So basically 3 weeks ago i decided to reach out to my ex bestfriend we haven’t spoken in 9 months even though we go to the same school. We stopped being friends because she distanced her self and hanged out with a new group of friends we also had a argument about that and she said she felt left out when she was with me. At first i messaged her to catch up and that was it. But my emotions got the best of me and in that moment i expressed to her all my feelings of how i want to be friends again. She genuinely seemed happy about this and said that “nobody has ever done this for her” and accepted that we should be friends again. She showed that she cared by asking me about my family and my day almost most days.
For the first two weeks it was going good and we spoke everyday on text but i noticed that she only responded at night to me which was a red flag. I asked her if she was serious about this friendship and she said she is. She knows my friends don’t like her as i told her and i asked her if she told any of her new friends about this, she says no. Which is a bit odd because why would u try to hide it unless ur embarrassed?
After i asked her if she’s serious, she started to reply to me during the day. But then a few days ago i spoke to my other friend and they said that i should take things slow with her and keep it civil for now until i see things going forward. So i tell her that and i am currently left on delivered for 3 days and she never does that. She may have taken it the wrong way? I don’t know what to do because she keeps on giving mixed signals. Is she playing me? or is she genuine? I don’t want to put effort into someone who doesn’t even appreciate it. And i feel like her friends are somewhat behind this.
What should i do? Because it’s embarrassing for me to just block her after all i said and to see her in school without sorting things out. I’ve already placed all my pride on the line so i don’t want to make things worse.
For the first two weeks it was going good and we spoke everyday on text but i noticed that she only responded at night to me which was a red flag. I asked her if she was serious about this friendship and she said she is. She knows my friends don’t like her as i told her and i asked her if she told any of her new friends about this, she says no. Which is a bit odd because why would u try to hide it unless ur embarrassed?
After i asked her if she’s serious, she started to reply to me during the day. But then a few days ago i spoke to my other friend and they said that i should take things slow with her and keep it civil for now until i see things going forward. So i tell her that and i am currently left on delivered for 3 days and she never does that. She may have taken it the wrong way? I don’t know what to do because she keeps on giving mixed signals. Is she playing me? or is she genuine? I don’t want to put effort into someone who doesn’t even appreciate it. And i feel like her friends are somewhat behind this.
What should i do? Because it’s embarrassing for me to just block her after all i said and to see her in school without sorting things out. I’ve already placed all my pride on the line so i don’t want to make things worse.
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Do they have value to you ⁉️
yeah a lot because i’m not the type of person who goes back to someone i really do care about her
As an Adult often space makes the heart grow fonder as well as the Value of another increase. Sometimes, you have to stop and let it be what it will be. Relationships, whether simply friends, friends with benefits, and/or boy/girlfriends have to be rebuilt.
Too much pressure can make it seem like work. That feeling and relationship formation are at odds with one another. BACK OFF but be friendly and not time consuming.
thank you i needed that i will use ur advice and see how it goes :)
Good luck 🍀
give up try it on a new person
Doesn't seem like either of you want to be friends
Because you think you can fix that guy.
huh?
Sometimes it is best just to move on.