How do I deal with being jealous of my sister?

[Anonymous]

Pretend that the blonde girl is my sister and that I'm the brunette girl.

I'm jealous of my sister, very jealous. How could I not be? She's 5'4, she has natural long blond shiny healthy hair, she had big blue eyes, thick long eyelashes, she has a small upturned nose, big, plump and pink lips, she has a pretty face shape, she has pretty eyebrows, she has a pretty smile, a pretty voice, she's pale, she has a perfect side profile, she just has a beautiful face (VERY BEAUTIFUL), she has glasses, she has a big butt, perky, round, and full breasts, she has a small waist, thick thighs and so on. Her face is also baby-bandi like. She looks so innocent.
She is also a talented artist, she can sing, she is caring, sweet, good with children, kind, giving, positive, feminine and so much more. She's close to perfect. And the thing is, she is younger than me.

People love her, people smile at her, people talk to her, people compliment her, people help her, people give her things, boys immediately have a crush on her when they see her and so on.
Men literally take 4 looks at her if not more when they see her, they stare at her. Groups of guys even come up to her and flirt with her.

I'm just so jealous of her, I want to be her. I'm not even a quarter as good as her.

I don't know what to do because it ruins my relationship with her i avoid her because I can't stand the jealousy I feel when I'm around her.

What do I do? How do I deal with this jealousy?

Also for wondering what I look like, I have frizzy and dry dark brown hair, I'm skinny, (no breasts or glutes) I'm shorter than my YOUNGER sister, I am normal in skin tone, I have crooked teeth, an ugly smile, a big nose, I have small lips, small close set eyes, I have an overbite and an ugly side profile, I have a weird face shape, big ears, weird hairline and I have a long torso and I have glasses.

[OldWorldOrder]

What is the true source or the jealousy here? Do you really covet your sister's face & body? Or is it the *attention* she gets from having that face & body? That makes a bit more sense, doesn't it?

I kinda get the jealousy part, I'm not great looking or real tall or rich or anything like that. But sitting around hating on people & being all sour doesn't really help you improve your life.

If you want attention from men, you can do things to make yourself more attractive. But then you've also got to ask yourself, "What kind of men do I want to attract, and why? To what end?"

Overall, just try to narrow down exactly what it is you want in life, and why. And then use logic & formulate a plan to achieve those things, without wasting time & energy being all mad at your sister lol. You have to believe that you can take steps to improve your own life and be happier.

[Asker]

I'm not mad at her.. I love her with all my heart, I mean she's my little sister. The jealousy that I feel is more of like a jealousy which makes me hate myself and feel insecure. I would never hate her because she has something I don't.

Yes you're very right, and I'll think about it definitely. I'll work on myself and stop focusing on the things that I'm not or can't have, it's just a waste of time. Instead I'll focus on the things I can improve both physically and mentally so that I become the best version of myself.
If a guy really loves me he'll pick me even over my gorgeous sister. Who knows, maybe the right guy will come along if I love mysef and improve myself.

Also don't feel insecure! I'm sure you're handsome, don't worry about your height.

[jahaims]

Jealousy is an immature emotion. Water your own grass instead of being envious of your neighbors.

[Asker]

Alright, thank you.

[Fineasaaa]

Jealousy is so so so common, I am sure you are not that bad like you described yourself, you are just overthinking everything, you will be fine.

[Asker]

I hope so, I really should get myself together and stop focusing on what I'm not and what I can't have. It's just a waste of time.

[kyzer]

don't feel like that hit me up xo

[Asker]

Thank you, that's so sweet but I'msure you'd fall in love with her if you ever met or saw her.

[Anonymous]

So... is she single?😆

[Asker]

Yeah, she is. 😔😤 I'll probably die alone. 🥲