What has more of an effect on you, kind words from a stranger or your family?

[NerdyAndTall]

[MCheetah]

A stranger. I don't really have family; just an abusive mother and half-sister, so "family" means nothing to me. (I'm the anti-Toretto.) I can't remember the last time anyone has ever complimented me, but I assure you, it wasn't a woman. I don't think a woman has ever genuinely complimented me in my entire life. A few men might have called me intelligent or something, though. But I genuinely can't remember when that last was. Also never been hugged, either.

I think women get complimented every day, usually by men, but it's never enough for them. They are addicted to it, LOL! Men regularly go on long droughts without nice words given to them. I'm not trying to make this a gendered thing; it's just true.

[nolabels]

Having family extend kind words means much more to me than those from a stranger.

If a stranger says something kind about me, I immediately think that it'd be nice if my family were to acknowledge the same things about me.

I take what I get and welcome it.

I don't dwell on feeling unappreciated by family.

That's a recipe for bitterness.

I just live.

I make continuous efforts to compliment my family, yet it doesn't seem to get returned in kind very often at all.
Maybe there are nice things that I should acknowledge regarding my family, but I may fail to see them.
This question will make me consider that more often.

[nolabels]

Thanks for MHO!

[NerdyAndTall]

Thank you for the detailed answer!

[NathanDavis]

to me, words have much more value from those I know and also know me, then ones I am close and closer with... but I can still appreciate both and I do

and I also know that kindness can have a great impact as well, even if it is from strangers... a couple of times, I've just given a hug to people because I could tell they really really needed one at the moment, they just had to let it all out, whatever they were feeling because I did not ask, they were just at the brink of tears, so I felt I could do it... it was just a couple of minutes but they really appreciated it.

[SaintsSinners]

Honestly, I don't give something about that no matter where it comes from. There is a reason why, when I came to the USA I get to much of it, things like handsome, hun, and even love, for me that was sus from the beginning, in my home country we don't make so many compliments, we have a saying that is like "no complaint is praise enough" I don't know if the saying works in English too😅

[Kaneki05]

Stranger's they have more weight because they have less reason to be kind. Like when a register women in a shop told me she loved my hair. That was great.

[Little_Bumblebee]

Strangers. They usually have no emotional obligation to be kind.

If a stranger says they like my work, I would love it more than if my mom does.

[Cherry234]

Kind words from a stranger. It's nice because the person doesn't know all of my faults that my family knows about so it affects me in a positive way

[SunnySensei]

I would say family, Miss cause their words mean more to me then the people I don't know whether what my family say is good or bad.

[karaspara]

A stranger can put me in a good mood just by being polite/friendly but of course to me it means more when it comes from someone i'm close to

[EmbraceThePain]

Stranger.


Makes it more real, whatever they said.

[Still-alive]

family

but sometimes having a fresh pair of eyes seeing you objectively is refreshing too

[scooogy]

Strangers, because I gave up on telling my family members when they didn't seem to understand me.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Family. Hey, I thought of something funnier than 22..

[Shy_Steve]

Kind words from my family because it doesn't happen often.

[Slim57]

Stranger because its random and almost never happens

[Cassieee18]

Both if the kind words are genuine.

[Wise4myage]

Kind words from a stranger.

[JesseJayNeak]

Both but especially strangers

[ChrisMaster69]

Strangers hands down

[FinalFantasyBro]

I think my family well sometimes

[groupsexlove]

foreign words ;)

[Iron_Man]

My family

[LemiaOfChampions]

A bit of both really

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

not sure

[MrJMM]

None.