Am I a bad friend if I don’t let people borrow my designer clothes?

[Anonymous]

I know they’re only clothes, but I’m traumatised because I used to let my friends borrow my expensive stuff and then they’d lose it or it would get lost or they wouldn’t return it. Or they’d accidentally spill drink on it etc. Now my friends are always asking to borrow my clothes because they’re nice and expensive but I say no because I don’t want to risk it. Am I a bad friend because of this?

[CasuallySamsonite]

Nope, Hoard your good stuff like a dragon hoards gold and maidens... I used to work at a thrift store and got a pretty fair stash of swanky duds... like, to the point I was wearing nothing but Ralph Lauren PJs around the house even... Wasn't even paying retail $$$, pennies on the dollar, but still if you think I'd loan out my TrueReligion jeans or my Armani suit with the Luis Viton silk tie or my Calvin Klein coat or even my Carhart jacket and don't even get me started on footwear and high quality linens... yeah, somebody wanted me to loan it out, not happening... they can buy their own... from me even but nope nope nope. ROFL

[molonski2]

NO , not selfish at all , this gear is expensive , its also VERY expensive to get dry cleaned , you could lend on the condition that they pay for dry cleaning , and are not around smokers ,
You are not being a bad friend , you are not being selfish , your " friends " have not kept up their part of the deal.

[Anonymous]

No. Dude, those are YOUR clothes not theirs. Tell them to go save up and buy expensive clothes if they want, why would you want to risk getting your expensive/ well taken care of clothes dirty or damaged? You probably worked extra for them or maybe you didn’t still it’s your stuff so hoard them.

[bones_20]

No, they are the bad friends for not returning your things and not looking after them properly.
They are yours and you have every right to say no if you want.

[Asker]

Thank you. One of my friends is acting funny with me since I started saying no. She hasn’t ruined or lost my clothes in the past, but I just feel comfortable not lending them out anymore

[bones_20]

And that’s your right to do so. If they wanna wear it so bad, then they can go buy it and wear it as much as they want.

[Asker]

True girlll 😂

[Adam1978]

No I don't lend out my clothes. I can give them away if I am done with them and they are still usable.

[Anonymous]

No, I'll loan people money sure but items never come back right

Maybe it the softball bat that make them pay or maybe it's there honesty as good people but who cares I get my cash back so it's all good