Does grief ever go away completely?

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Adam_DoesArt · Accepted Answer

I don't think so. You CAN distract yourself for a while, and try not to think about it. You may even get to the point after a long enough time, where you don't think about it much at all, but eventually those people will come to mind, and those powerful emotions will resurface.

I do think it's true though, when people say it gets easier with time. When my mother passed away in February 2019, there wasn't a day I didn't grieve over her passing. I was an absolute mess, and without a social network to reach out to, it just kept resurfacing everyday, often as I tried to sleep for work, or on especially bad days. The second year started out similarly, but after focusing on several hobbies to distract myself, I found the strong feelings of regret, and sadness started to wane.

Now 3 years later, although she still comes to mind fairly often, and knowing if I think about the time I spent in the hospital with her, I'll still feel miserable, those thoughts and feelings are far more spread out, and I'm able to live some kind of normal life again.

I think the best thing someone can do, when trying to deal with grief, is to partially distract themselves with hobbies, and be more social with your friends. Good luck to you. 🙂👍

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

I would say that you will never forget, but the grieve does go away if you take a healthy approach toward it. There is a difference between gilt, regret and grieve and some people put blame on themselves unnecessarily, others regret what was lost knowing there is nothing they can do to regain or change it, and other just get stuck in the endless grieving proposes.

Most the time people that get caught up with gilt, can't get over the fact that other people make choices and you can't change that. The regreters are people that can't ever forgive themselves for being humans who are prone to mistakes. And greivers are the cup half empty types that can't find any enjoy in lose.

But Absolutely you can get over lose, because endless numbers of people have.

KatieB713 · Accepted Answer

The concept of grief can be thought of as a tennis ball in a glass. The tennis ball (your feeling of grief or loss) stays there throughout and never changes... however what changes in the size of glass around the ball, extended by learning coping mechanisms, maybe speaking with friends, or just learning to cope day by day... at some point it might feel like the grief is fading as the space around the tennis ball is massive and the tennis ball might not feel as big and consuming as before

dovendyret · Accepted Answer

I think you can. At some point your grief goes away - that doesn't mean you'll forget and never experience sadness over your loss again.

That mental suffering and distress that comes with grief will fade for most & fo away. That doesn't mean you'll never be sad about your loss again - it just gets easier to a point where it doesn't cause suffering and distress anymore. Loss is always painful, some losses you'll forget - some become a part of you.

ohshee · Answer

When we have grief or pain or sorrow or word mourning somebody or we are just angry that's all I know is it can only come from the inside of us so the only way to get rid of it is to deal with it we either allow it to happen or we don't allow it to happen five things that we think about but most of the time not until we get something to take its place will we let it go you have to quit letting it play inside your head all the time and inside your heart we are the only ones that control happiness and pain from the inside nobody could do it to the outside of our bodies we only do it to ourselves so I would say find something to take its place change your mind Your Heart and replace it with something beautiful

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Not if you're a good person.

But you do learn to live with it where it doesn't hurt you anymore. Just keep living life and don't let it make you bitter. Work on focusing on what's happening right now.

If you don't grow from your pain, you'll become an empty person. So go write down how you feel or sit in a quiet place and meditate or read a book.

VinnyMac · Answer

Sadly I don't believe grief ever goes away completely 😞. We move on, but we don't ever forget and that is in a way how grieving continues long after someone passes. I think people grieve other things besides someone passing away like broken relationships, families, friendships, past jobs, recovering from past trauma or abuse, depression, change, choices and decisions. Perhaps there are forms of grief besides death that can be overcome and healed so as to move on from.

blurpblurp · Answer

It's been 2 years since my dad passed away.

