Have your parents ever discouraged you from doing something that would be good for you?

[beebella]

My parents have done this before

They tried, but failed

My parents have never done this

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[TurboKid]

My parents sucked to put it succinctly. Overprotective mother and under protective father. Besides feeding me, and making sure I survive, they were practically worthless. My father didn't discourage me from bad things I shouldn't do. My mother discouraged me from good things I should.

[TurboKid]

No resentment though. I never needed them to grow up. I took care of my little sister. I was the grown-up in the house when they fought and fought.

[ChefPapiChulo]

Yes. when i was 18 i was offered salary, a company car, a hotel room to live in, to be manager at a hotel in a different state. my family refused to allow me to go.

[ChefPapiChulo]

learn 2 English

[beebella]

I'll have to start using Hooked on Phonics again. 😭

[ChefPapiChulo]

w. u. t?

[ChefPapiChulo]

i'm mexican. i dont know what Hooked on Phonics is.

[beebella]

🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

[ChefPapiChulo]

why facepalm?

[beebella]

How do you not know what Hooked on Phonics is?

[Shah11]

Hooked on phonics means she can't live without you.

She saw her future in your profile pic. Lol

[ChefPapiChulo]

@Shah11 i know she loves me

[Shah11]

Yeah she loves you from the bottom of her heart. She just gone crazy over your profile pic. Damn. 😂😂

I bet she masturbathing by staring at your pic 🤣

[beebella]

Wtf? 🤣

[Shah11]

@chef bruh
. she even told me in pm that getting comments from you is like her

Dream comes true moment. 🤣🤣

[beebella]

@chefpapichulo What did you do to get this guy to spread lies for you?

[ChefPapiChulo]

he's sick in the head, so I don't know.

[Shah11]

@beebella

Don't lie babe.
Lying in love is crime 🤣

[beebella]

@Shah11 Don't call me that.

[ChefPapiChulo]

only i can her babe. right babe?

[beebella]

@chefpapichulo Nobody can call me that.

[ChefPapiChulo]

ig nobody can call her that.

[Shah11]

@beebella

Solly girl. It was just a fun. please don't take this word "BABE" seriously you didn't look like a babe. No worries.

[ChefPapiChulo]

@Shah11 you're indian aren't you?

[ChefPapiChulo]

why me?

[beebella]

I feel bad for you.

[ChefPapiChulo]

thats really rude.

[menina]

So many times, especially my mother. She hates seeing me happy and she doesn't want me to accomplish my goals. She succeeded a couple of times and then I felt miserable.

[Shah11]

No mother on earth want to see her daughter failed.

You may be did by own mistake n blaming mother. Woke up.

[menina]

@Shah11 No, a normal and decent mother doesn't want to see her daughter failing, But again mine isn't normal nor decent. I can see why you don't believe me, but that's really how she is and behaves.
And no, it wasn't my mistake. I admit my mistakes.

[TurboKid]

@Shah11 The way those overprotective and toxic mothers do it is subtle. But they exist. They can't accept you leaving the house. It's like you wanna fly over the nest and they want to stop you from doing it because they want to keep you in the nest.

[menina]

@TurboKid You're right. Mine isn't overprotective, she's toxic. She doesn't want me to be independent so she can say that I'm a failure and that I got nothing.

[TurboKid]

It might be some perverted form of protection and love. I don't know. I set my own nest on fire and flew away. Haven't talked to my mother in over 20 years.

[menina]

@TurboKid No, it's not. I wish it was, but it's not. She truly hates me. I'm surprised she didn't get an abortion when she found out that she was pregnant.
She tried to kill me once and she stole money from me many times.

[VIVANT]

@Shah11

No parent should want to see their child fail. Not all parents should be parents.

[TurboKid]

I got some bad stories of my own. I was actually disowned. I don't know how we can compare our lives. I just want to say that I've known something pretty bad. I know you got something pretty bad, and maybe worse than mine.

[VIVANT]

Also god intentions don’t necessarily mean good parenting.

[menina]

@VIVANT I absolutely agree with you.

[menina]

@TurboKid I'm sorry to hear that. I have no doubt that you had some bad experiences too. Yes, perhaps we can't compare our lives but I feel like as I've never had parents.

[VIVANT]

Thank you. I sympathize with your situation. My guardian was unstable and bitter and took great pleasure in blocking me from anything she could think of. She also was physically abide with do I ran away at 14 to protect myself. But it as the constant gaslighting that nearly destroyed me. its so difficult being a kid in dn I he shoe situation bc the first assumption is “ parent knows best” so in my opinion when they don’t you are constantly fighting to simply not drown.

I hope things are well for you now. I have always had a high opinion of you on here 💕

[TurboKid]

I got the exact same feeling as with VIVANT. I left the home as soon as I got a full scholarship for uni though. I fled the home. And I was scared because my mother did everything she could to keep me there. I didn't know what to do. I just packed my bags and left and I didn't know what to do. :-D But soon after, I was so thankful to leave that godforsaken house.

