i was taught that women are put on earth to please men.
I work hard to keep the men in my life happy.
My real dad was never home, but i loved him a lot.
My stepdad was more of a real dad to me than my real dad.
Both were treated like shit by my real mom. I worked hard to be the best daughter i could and so many times, wished i could be my stepdad's wife as I would have taken better care of him than my mom did.
I learned that women have a body for a reason. Men are physical creatures and my job as a woman is to keep my man pleased and always happy. Having sex with a man i love and care for is my JOB and if that means i need to please him 24x7, i do.
i admit i made a lot of mistakes and bad decisions growing up. It happens when your mother is there, but emotionally absent. When you are sexually molested starting at 7yo by a pinoy (filipino) uncle and have sex at 8yo with him, it changes and molds your entire future life.
when your mom leaves to go see family for a year when you are 9-12 yo, and your dad is on business travel, you are at the mercy of the nanny and her boyfriend. I was regularly having sex at 10yo and the entire growing up situation molded who i am.
I was taught and trained that a woman's job is to please men in any way they want.
It is why in the Philippines, where the age of consent is 12yo and most girls are pregnant by 14yo, that most men do not marry a woman, or if they do, they have many mistresses. (there are 7 women for every man there) Women are taught you do WHATEVER it takes to please and keep your man. Even then, most women are single moms as the men leave when a new woman comes along.
so, this is me. I am a broken creation. I live, I learned to survive.
A close girlfriend told me when i was in foster care, "Cassie, you have a sexy body and life is hard. Do whatever you must, want, and sometimes don't want or like to do, to get what you need from men (and women). Honey, when you hit 30yo, have a kid or two, men tend to stop looking at you and want that young 16yo girl you used to be".
i never got to see any women in my family with men at all but i myself feel that i’m supposed to let the man be who he is meaning i don’t demean him or try to be the one who controls things while still keeping my own opinion. i also believe that women are supposed to be nurturing not just to children but to the man as well. when i get married i hope to be the one that my husband sees as caring & also feel confident enough to share things that a man normally wouldn’t. i just want to make sure that he can trust me & know that he is valued as a man… all while loving him they way he wants me to 💕
I come a very conservative household. I was but men are superior to women and women's job is to have baby's and keep her husband happy but if anything it made me rebel and hate that idea of life seeing how my dad can be with my mum at times and then he wonders why we can't stand him at times. I love him but he's a total misogynist and has no respect or appreciation for my mum or me or my stisters at times.
He thinks he can talk to us like shit and we should just take it. Sometimes I wonder if he she's us as equals.
I always told men only want one thing too and that men she women as objects this fucked me up a lot growing up and I still struggle because now whenever a man shows any interest in me I get scared and think he's a creep and will hurt me. I always ran from men and pushed them away by being a bitch to them even if I liked them because I thought all they wanted was sex and they'd break my heart.
Eventually re built my relationship with men and I have many male friends now that taught me not all men are bad and they also want a relationship too.
The only one thing that's stuck with me is that the man should have more food on his plate then the woman and I've never heard my boyfriend complain he just thinks it's funny. But besides that he's a pretty independent man who doesn't expect me to be his slave
I grew up w/a hippie single mom and my Grandma. My mother had the viewpoint (well she still does) that all men are good for is sex/reproduction and we (women) cannot depend on them. She grew up during the hippie movement and since my parents divorced so quickly, her acknowledgement towards men changed a lot. She believes women are just as capable as men to do basically anything. My Grandma, on the other hand, was more exquisite. She believed in hard work, but also manners, respect, and etiquette. My Grandma would teach me how to properly set the table for Sunday dinner, how to greet the elderly, hold the doors, cross the street w/your hand up to say thank you.. things like that. Her viewpoint on men was that they are a provider, but the woman has to do her share as well. I got 2 mixed viewpoints growing up, plus I didn't have my father around, so I looked at men in a very negative way. That was not a good thing. Men are very important to this world. Just b/c some are assholes, doesn't mean ALL are.
You're not "taught" you learn by watching your parents. Or if no parents per se you learn by watching the next best thing - grandparents, aunts, uncles, older siblings, etc.
An old saying; monkey see, monkey do or you learn something & you emulate it but you don't quite understand it or the consequences associated with that learned behavior.
It is why many many people who come from dysfunctional families - parents cheating, abusive, etc. - don't know how not to be like that. Because to them this behavior is normal. Just as how for other people it is normal to be a caring respectful partner.
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Just as how someone whose parents are say crackheads is more prone to drug abuse. It isn't genetic. When you're raised thinking drugs are normal why wouldn't you do it?
Unfortunately my father worked day and night, he didn't spend much time at home and my mother left when I was 12, so I wasn't really taught of anything.
My grandma only said that if a guy keeps pulling my pony tail, that's because he likes me.
That's about it.
I was taught to treat all people with respect, and to pick my close friends carefully. As for rules specifically for men, I was taught to keep my distance, especially in college, and to be very careful with men concerning my privacy and safety. I was shown many real world examples of stalkers, rapists, murderers, and other relevant criminals by my parents to convince me to at least be careful. Simple rules like, "travel in groups at night", "don't give your info to strangers", and "only drink what a bartender gives you directly".
Nothing else, really.
Equally mostly. Seriously. Unless it's in like 5 different scenarios (asking out, relationships, identity, shit of that nature). I'm a true equalist now than I was when I was a kid, because I realized it's logically inconsistent. You offer someone help if they look like they need it, man or woman, and they don't ask you at all. Hold doors for people, either gender. If a man beats me to the elevator first, I'll extend him the same courtesy of offering first, even though he'll tell me to go ahead of him. Talk to people like they're halfway reasonable and intelligent, man or woman.
Really nothing. Other than my friends, “romantic interests” I felt like most dudes ain’t sh*t. My father is a crap weak person and that just shaped how I felt about guys only to be reinforced by meeting guys that weren’t sh*t. So I don’t treat them much like anything.
I used to hangout with the boys growing up as I was kinda tomboy. So behaviours and manners were learned from the boys. I was never taught much about how to treat them other than I wasn’t allowed to Sack them when I was mad because that could affect their reproduction one day lol! All I can think of was that we were taught to be inclusive with everyone and that no matter gender or race we treat everyone how we want to be treated.
I was raised that a man should be the head of his household I'm little more old fashioned about relationships honestly. I feel if a man is working hard for you he should have a hot meal he enjoys on the table when he gets home clean house whatever he enjoys after work ready to go including me hahaha
Well growing up I learned that men are allowed to do everything and a woman should stay home and be a servant basically and be there for all of his needs and do all the household etc... but i absolutely hate this about the turkish culture! Worse shit ever. So degrading.
I will treat a man, the same I will treat a woman , means with basic respect towards a human being.
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