It was really hard for the first year, especially first 6 months. I'd cry on my way to work, when going to sleep. After 2 years, I still get sad for few minutes every a couple of days especially when I saw videos about dad and his kid. But, it gets easier. I hope it will continue that way cause it really hurts whenever I think about him.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think it ever goes away, but I'd like to think we all get to a point where the grief is no longer pain but a beautiful memory. When we hear a song or see the leaves turn colors in the fall or catch a whiff of their perfume, I'd like to think those things will someday bring a smile to my face rather than the sharp pang of loss.

mrsalyssaefron · Answer

No, but I think it gets easy with time. I just lost a good friend of mine 3 months ago and it was incredibly difficult in the beginning. I would cry every single day, not want to get out of bed. Now, I don’t cry as much. I like to hold on to the thought that she would want me to be happy.
You just have to take it one day at a time

Waldoe · Answer

NO... it settles into your bones and eventually you will get used to it... It will hurt less, it will become an old familiar companion, a reminder of what you lost. Someone that you probably do NOT want to forget... Maybe "Grief" is that person's soul gripping you hard so you don't forget them...

sammyyyyasdfghjkl · Answer

I don’t think so. I think you will always grieve the death of a loved one to an extent. You just have to continue on with life until it hurts a little less, I guess? I’m not sure. Still trying to figure it out lol.

mcrindch · Answer

It Can, You Just Have To Push Yourself Forward And Forget What Hurted You. Its Gonna Be Hard But Some Hets Over It, Some Don’t... It Goes Away Depending On The Situation , And Sometimes Grief Doesn’t Go. It All Depends On If You’re Workin on Yourself to help yourself

Genie23 · Answer

Completely? I don't know about others. But in my experience... Never. It's been over 13 years since I lost my uncle. My heart still feels heavy everytime I think of him. I miss him.

Chattyguy44 · Answer

Some would say yes it does go away, I beg to differ.
It's been nearly 10 years since my dad passed away from his sudden & quick heart attack that killed him, and I still feel like it was only yesterday that he passed, so I think it does linger.

DARKCLOUD1945X · Answer

For as long as you live there will always be a twinge of grief, it never really goes away especially if the loss was that of a mate, parent, child or sibling

DarkCarousel · Answer

No, it doesn’t. But you learn how to carry the weight of it. It will still come in waves from time to time.

ItsMeElliana · Answer

i dont think so. whenever i think about it. it all comes back. my heart hurts and i struggle to breathe

fancan · Answer

I believe that it can go away and be suppressed, but never fully. Depending on how badly it affected you can determine how much you can get over it

Godsvengeance · Answer

Of course not, but it can get less severe and less frequent. I lost my best friend tragically over 20 years ago and most days it doesn't pop into my head anymore but often times things will still remind me of what happened

goldfleur · Answer

In my case, it takes a lot of time to finally get used to the feeling. And the grief, never goes away

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

If an individual can muster the courage and the will to refuse succumbing to distress, yes.

DamnSam · Answer

Nah, it's just that you sometimes forget it but when you remember it again, it rolls over you like a train... no matter if it's a year or ten years...

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

No. It’s always there. The key is to build many many layers of good times over it. So that it becomes very hard for anything to get you down.

collie22 · Answer

anger, sadness, confusion, being overwhelmed, loneliness, frustration, resentment, shock, disbelief, guilt, regret, emptiness, confusion, fear

Anonymous · Answer

I think we all continue to grieve on some deep subconscious level. Sometimes this grief will appear in dreams or nightmares many years later.

one2many · Answer

Yes, all it takes... is time.. you start to forget them

pretty_bad · Answer

Good question I'd like to know myself cause I haven't felt different

MasonAlucardthethird · Answer

Yes, after time. I don’t think you will ever forget what it feels like though.

Layafell · Answer

I hope so but luckily don't have much experience with it

shanshu · Answer

Not really, you just learn to live with the loss over time

OddBeMe · Answer

I would say we get complacent or forgetful. Our minds get numb.

driven159 · Answer

yes, in time and the person you were grieving would not want you to grief long and get on with life

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on what it is about. I take it this about heart break?

dustybiker · Answer

Nope. Nor does the scar.

Agape93 · Answer

Maybe, if you're lucky

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Yes, because memories fade.

exitseven · Answer

Not so far. Ask me in 30more years.

JoyGirl · Answer

No, but it gets easier.

Andres77 · Answer

Some? Yes. All? No! Adjust

_no_one_ · Answer

nah it doesn't u just get used to it

aanastasia233 · Answer

In some people it might

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah but when you remember, comes back.

noohair · Answer

Yes if you live looking forward.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Grief for what?

Citizenkirk · Answer

No, it doesn't

Hellraiser1984 · Answer

Nope.

Anonymous · Answer

No. It doesn’t.

jimmy2 · Answer

With time yes

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