Is it considered rude to tell a jealous and toxic friend that they are jealous and toxic?

[Anonymous]

I am about to dump a very toxic friend, who was clearly trying to sabotage me and my life in many ways, and I know it was due to jealousy and competition. I kind of just want to let her know how she has hurt me in the years we've been "friends" before I dump her. Would it be mean/harsh of me to tell her I know she was jealous? Is it bad form to say that someone is jealous of you? Or should I just point out her toxic behaviours that hurt me?

[HollyK21]

You wouldn’t be wrong to tell her how you feel, you’d probably feel regretful if you didn’t. Just go into the situation expecting the worst but hoping for the best. There are some people who receive those sorts of conversations in a mature way and can have a healthy conversation about the things troubling you in your friendship. But 9/10, toxic people don’t like hearing that they’re toxic and often don’t even agree. She’s likely argue with you and find a way to flip the script, making you the bad guy and her the victim.

[Guccigabbana18]

I mean you can say that, but it probably won't do you any good because no one admits they are jealous of anyone. I reckon its probs better to just point out her behaviour. Jealous people know they are jealous they don't need you to tell them that lol

[Guy13]

Graciousness. Right now she can not blame you assuming you have not acted out. “It’s not a relationship that I wish to continue”…IF and WHEN it comes up

[serious]

No, it is not. You can tell her on her face. Upfront.

[Blackcosmo]

Of course it's not rude. People who are toxic don't deserve respect so tell her straight to her face whatever you think.