Do you ever notice a change in how someone you talk to responds to you overtime?

[Still-alive]

Like at first they seem enthusiastic or happy to talk to you but then seem to not respond as such later on after knowing them.

or vice versa where at first they were cold to you but warmed up to you overtime

Yes i notice changes in how someone talks to me overtime

No i dont really notice that stuff

It depends on the person

A total of 46 votes were cast: 26 girls and 20 guys. See detailed results

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+1 y

i gotta say its a pretty nice feeling when someone who was cold to you initially warms up to you. its like.. they get you now lol. i love it

[NathanDavis]

what I notice is that, over time... things get easier, more comfortable, more open... seem more natural, because I think that's the nature of communication, it just adjusts overtime, and it finds a more "natural pace"

things change, times change, people change, situations do change so yes... communication will also change, interactions as well... this is expected

the best thing to me is when I meet or talk to my long time friends again, and it won't matter if it has been two days, two weeks, or even two months... that sense of familiarity never ever goes away, even after 20 years of friendship I still get that same, great feeling of "complicity" and belonging, one of the best things in life for sure

[DonkeyDan]

I think it's fairly natural to have enthusiastic communication with people initially and it slope off over time. The process of getting to know someone can be quite strange at times. You have all this information you need to share about yourself, and want that same information from the other person too, but once you have that information there are fewer things to talk about enthusiastically. Unless you share a common bond or interest, you're never going to hit it off with everyone you meet. Also over time, you can come to realise that someone really isn't your kind of person.

[Still-alive]

ok but what about the opposite? they are initially cold to you but warm up to you later?

[DonkeyDan]

Well that could be their personality, some people are reserved or standoffish as a defence mechanism. Especially like women who are constantly getting advances from men and naturally assume that any new communication from a guy will automatically be unwanted, then they may get to know them a little and realise they aren't a thirsty mofo lol
Also some might have bern burnt in the past letting their guard down too soon. Because of past experiences I'm quite reserved and even a touch suspicious of new people, so only allow a certain percentage of myself to be known untill I've assessed that person's intentions.

[DonkeyDan]

Thanks for the MHO 👍🏻

[DizzyDesii]

If i start off wanting to talk to them hut later on i’m not initiating or enthusiastic about it then that means i lost interest in them. If its the other way around, i’d assume they’re either busy with work or lost interest in me too. Oh well. there's plenty of fish in the sea

[Still-alive]

even as just friends though? you say interest as if you mean intending to date them.

[DizzyDesii]

Thats the only people i care to befriend is whoever i intend to date and marry. Anyone i dont see myself marrying was placed to the lower level of “acquiantance”. That way i dont owe them anything like texts/calls/checkups. I talk to them when i get ready and vice versa

[Still-alive]

alrighty then

[annabananna]

I like the cold ones that warm up over time 😊 but enthusiastic people are cool too. I do sometimes feel like when they are less enthusiastic that maybe they are bored with me even though it could just be that they are more chill after getting to know you better.

[ManOnFire]

I have definitely met people like this over the years, yes. I think the ones who start out cold but warm up over time are actually the best ones, because most times the people who show you a whole lot of interest in the beginning almost always get bored later on, and usually as quickly as they were interested in you. Which is a lesson we all learn about those kinds of people.

But the ones who are very mild in the beginning but warm up over time are great because their interest in you got piqued at some point, or they became used to you and like hearing from you/talking to you, and they will often bond with you better as time goes on.

[Sonorous]

Oh yeah! Especially from people that find me interesting because of my online hobby. When they message me, they seem so interested. But then once they get to know me more, they realize how much of a fuckin loser I am 🤣 then they back away

But I don't mind because I'm an introvert that doesn't really like people much.

[wheresmrcunnunglis]

yes, and if their replies started off with detailed sentences and transitioned to one-orders. I reply in kind and simply don't engage them anymore unless absolutely necessary, but by that time it would be addressed and if they act coy. then Im cutting them off, blocking them, and moving on. Dont have time for people to be acting funny in my texts etc.

[RawIronhide]

I noticed people who are enthusiastic up front are normally the people who want something from you, like friends or casual or serious relations. People who are shy or quiet aren't trying to empress anyone, they could take you or leave you, I like the quiet ones, trouble is I'm quite and two quiet people don't socialize well lol.

[Moose304]

With a friend absolutely! In fact, you are not much of a friend if you are not taking notice of a change. People drift into and out of relationships over time. I have a solid core of several good friends going back to school. If one of us starts to change we pick up on it and start trying to figure out what is going on!

[Raphaëlle]

Sure but it really depends on the situation/person. It could be that they're busy and just give short answers or the person is loosing interest in talking with you, if they only give short answers for example.

[Still-alive]

oh you're in Finland? interesting.

[Raphaëlle]

Yepp.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Oh your referring to our first conversations, hey I can totally relate. Yup saw that happen.

[Still-alive]

im not talking of anyone in particular.

but sure i suppose.

[dustybiker]

People are never constant. We all have lives and struggles. We rarely share everything, especially struggles.

[AndrésC64]

I think it's normal for people to respond differently as they get to know you. You may become good friends with them so they may react more enthusiastically. Or, you mean not get along so well and they start responding less.

[menina]

I don't notice that but it can happen. They might lose interest in talking to you but not knowing how to tell you.

[chulo1992]

AND as I notice their change, I will match their energy and change right along with them. I am actually going through this right now with someone I thought I was close with.

[William2198]

That is them either submitting to your positive mental attitude toward them OR them revealing their TRUE nature after the honey moon period.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes I notice changes in how someone talks to me overtime

[Andro36]

yes. and I hope people notice how I respond

[llorando]

Can't say that I do.

[Still-alive]

one of these days im gonna get you to actually say more than that... :P

[llorando]

Can't say that you will.

[melanieeeB]

Yeah always

[melanieeeB]

You feel the energy or the lack of so

[Gwenhwyfar]

Sometimes sure