Don't lie to your mom but your mom's going to do is what most mothers do they're not going to like anybody that you hang out with or is that you date she will pick him a part LOL no that's one good thing that you and your mom have together and that is trust and respect to a point you got to look at the whole picture your mom will do it she does because she knows it somewhere in time that you're going to be moving on and she hates even think about that day and so she's being selfish and she can't do that she should want the best for you and that's why she does what she does she probably just goes overboard but don't like your mom what if something was to happen nobody else would know what's going on except for all of us but we wouldn't know we just know that you're going on a date so somebody has no you're doing what you're doing you need to be safe at the same time if your mom throws a hissy fit let her say whatever she has to say and when she's done talking let her get it all out of her system you be very calm and just listen when she's done talking say thank you Mom for you input and for your concern I love you and I know you mean well but when do I get to start living and experiencing my life Mom I love you I will always be there with you for you but there's some things that I need to experience you have to be honest with her don't get upset are start being loud and boisterous because she's not hearing you it's okay that she doesn't hear you it's okay see you don't hear her you're 21 and just tell her no disrespect on but I think I'm going to try this I'm going I have to do it I'm sorry if it hurt your feelings but I need to do this for me
When I hear a woman looking for permission from mom, there is a lot we are not being told. I would imagine you're living under her roof. There is an old saying that when your legs are under your parent's table, your under their rules.
It sounds like you know some ground rules that you don't want to mess with. And here is the rub, one lie turns into another and one day you will betray your mother and the rules.
I would imagine she is still watching out for you. And your behavior sounds like it warrants it. So you go onto a hookup dating site to find a wonderful long-term relationship. It sound like you're about to learn that guys will tell you anything to drop those panties, and they will play along, especially if they think they have a virgin. Chances are high you're going to get played.
So at some point you will have to shame yourself, and you're lie, to do something selfish because you want to see this boy. Guess time to start adulting and learning the hard way that when do something like this, you're avoiding the truth.
Now if you were on your own, paying your own bills, doing your own thing, I wouldn't give you the ninth degree. And the reason I am harshing is that you're betraying your mom and destroying your character in the process. Right now, you're not seeming too good.
Hope it all works out.
You are an adult. Don’t lie to your mother. Just explain why you make the choices you do. She loves you. Any time you date someone new you always want someone to know where you are. It’s safer. If not your mother than tell close friends.
I used to do the same when I was younger. Parents don’t need to know about everything it’s your personal life. As you grow older you’ll realize that. Don’t worry too much and enjoy your life.
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Don't lie.
You should do one of two things:
1. Don't tell your mom, and if she asks, have a conversation about privacy in your personal life. No one is entitled to know everything that you do. If you were a child and needed protection and guidance to stop you from getting yourself hurt, that's a different story. Buy since you're 21, your decernment about what you do is just as valid as any other adult's.
Therefore, as you're an adult, your mom needs to accept your judgment.
2. Talk with her about independence. It's not her place to live your life for you.
If you don't have these conflicts now, while it's over something relatively small, it will be a huge problem when it's a bigger issue. (Like maybe moving out).
People will adapt to your expectations of them. If you expect them to control you, they'll continue to do so.
You can't live your life without having conflict.
Have the argument, or accept that she'll continue to control you.
You’re a grown woman and you’re allowed to date someone off of tender if you want. I understand you don’t want your mom to give you a hard time or to worry but if this dates turns into more your moms going to find out you lied to her not the end of the world but she’ll forever know you’re a lier not good and if this date goes really bad she has no idea what’s going on until she hears from the cops and she forever knows you’re a dead lier. Your moms grown also and has to know that she’s not always going to like your choices but all she can do is try and give guidance and trust in your raising
You are 21. You don't have to tell your mother anything, and you don't need her permission to go on a date. If she objects to behavior that doesn't affect her, you don't have to listen. Say something like "Mother, I'm not a child and can manage my own life without your supervision. I'll come back when you are ready to talk adult to adult."
You don't have to give your mom any details. You can simply tell her that you are going out. If she asks for details, tell her you are going for a walk in a public place with a guy you met online. If she gets upset or acts overly concerned, that is her issue, not yours.
You're 21 ... time to be an adult.
sounds like a really bad situation
the girl im "talking to", were not dating or even having sex yet... though she's sort of kind of hinted at it, maybe
i haven't even told my parents about yet, mainly because im not sure where this is going
but, i didn't meet her on tinder, A HOOKUP APP
not a good idea
Is she concerned because you are a liar or because you don't know how to keep yourself safe? You shouldn't be going walks with random dudes. Maybe you should stay in some public place like a restaurant, coffee shop, nice bar, etc. and figure out who he is first.
If your mom asks you, then tell her the truth. Or you could ask her that she recognize you as an adult and that you’re not a teenager anymore. Learn to be assertive and pleasant at the same time.
Eventually you are going to see the value of completely being your own person and supporting yourself, including your own place to live.
1. Don't lie
2. Make sure someone, if not your mom has this guy's info. Tinder is dangerous. I've heard too many horror stories.
No, just say you going for a walk. No need to mention the guy. It's the truth just not the whole truth.
here is a slut who lies to her mother about boyfriends (I guess daddy isn't there anymore) and at the same time bitches talk about men who avoid responsibility of their actions.
No, you should be an adult and stand on your own two feet.
This person is a stranger and you someone should know your plans if something happens. Stay in public places where other people are.
Then after she finds you strangled to death , she will be lost for words because "you" never did that type of stuff.
Be honest so they know where to look for your body.
you should tell her the truth. you aren't doing anything wrong so why should you have to lie
Just say I’m going out for a bit and not lie but not tell her directly either
If you feel you need to lie in order to spare any drama, then do it.
You should be honest. If she find out the truth, she will be mad with you too.
no don't lie to her just I need to go alone !
Then just don't tell her.
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