lol. i don't really give a damn about anyone's opinion other than that of my family, a few teachers/professors, and a couple other mentors and role models in my life. and of course, if you are kind and you respect me, i will show you the same kindness and never intentionally do anything to hurt your feelings. when someone makes fun of me however, i just look at them and start laughing like a maniac. that usually makes them very uncomfortable. i don't get sad when these losers are rude to me. if anything, i get angry and have to really keep myself from saying what's on my mind, as i would not want anyone to beat my ass. but i usually do things like show them the middle finger while pretending to scratch my head or examine my rings without making direct eye contact. they will sometimes laugh or glare/stare at me. in those cases, i usually ignore them and act like they don't exist, or am subtly rude back (scratch my ass, pretend to pull out a wedgie, do a fake burp, start laughing like crazy, start picking my nose and examining the contents in front of them). that should really give them something to talk about. really.
the way to stop bullies/rumors/toxic people is to show them that they mean nothing to you. the way you do that is by acting weird in front of them. i've had a couple of bitches laugh like hyenas and start looking me up and down. i laughed right back and blew them a kiss. i've also had a bitch go in front of me while i was waiting for the bus and pretended not to have seen me. of course, i ran right in front of her and made sure to get my ass in front of her face while going up the stairs extremely slowly. really. don't show these assholes that they bother you. just show how much them and their opinion do not matter to you. i used to get really upset when people would isolate me or bully me, but hell, the older i get, the less damns i give about those who disrespect me
i am super kind, compassionate, and genuine with people who are kind and genuine with me. i am never rude to anyone unless i am given a reason. but when i am given a reason, oh boy. i know a few flowery words in the English language.
and if a person is really rude to you, then speak up for yourself. don't be subtle. tell them directly. for instance, i had one girl who wasn't a looker always glare at me and be really passive aggressive towards me. one day, she "accidentally" stepped on me multiple times and put her fat ass in front of me. that was the final straw. i just told her, "it must really hurt your self-esteem to know that prettier, smarter, and more successful people exist on this planet."
When you fully understand why people say the things they do, you realize it’s usually more about them than it is about you. As long as you are doing your own thing, standing up for your values and beliefs, and being true to who you are, why would you care what others think or say? You shouldn’t.
To take notice... yet alone offense, you MUST first give validation to the 'credentials' of any who would place themselves in a position to sit in judgement of YOUR life!
WHAT have THEY themselves accomplished or overcome? The famous late Comedian Groucho Marx once quipped: "I would not accept membership in any club or fraternal organization who'd have ME as a member!"
If walking down a street and you encounter a seemingly belligerent dog barking threateningly at you... are you going to invest the time to befriend it OR... drop down on all fours, TO ITS LEVEL and also bark back threateningly?
Rather than waste your time, you RATIONALLY side-step that Cur OR... if it persists, you SOLVE the dog's problem once and for all... EXPEDIENTLY as an 'example' to it's Peers, and to your audience awestruck, YOU are now "the Alpha" ~
You realize that they aren't intelligent, aren't helping to make your life better, don't have your best interests in mind, likely know very little about you, and likely have their own f*cked-up issues to deal with.
If you need to see what these people look like and act like (as grown-ass adults, mind you), then just spend ten minutes on Instagram or Reddit. Then you'll see they're pathetic manchilds not worth paying any attention to, who usually only talk crap to hide their own sad misery in life. Trust me, once you see people for who they really are, you'll legitimately pity them, rather than care what they have to say...
It's about having self confidence. Knowing none of the shit is true. And not stooping to their level letting them know it bugs you. Sure it can be annoying but u gota learn to choose ur battles. And most of the time the person talking shit is just immature and jealous of something.
My philosophy regarding that and what works for me is, one, they don't help me pay my bills nor feed me.
Secondly, there are 8 billion people on this earth, it's literally inevitable that they aren't hundreds of millions of people you will never meet that won't like you no matter what say, don't say, do or don't do.
Accept and embrace it that some people will always say bad things behind your back nor like you no matter what.
I never cared about what they thought of me because I do not give a shit about them, they could get hit by a car and i could care less so why would I care about what they think of me?
Because I know that the ones that are saying the most, most likely don't know anything about me and if they did they would know that all the leaves on my give a fuck tree have already fallen off.
I dress for myself and not to impress men or make my girlfriends jealous. I’ve gone to a wedding wearing a pantsuit instead of a dress. I wear flats to a club and white shirts when everyone is wearing revealing and sparkly outfits.
Confrontation Cowards hate. But I suggest you just ignore and be appear more handsome more and more. Buy new clothes and shoes, make a good hair, just give them more things to talk about, but this time, they're gonna have to feel like dying
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