I need help making friends?

[CanadianIslander]

I just got out of a 3 1/2 year relationship where I wasn't allowed to make friends, since I am no longer with said person, I've forgotten how to make friends. Any tips?

[OrdinaryDaniel]

Making friends is really simple.

Whenever I see a person I like and want to be friends with them, I use a simple formula.

I walk up to them and say, “Hey, wanna be friends? I think you’re cool because [insert unique quality about them] and I really want a friend I can [activity they like to do] with.”

I have never gotten rejected with this upfront. Girls and guys have always accepted.

Then, you have to follow up.

Send them a text, “Hey, you free to [activity they like to do] this weekend?”

They’ll say yes or no. If they say yes, you have a new friend. Hanging out the first time is the biggest barrier to starting a friendship. If they say no, but try to reschedule as in “I’m not free then, but could we do it next weekend?” they’re not free but genuinely interested in being friends with you. If they say no with no effort to reschedule, they’re probably not that interested in being friends with you. Take your L and move on.

But, I’ve had a 80% success rate with this method. It’s upfront, people know your intentions, and your friendship starts immediately.

For example, there was this girl in my golf class. I saw her in golf, talked to her a couple of times, but we never became friends. I noticed she played a lot of intramurals because I’d play against her in basketball and football. One day I saw her at the bars.

I walked up, said “Hey! I see you play against me in intramurals all the time! It’s so hard to find girls who play multiple sports for intramural teams. Wanna be friends and make a team?”

She said yeah. We were probably on 10 teams together from football, volleyball, basketball, ultimate frisbee, and tennis. We won 5 championships. We became really close friends and I still talk to her to this day.

Making friends doesn’t have to be hard. Just be up front about it.

[RobT312]

Sounds like an awful relationship.
an easy start to that is go join a club that does an activity you like... it can be anything.
easy to make friends with people that share the same interests. For example , I joined a running club... I met some friends I’ll have forever and even met my wife to be!

[skyeee01]

Well i'm glad you've got out of what sounds to be a not so good relationship!!
You can always start a new club or pick up a hobby? Its nerve wracking at first but guarantee someone will always speak to you!!

You can always approach someone, say hey i see you're doing "whatever they're doing" i enjoy that too, maybe we could hang some time?

Have you got a job? I have made so many friends at my job!!

Once you make one friend it is so likely you will meet there's etc etc, i met my boyfriend through my best friend and now half of my friends are through him!!!

[kellogg0224]

Go to your local bar and just be yourself. If you're anxious, have a shot or two before.

[yug_a_tsuj]

Bumble before, worked for my sister

Work/school

Go to same place every day, do what you are interested in, and look at people around you, if you see someone you saw before, talk to them

There is a lot of different ways to make friends it's about what works for you

[yug_a_tsuj]

Bumble bff

[Citizenkirk]

Why weren't you allowed to make friends, and why did you stay with this person? Making friends is as easy as finding people with common interests as you too hang out with. Sports, volunteer work, and social media are some ways to make friends.

[Tiptoetamm]

It's hard asking new friends when you've been out of the game but just be yourself interact with people. It's pretty second nature to me I'm super outgoing person I can talk to anyone.

[SlothySlob]

I'd suggest joining a discord group of a topic or hobby that you love.

[888theGreat]

I have had friends that don't want you to have other friends

[Iron_Man]

Right now you’ll have to make computer friends

[In_Trance]

talk to people