What should we teach young boys about women?

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Asking cuz I'm curious, and I have a brother.

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

The same things we should teach young girls about men: Respect young women. Treat them the way YOU want them to treat you. Listen to what they care about and share what moves you.

Don't chase a woman who shows no interest in you. She's not playing hard to get. She's just not into you.

Become friends and then become more. If you aren't friends with someone, it's unlikely you'll be more. Be kind and generous. If they aren't the same, move on.

tallandsweet · Accepted Answer

That sex isn't supposed to be the way it's depicted in porn.

That men have the responsibility to speak up when other men try to put women down or when they use sexist language.

That women aren't responsible for contraception.

That women aren't crazy monsters on their period.

That women are just as capable, loveable and respectable as men.

AmandaYVR · Answer

Great question.

That girls are your peers, friends, colleagues, fellow citizens, NOT just sexual objects or someone you interact with sexually or because of your sometimes desire for them. They have far, far, more value than what some boys (and men) ascribe to them. Understanding this is the key to good relationships with them (relationships of all types, not just romantic etc.)
Just because one hurts you one day (or a few, over time) does not mean all will. There are 7 billion people on the planet, and you'll never, ever, meet all of them, or even close. So resist the urge to judge them all the same, just because you've interacted with a few. You're different than all other boys and men out there, and so are they.
But don't take this individualism idea to an extreme. You can be your own man, have goals, wishes, dreams, etc, but you are also a citizen of the world, and there is a certain amount (quite a lot) of compromising that you will have to do. Everyone does. People who do not understand that they are part of the collective, and have enormous power to impact others, will become more of a negative than a positive as they go through life. Don't be selfish. Treat others well, as you wish to be treated (even if you will not admit it), and you can never go wrong.
They are not your enemy. They are not the opposition. It's not a game, or a war, or a battle. You will want some of them, and they will want some of you. Finding each other is the challenge. And you're more likely to be successful in that if you are selective, don't just play a numbers game, and really get to know them. They know when you're just farming out compliments, left, right, and centre. You have to mean them. The harsher and more superficial you are, the more they will be.
Can you be friends, and have it turn into something more? Yes. It happens. Many times, it won't happen this way; but sometimes it does. Many girls feel more comfortable easing into something this way. It's also a good way to learn about girls in general, what they think and feel. This is knowledge you take with you, regardless of where that relationship goes, or doesn't go.
Ultimately, it's about respect and appreciation. And that goes both ways. Every interaction you have with others is judged and assessed, and can impact you and them, so don't take it so lightly that you dismiss everyone as irrelevant. You never know who will become important in your life. And about appreciation - your fellow peers hate guys who are simps. Liking thousands of sexy photos online (and later, as an adult, sending them money) will get you nowhere. It's an endless, bottomless endeavour, and all you will be to them is a distant admirer of their body. So don't waste your time (or money.) Look around you, in real life, not in a screen.

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

I think it's best to teach the young boys about themselves than about a particular gender.

A young boy taught to be compassionate and have empathy will be able to understand others better, regardless of gender.

A boy taught not to fear, avoid, or suppress his emotions and rather taught to regulate, deal with, and understand them will be able to have a healthier emotional life - and will be able to identify this in others.

A boy taught about love, what it is and how it can be healthily maintained, will be able to offer and receive it. He'll know what healthy love looks like and what unhealthy obsession looks like - in himself, and in others who may pursue him.

A boy taught to respect others, but also respect and protect his own boundaries, will be able to navigate the world true to himself.

It's more important to focus on the child's development of themselves, in my opinion, than it is to teach them arbitrary values about a particular gender. Teach them to think, feel, and reason for themselves - so that they may be equipped to truly understand and interact with anyone, regardless of gender.

tatianamay · Answer

1. to not be weird/creepy on the internet
2. to respect everyone and their opinions
3. to not call a woman a "slut" just because she enjoys sex
4. not be a player and play with women's hearts
5. Not call themselves a "ladies man" that shit is cringey af

iCumLikeCrazy2 · Answer

I Think All The Other Girls Who Answered This Question Hit The Nail On The Head.
Kudos Girls!

However, If You Are Talking About In A Sexual Way, Teach Them To Worship The Female CLIT. Teach Them That The CLIT Is The Magic Orgasm Button For Every Girl and Stimulating It Is A Must. Teach Them How To Stimulate It With Their Fingers, Vibrators and Tongue To Give Every Girl They Are With The Best Orgasms Of Their Life. And Teach Them That Just Because a Girl Uses A Vibrator It Doesn't Mean Her Guy Isn't Pleasing Her and That Sometimes Girls Just Needs The Stimulation Of A Vibrator.
Teach Them To Not Be So Selfish With Only Thinking About Their Own Pleasure and To Learn How To Manipulate Their Female Partners Clit With Their Tongue and Not Feel Belittled When His Girl Is Trying To Tell Him How She Likes To Be Licked.

SnakeBoop · Answer

*they're not objects
*they may reject you
*you are not owed anything because you did something for them
*some are pieces of shit, NOT all- make sure you're not a piece of shit man
*sometimes you have to give a bit of respect to get it
*do call out their behaviour if its shitty, and stand up for yourself.
*(related to above), unless they are attacking you physically, you do NOT put your hands on ANYONE with a "beat them up" attitude.

bannacookies · Answer

To treat others, no matter man or woman, kindly and respectfully. And I think the best way for them to learn about other women is just to observe them. (Not in a weird way obviously). No one woman is the same as another so you can't put a blanket rule on either gender.

pleasestopthis · Answer

To be respectful just as he would like to be treated. And don't allow himself to be disrespected by women just because he's a man, a lot of entitled women abuse guys just because they think they can't hit back. Everyone deserves to be treated with dignity.

Janessa2021 · Answer

I'm so ready for this one
Firstly the value of consent
Respect
Managing his money
Knowing how to cook and clean for himself
To not follow stupid trends to not seem a certain way like the " washing yo asscheeks is means your gay" tf clean your whole body
Your girlfriend should feel safe around you
Its not okay to hit women
Your preference does not require putting down another woman to uplift another
Its okay to express emotions
Etc

UnknownGagsUser · Answer

Don't be a creep and must respect women of all ages.

DaisyM23 · Answer

Just teach them about consent, for both individuals, and women’s rights/ how men aren’t entitled to them. To not subscribe to typical gender roles. And to be careful

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

How to treat them respectfully and a few things about female sexuality. Also how to be romantic.

Emii_Urashima · Answer

In some parts of Japan, when a boy starts going crazy over girls, his parents will hire a courtesan to take him on a "date" and teach him what he needs to know. 😅

Fatass89 · Answer

How young is he? I think they should know about sex early on. To be prepared to make their own choices and to protect themselves

Nazgol · Answer

That they're not sex objects and must be respected and loved

UnknownUser10202 · Answer

it's important everyone has their own individuality to them

designer1 · Answer

To be respectful and kind towards women.

TheLittleInnocent · Answer

Watch out for cougars especially as a young man

WowwGirl · Answer

Protect them respect them

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