Sorry, this is long.
Recently, I had a person I considered a good friend ask for a break from our friendship for a bit. I’m not really sure what I did besides ask to hang out, I wasn’t nice about it tbh bc every time I’ve asked he says no or it gets cancelled. I asked to hang out for 10 mins one day, because this month is very hard for me and I have told them that, short version for why this month is hard for me is because my brother died several years ago after being in a coma after a car accident for almost a month. Yesterday, I apologized for not being a good friend this month and I was struggling mentally. I asked them a week ago if they wanted to walk some trails on a weekend, they never answered and so I told them I guess that’s a no like every other time I ask to hang out. I unintentionally started taking yoga in the park from the same yogi instructor but didn’t know he and his fam are taking private classes with her starting that week as well. He seemed bothered by this and asked how I knew about this instructor’s yoga, I saw a post on FB and decided to check it out and told them that, not their post but on one of the forums on there. This “friend” knows I love yoga and do it almost every day, we’ve even talked about taking a class together hence why I invited them to come on Friday, and I invited him to come to Friday class, he was kind of rude and said they went Saturday. Asked if I did something wrong, and asked what it was, he never said except we should take a break from our friendship for a while. This friend says they value our friendship yet they seem to only talk to me when it’s convenient for them, and never make plans with me. I feel like they abandoned me when I needed them the most. I feel like a bad friend. Am I a bad friend? I feel the friendship is very one sided a lot.
Recently, I had a person I considered a good friend ask for a break from our friendship for a bit. I’m not really sure what I did besides ask to hang out, I wasn’t nice about it tbh bc every time I’ve asked he says no or it gets cancelled. I asked to hang out for 10 mins one day, because this month is very hard for me and I have told them that, short version for why this month is hard for me is because my brother died several years ago after being in a coma after a car accident for almost a month. Yesterday, I apologized for not being a good friend this month and I was struggling mentally. I asked them a week ago if they wanted to walk some trails on a weekend, they never answered and so I told them I guess that’s a no like every other time I ask to hang out. I unintentionally started taking yoga in the park from the same yogi instructor but didn’t know he and his fam are taking private classes with her starting that week as well. He seemed bothered by this and asked how I knew about this instructor’s yoga, I saw a post on FB and decided to check it out and told them that, not their post but on one of the forums on there. This “friend” knows I love yoga and do it almost every day, we’ve even talked about taking a class together hence why I invited them to come on Friday, and I invited him to come to Friday class, he was kind of rude and said they went Saturday. Asked if I did something wrong, and asked what it was, he never said except we should take a break from our friendship for a while. This friend says they value our friendship yet they seem to only talk to me when it’s convenient for them, and never make plans with me. I feel like they abandoned me when I needed them the most. I feel like a bad friend. Am I a bad friend? I feel the friendship is very one sided a lot.