[TurboKid]

I became so dependent on her. She picked my clothes and everything, even though I protested. I really wasn't prepared for that flight out of the bird's nest. I got so dependent on the mother saying, "You should do this! And do that! And don't date this girl! Clean this, do that!" So it's like when I was free from all that, I didn't know what to do. No one is telling me what to do. :-D That was one of the most difficult things I ever did was leaving that house. As toxic as my mother was, I became dependent on her so much. I felt so lost without her for a while.

[menina]

@VIVANT You're welcome. I'm sorry to her about what happened to you. It was an horrible situation, especially for someone who was only 14. No one deserves to go through that especially at a young age. I'm glad you managed to run away and I also you're in a better place now.

Unfortunately I still have to deal with my mother because I'm haven't managed to become financially independent yet. But as soon as I'm able to provide for myself I'll leave her. I probably won't see her again. Awww thank you! I also like you. 💞💞

[menina]

@TurboKid You made the right decision. If I were in your shoes, I would have done the same. You got a great opportunity to change your life and I'm glad you took it. I can imagine how relieved and happy you were after leaving the house.

[menina]

@TurboKid I see what you mean. But yes, that was toxic because she didn't let you make your own choices. I can understand why you felt lost.

[menina]

Thanks for the MHO.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Besides being lgbt? Taking a job in another city across the country because I would be abandoning my family.

[JackSmy]

My parents were so personally FCKED UP, that I wanted to be ANYTHING, but, what they were!! Sad, and HORRIBLE ROLE MODELS!!!
Now, though, I am focused on Government regulations, ALLERGENS, and Food Labeling, for our Chain of stores!
Right there, and making sure your child, with a peanut allergy, isn't going to have a reaction, because our Labels are up to Date, and accurate!!

[COMMODOREII]

I wanted to go to culinary school before i left high school. But my mom started telling me i would have to get insurance in case someone got sick at my restaurant and every other idea to deter me. It took me a long time but i realized i can not be afraid of failure or of success. I must do what i must in my life.

[Still-alive]

your question has me stumped Bee i feel like there was something but its not coming to me.

nah if they discoruaged me from doing something it was for a good reason. like "stop wasting so much time playing video games" :P

[Still-alive]

you know i just remembered one thing. when i was in college still getting my history degree i was really thinking about switching majors to psychology and become a therapist. but my dad talked me out of it cause it would have meant i'd stay in school much longer.

i feel now maybe i should've gone for it anyways.

[beebella]

You would probably make a great therapist. 🙂

[Still-alive]

yeah i think so too. but i made my choice. i do love history but i just have nothing i want to do with it lol

[InfobotLives]

Yeah, they refused to let me become a whore. I had the crack addiction so I thought it would be the next logical step. They didn't want me leaving school before 14 though 🤔

[DCooper]

Back when I was 16, I had a 5 speed Chevy Nova with a nicely rebuilt 350 small block picked out, and they vetoed me on it. It ended up being into my 30s by the time I finally got around to picking up a proper RWD stickshift V8.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I tried getting a job being a fuller brush man it's like a job where you sell cleaning supplies of some sort or Sweepers not too sure but my mom told me that she
didn't want me doing that stuff so it fail through for me

[ArrowheadSW]

They discouraged me from doing things that would NOT be good for me... LOL...

Hummm... I can't think of any instance where they discouraged me from doing something that would be good for me.

[ChiTown33]

Not with the intent of hurting me lol. My mother was against me investing because her life didn't exactly go as planned ergo in her mind mine is going to follow the same path and by investing I'm just flushing money down the toilet to her.
My mother does keep me grounded so I am appreciative of her input. But her negativity at times does get hard to bear. Lol

[Lynx122]

I wanted to play the drums as a kid but my mom didn't want that because of the noise. She wanted me to play violin. Otherwise I don't think so.

[Kaneki05]

If you asked me what's the best thing about my parents, I would say there pretty good at just letting myself be me.
So no they don't really.

[Leavesbound]

If you count lack of encouragement as discouragement then yes.

[loves2learn]

They tried but failed to ruin my sex life. I just liked to them for 5 years until I was married.

[loves2learn]

*lied

[Shah11]

Nope never... they don't told me do whatever you want to do but never hurt anyone for your gain.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

My mom didn't allow to play organized basketball and football as a kid and young teen which I desperately wanted to play.

[JosyJosy]

For sure, I gave to avoid arguments. Didn't want home to be a warzone on a daily basis

[Gwenhwyfar]

Going to college early. Maybe one or two other things.

[Jenngirl00]

Sometimes we just need to learn on our own. The other thing that comes to mind is they may see it differently then we do

[Wise4myage]

C. My mother never cared and my father was never around long enough to care.

[EnglishEuropean]

Parents never want you to be more successful than they were because it makes them look weak.

[dolemite89]

oh ya, my dad was never supportive about anything unless u did exactly as he wanted

[Bklynbadboy12]

No never my parents have always encouraged me to do everything that I've always wanted to do

[Bklynbadboy12]

What about your parents

[Anonymous]

Only my stepdad a couple of times but I ended up proving him wrong

[loveslongnails]

I can't ever remember that happening.

[scooogy]

Yeah, having a girlfriend.

[Fuentes]

They fail I don't listen

[Andres77]

I'll never know.🤔

[Iron_Man]

Nooe

[MrJMM]

Obviously yes.

[JesseJayNeak]

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