explains it. You people NEVER criticize your country or culture. Your country and culture is full of problems, yet you have so much pride, it's ridiculous.

[Asker]

Indians are different to other South Asian nations like Afghanistan and Pakistan - they are controlled my Taliban. Muslims in general hate women. Indians are very different from those people. Most Asian countries that don’t have majority Muslim populations or don’t operate on Shari’ah law are actually OK in that sense. They may not be as liberated as the West but they are better off than Muslim nations.

[KostasKouvalis]

Not the Indians I've met. A huge group of them came to my park once and there was one Hindu in the front and he made all the women kiss his hand when they walked by. And I've been clocked blocked by several Indian men. I saw how angry they got when their daughter/sister attempted to make conversation with me.

But I agree, Muslims are worse. And I hate all these Liberal YouTube propagandists who tell the world that Pakistan is safe for women.

[Asker]

Kiss his hand? That’s strange. Normally it’s men who kiss women’s hands. Maybe he’s just an arrogant guy who’s used to attention. Some Asian guys - especially very good looking ones, are used to all the attention and expect it wherever they go. They get treated like kings from birth until adulthood by their mothers and sisters and all women in their extended families so they start treating women as if women are nit even worth as much as the shoes on their feet. It’s to do with their upbringing and probably also environmental factors after growing up. I think girls like their confidence and carefree attitude. Women chase them because they’re not fussed about keeping any woman and would just drop them after using them.

As for Muslims they literally always just oppress women over reasons with hypersexual connotations.

[Asker]

All Asian men are prtective about their sisters/daughters more so than White men. The reasons are different for Arabs and Indians. With the Indian Hindus it is a matter of tradition. They don’t want their daughters getting used and ruined and left unmarried and instilling this value has ensured that most Indian girls don’t get pregnant before marriage so teenage pregnancy is rare amongst Indians unless within a marriage. This ensures the security of the girl and makes sure that a boy doesn’t use her and then leave her to raise a kid alone. Abstinence is the best birth control!

With Muslims it is all about following rules, religion, Mohammed and keeping women’s hymens intact.

[KostasKouvalis]

I never thought of it that way? It seems they want them to marry doctors and pick a guy THEY approve of, instead of letting HER chose. I even saw this Indian comedian make a joke about Indian brothers thoroughly screening/interviewing their sisters boyfriend? But how do they know the guy THEY chose won't use her? But say she DOES only want sex, shouldn't she have that right? I don't know why people are so angry at me. I even read an article once, about an Indian couple here in Florida. The woman was refusing to submit to her husband, so he flew a bunch of her Male relatives from India to beat her up. So I don't know why people are defending these people and denying that Indian men treat women like a shit. Almost everyone will tell you Indian men are sexist perverts and hostile towards women. It's one of the most dangerous places on earth to be a woman.

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[Asker]

That’s a few corrupt people. Everybody is not like that - those people were just crazy.

[KostasKouvalis]

So you don't think the problem is as bad as we hear in the West?

[Asker]

No definitely not. The extreme cases are talked about to death but with more than 1.3 billion people I can guarantee it is only a VERY tiny minority of people who are that crazy. People from metro cities are actually quite progressive and many people even live together before marriage with their parents support. Even the conservative people who aren’t OK with that are still quite liberal compared to other Asians.

[KostasKouvalis]

Have you been there?
I was SHOCKED to see an Indian Youtuber solo traveling around Kolkota even at night and nothing happened to her.

I heard Delhi is really bad though especially if you're a white girl

[Asker]

Delhi is a little more dangerous than Mumbai or Kolkata. Anywhere in the world is dangerous if you’re not careful though.

It may be true to an extent but I think all Asian men have this idea that White women are easy to use and throw. They try to get as much sex as poss (The idiots with no standards) and then marry a good Indian girl. Pretty much every Asian man wants to marry a good girl at the end of the day.

[KostasKouvalis]

That's kind of true. Arabs too. I don't know about India, but I know in the Caribbean white women jump on black men and now they have this idea that EVERY white woman should open their legs for them. Same in Turkey.

[Asker]

Yes because White women do put out much more easily than Asian women. Asian women are much harder to get into bed in general. The majority of Asian women are virgins on their wedding night even today or they lose it to the person they love if it happens before marriage. They are not likely to have one night stands or sleep around.

[KostasKouvalis]

That's actually kind of true.

[NightHawk99]

Nah. People are just retarded. Especially parents.

[JesseJayNeak]

Maybe in your culture

[Anonymous]

yes‏‏‎ ‎

[Nahid1707]

Depends i think

[shouldnobetter]

Yes I do believe so.