Most childfree couples hate children: true or false?

[anon1903]

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Um, there's difference between child free and child less, the former implies choosing not to have them.

[Screenwriter]

I know teachers who love teaching kids, but dont personally have children. When you've got 20 plus a day, one or two more at home might make you snap!

But seriously, teaching children and raising children are two different things. A gay doctor can look at vaginas all day as a gynecologist. That's his job. He doesn't have to go home and have sex with one. Same difference.

Children are a fulltime lifetime job. you're never NOT a parent. You love them and worry about them for life. Sure, they grow up and go out on their own. You still wonder if you did all you could for them.

You never have to go to PTA meetings, bring anyone to the doctor but yourself, make playdates. You're free to drop everything and go off to Cabo or the Great Barrier Reef. You don't have to save for college, clothes, schoolbooks.

Children are expensive and a crapshoot. You have no idea how they'll turn out. You can do your best and fail. They are not you, but are their own beings; unique.

You can have a good life contributing to the world and helping without being a parent. Has nothing to do with hating children. has to do with choosing a life without the complication of childrearing. It is complicated and time consuming and frustrating. The payoff is a long way in the future at best and sometimes there is no payoff.

Most childless couples dont regret not having kids. Just as most parents don't regret having kids. To each their own. There is enough room for all kinds. Parents support kids as much as aunts and uncles do. The childless have experience of others' children and some of that joy. Thers' plenty to spread around!

[esn9464]

It's more complex than just 'hating children'

[ohshee]

I know a few people that are not interested in having kids and I think that's basically because of the way you were brought up I think that they are looking ahead into the future and not knowing where our world is going and they just don't want to bring kids into this world knowing are having a bad feeling and where we are headed and they are being honest with themselves responsible and mature enough to make this choice I personally love kids I have two of them it would best things in my life but I honestly feel if I am very blessed and lucky to have my kids when I did because today I think my choice would be different just for the fact things are going to get worse before they get better

[ShadezMcgee]

No, not entirely. Maybe they just want to live their lives together instead of having responsibility to raise a kid or maybe they don't feel they would be good parents. There is a myriad of reasons why. Not solely based on hating children.

[AmandaYVR]

No, hate is a very harsh word. Children shouldn't be hated.
Aside from economic reasons not to have kids and beliefs in world overpopulation and lack of resources and opportunity, it's really more about the attitude of many parents, that they believe they are raising the next little geniuses or stars. Kids might start out innocent and 'pure', but nobody ends up that way. Parents feeling entitled to have as many children as they want, to spread these genes into the future, and create little mini-me's in their image, and then not having the resources or time or emotional energy to care for them all properly... that is more the issue.
Many people much prefer their own kids, to other peoples' kids. They're tolerating others, quite often. (Except when they're within the family. Some of those family members really love as well.)
Children are selfish beings. But that's understandable. They have to be taught to behave, be kind, share, all that. Seeing kids who are spoiled, or left up to their own devices to a large extent, raised by screens, don't have important values instilled in them, eventually grow up with feelings of entitlement thinking they really are the best, worthy, deserving, and don't need to slog their way up, just like everyone else did... you can sort of guess who might turn out to be a selfish adult. But it's not the kids' fault. It's the parenting, more so.

[t-8900]

some people just dont have the time or energy for kids. I know people that love kids but work too many hours, are married to their careers, or they are just getting up in years. Also doesn't meant they aren't awesome aunts/uncles to their nieces and nephews. Others are responsible enough to realize that they aren't parent material, not everyone is. Better to not have kids than to have kids you can't really take care of for one reason or another.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Just because people decide not to have children, that's a big jump to think it means they hate children. There could be many reasons people choose not to have a child.. Without actually knowing those reasons, people shouldn't jump to conclusions or label them as child haters

[OlderAndWiser]

If a couple has the ability to conceive but chooses to not have children, that means that they "hate" the idea of what a child or children would do to their freedom and ability to maintain the lifestyle of their choosing. It doesn't mean that they hate children and cannot be trusted around little people.

[Wraith_Cemetery]

I'm in a child free relationship. I haven't chosen that lifestyle out of "hate" for children. I would love to raise a child of my own. I chose this lifestyle due to the fact that I have a severe mental illness that I don't want to pass down through my genes. It's a sacrifice that I am willing to make.

[Lynx122]

No people like to pet a dog but not everyone wants to take care of one. Just because you don't want the responsibility or maybe you don't think you're even capable of taking care of a child doesn't mean you hate kids. I don't think I'll ever have kids but I don't hate them at all.

[Inexpensivefurniture]

You don't have to hate something to know you don't want it. I love my neices and nephews, I think I'm good with kids, but I know I don't want to be a parent

[user1516]

A lot of explanations to this:
1. Can’t reproduce
2. Don’t feel ready yet
3. They don’t want children because of a Childhood trauma experience
4. Not financially stable
5. They could be in an emotionally unstable relationship and don’t want to bring children in the world while they’re suffering.

[Jessica405]

I think that is false. My guy and I do not want kids, same as some of our uni friends. I certainly like kids, but it is nice to hand them back to a parent when I have had enough of playing "horse" with an energetic 5 year old!

[TwinkleLily5]

Hate is too strong of a word. I think some people such as myself (who has no kids but have tons of nieces and nephews who I adore) find children irritating or annoying sometimes.

[TwinkleLily5]

*I didn’t see the update

[boggboss]

Some do others don't I don't think its a general rule of thumb that they hate kids they don't want the responsibility of kids fair enough but don't mean they have a dislike for kids

[humpbackjack]

I’m sure there’s quite a few that kids aren’t there favorites but hates an awful strong emotion to have against kids in general but I’d say just more couples that aren’t able to have kids or are waiting for whatever reason or maybe even found there SO too late in life to have kids as there are that don’t want kids. I’d say very very few that actually hate kids

[CaptainRonnie]

I think false. Childfree couples may dislike the idea of being parents, but couples that "hate children" is pretty extreme and I think those people are a small minority.

[Madhatter920]

"Hate" is too strong of a word, but most child-free couples at the very least do not want children for any number of reasons.

[Pink2000]

False. Just because you don’t want children doesn’t mean you hate them.

[ChiPaPa]

I've met some that do and some that don't. There could be a number of possibilities. Maybe, they're putting their career first, having trouble conceiving, want to wait til they can get a house, etc.

[sunshineglow]

I love children bit I will not have them as far as I am convinced now. So.

[Kaneki05]

Hopefully. Because then it matches the reason why i would be in a childfree relationship.

[lisapisatisa]

Absolutely not! Remember, not everyone is able to have children, so you may be generalising a lot of people in that kind of statement. My aunt doesn't have kids but was the best a most fun person to be with growing up as a kid!

For some people, they may love kids but just not be in a right place life-wise to have & support one of their own

[GoldenAxer]

False for me and my wife although I'm not sure about the majority. We're simply incapable of having any.

[anon1903]

I'm referring to couples who are childless by choice

[GoldenAxer]

In that case, I'm still reluctant to vote "true" because "hate" is a strong word. Someone doesn't have to hate dogs or cats to avoid having one as a pet as a crude example.

[anon1903]

True.

[GoldenAxer]

I got that impression with some of my friends (married couples) my age still childless, who, unlike me and my wife, seem to have consciously avoided children (although it's possible they have the same problems we do and just hide it). When they hang out with mutual friends who bring their children, they still adore them, play with them, etc. At least in my local area, to find a married couple who dislikes children is a truly rare thing.