How do you console a widow?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Among many things, I keep taking care of my father's widow (not my mother), sometimes having lunch with her, sometimes with my half-brother too, and occasionally go out for a walk. Sometimes she cries but I make her laugh a lot too.

[hahahmm]

Sounds like you're on the right track. Don't fall into the trap of trying to replace your father and having to do 100% of whatever she doesn't feel like doing tho. She's probably still young. You gotta know when to say, 'no' or be more about showing her how to do something on her own instead of you taking the job over.

[hahahmm]

And if she's the type who wants somebody to do a lot for her & doesn't want to do it for herself then she needs to (eventually) find a new man.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Thank you. To be honest, she barely a decade older than me, not 40 yet. She doesn't know how to do a lot of things, but me and other relatives are showing her how to do them and handle her finances.

[hahahmm]

That's good. Sounds like your dad was a traditional type (like me), The problem is guys like that often forget to make provisions for what happens when they die & wife is left alone suddenly. I've seen the worse case scenarios & I planned ahead.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Yes, he was 63 when he died and had his own businesses and everything. He left things so that his widow doesn't need to work, but she needs someone to manage the finances. My father did, and now I do that.

[lightbulb27]

find her a boyfriend on GAG from another country. that will keep her busy.

often I've seen people die after losing a spouse they've had for so long, I think it really breaks their heart. People do become intertwined emotionally. glad you can support her. Maybe can help by reflecting on her life, digging into details, exporing things to look forward to, talking about heaven and how she can give back. that's what people are thinking about at that age...

[WhitneySnow]

Hold her hand send her flowers remind her of the good times she shared with her husband and the good times she can still have ahead with the rest of her family

[Rania05]

I think you're doing just fine

[OlderAndWiser]

There are no words which remove the pain from a grieving heart, but having someone with whom to share that grief makes it more bearable. You are already doing what you need to do.

[Jouth]

You speak as if you know from experience. I am incredibly sorry if this is true

[OlderAndWiser]

@Jouth I have experienced some losses in my life. That is what happens by the time you reach age 67.

[Guy13]

Keep a presence. Listen without much opinion. Know it is likely to be a roller coaster especially if he handled financial affairs

[Andres77]

Help her navigate the administrative nightmare of figuring out her finances until she’s stable again

[Andres77]

Helping her find stability and security

[maximumpower]

You don't have to say anything, just be available for her.

[Jouth]

console her with a console

xbox with nintendogs will make her stop crying

[dustybiker]

Listen.