Would You Baby And Shelter Your Kids Or Push Them To Be Successful In Life ?

[Smoke-n-Growls]

It's not a binary.

Both.

Start with a base of safety, trust, and support.

And encourage them to try and explore. When they fail and fall, be there to help them stand and recover.

Push them to realize their own power and capability, and do my best to prepare them for the world. Help them discover their skills, their strengths and weaknesses, and teach them how to regulate their emotions.

But don't abuse them.

Parenting is a very fine line, but it is not a binary. It's an insanely nuanced thing.

[WonderBell99]

Ironically, my mother does both 😂

I am sheltered, even my brother was, but he moved out when he turned 18.

I will push my kid to be successful in life. Of course, he/she needn’t be a CEO of a multimillion dollar company, but they should be happy and successful in whatever field they choose. Life is hard, and they should know it. Sheltering them from life won’t be of any help when they have to face the real word at one point. Life is cruel, life is harsh.

[exitseven]

I encouraged my kids but did not push them. I wanted them to be happy and not go into a career just because the pay was good. I made sure they had everything they needed to succeed but never pushed them.

[driven159]

If they are sheltered too much they will get eaten up and spit out the world run just run right over you

[trumpets310]

Everyone says they would push them to succeed, but unfortunately many parents just end up sheltering them (of course you can do both to some extent, but I'm talking about the overall tendancies). And from what I've seen, sheltered kids are the ones that lose control and get themselves hurt the second their parents aren't around - whether it be via getting hazed by a fraternity, or drinking too much because they have no idea how to handle freedom, or by hiding everything from their parents because they know their parents won't let them do the things that they strongly desire to do. Better to let your kids have freedom while you can still oversee them

[midnightmoon05]

Depends …
my son … he is on his own.. I just guide him. He has a good head on his shoulder… he is an “adult” trapped in a kids body.
my daughter was more difficult… she was a victim of internet sexual predator…
so it took a few years and hard to to rebuild her confidence…
interms of pushing in school … they are more serious than me…
in terms of life decisions … I had to work harder to help my daughter…
my son Knows what he wants and already doing a lot

[jshm2]

Neither.

Don't live through your kids, and don't try and be a wall around your kids.

Be their mentor and parent - not their friend and ATM.

[Fireguy17]

Cut the cord.
While you don't want to see them stumble or fail, you also don't want them to be 35 and living in your basement.

[notwoke]

my mother drove us like rented mules and while I hated her for it at the time, both my brother and I have been very successful mostly due to hard work and not giving up. Thank god for mom. If anything I she could have been even tougher on us

[zagor]

Give them the tools to make it in life, and that includes learning how to be independent. In age-appropriate increments of course.

[EnglishEuropean]

As soon as they were in nursery school I'd impress on them the importance of having a five-year plan.

[Anonymous]

shelter them
but tell them the truth about this world

and how society are nothing but pieces of shit
who have no Christ

and that they are evil
and should be careful

[humanearth]

Push them, by letting them crash and fail on their own

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

Balanced. As all things should be.