Real friends understand you , they don’t try and change you , they’re there through thick and thin as a support system, there’s communication, there’s trust , there’s respect , and lastly there’s compatibility that makes up a good friendship. I don’t call everyone a friend based on my own personal experiences in the past where I was betrayed, lied too , played on my emotions, stabbed in the heart, dealt with fake people , they deceived me , tried to change me. and talked about me behind my back. I’ve let a lot of people go including 10 and 15 year friendships. I’m thinking about changing my number so they can’t contact me anymore. Granted no ones perfect , but finding someone with good intentions nowadays are hard. There are something’s that can’t be granted second chances regardless of how long you’ve been knowing them.
I have very few friends and they are people I have known since childhood. I had people that I thought were my friends and thought they would be in my life forever but one at a time they all drifted away.
"All my friends have fallen from me, with the passage of the time, Some have turned to silver, others turned to wine, I have always found myself alone, sailing out to sea, On a boat with ballast of the past and sails of what may be." (Rob Carlson- Riding to Nantucket)
I mean, all my friends have hurt me at some point but it happens in relationships. My own wife has hurt me and I am sure I've hurt her. Question is, is the hurt they caused egregious enough to sever ties. In my case most of the time the answer was no
Your wife is someone you loved. These people were people I had no no love for , but cared for yes. I don’t give second chances beyond the fact you hurt me I’m gone
When you’re stabbing me in the back , betraying me , lying to me, playing mind games, and be deceitful that doesn’t call room for a friend Idc how long I’ve been knowing you. I’m gone and it’s forgiven, but it doesn’t mean we’re going to be friends. An argument or disagreement isn’t grounds to end a friendship between you and that person unless you can’t see eye to eye. No ma’am once you start crossing lines and doing malicious things I’m gone.
Somethings can’t be dealt with no more. If I don’t hear from you from time to time I’m gone. Like I said it’s a lot of fake people out here and I’m finding bit are to find supportive and real friends
