Suppose a woman is crying. How can a man be helpful or supportive to a woman, who's crying and calm her down? Be it a friend, someone you know or a girlfriend.
Just be there for her. You don't even need to open your mouth. (In fact, sometimes your own words will make things worse, so just speak when spoken to. If you open you mouth, provide assurance as needed.)
If you do open your mouth, a good 1st question is if she needs space or company. If she reports she need space, comply but also make known that you'll still there for her and available to help if/when she calls. If she says she needs company, stay watch, listen, and try your best to understand her. Let her say what she needs, let her let it all out, and just let her get it out of her system. (Take nothing personally. That's just her distress speaking.) Just mind her, make sure she's safe, and that she feels safe.
Offer an invitation for a hug. If she needs it, she'll take it. If she doesn't, let that her be her decision. And if she takes the offer, don't let go of her until she lets go first. Patting the back and/or back of the head might also raise effectiveness of the countermeasure.
Many Girls are different the way of comfort, but Here's what I'd do: If my Girl were ever to start crying, sobbing, or near to bursting, I'd wrap my arms around Her, squeeze Her like a bottle of toothpaste, and gently, deeply sigh. (a deep voice might calm Her) I'd run my fingers down Her hair, rub her arms, sway back and forth, and whisper words of comfort. Perhaps if She's interested, I'll give her back rubs, massages, a cup of Tea, anything!
Ask if she wants a hug. Be receptive to her response. She may want to be left alone, if that's what she says, do so. If you know her well, before you leave, tell her to text/call you if she needs anything. If she doesn't want to be left alone, do whatever she tells you she needs, be it giving her a hug, getting her a tissue/some water, listening to her rant, or just sitting with her. What kind of comfort she needs will depend on the woman and the situation, so I can't give a general answer. Just try to be gentle and open to whatever she may need.
For me, I appreciate being hugged. For one, it feels nice, and two, I get easily embarrassed about crying in front of people and don't want for my face to be seen (I'm an extremely ugly crier, lol), so it's better if my face is over your shoulder or buried in it.
Otherwise, it depends on what I'm crying about as far as what to say, but anything nice I appreciate.
Personally its the emotional support that counts. The fact someone cares about her enough to comfort her and give her someone to share the pain with goes a long way. But personaly ill try and help her find solutions, systemic problem solving is in my nature.
That all depends on whether I can find or see an avenue of delivering her from what is hurting her so. IF there is a way that I can lift her spirit by reason, fact, and/or encouragement, and debunk any wrongful myth or fear which is haunting her, then yes, I can happily free her from the horrible burden which torments her. (Duty calls).
Ask what you can do to help. (These days ) don't assume they want a hug. Ask first. Maybe they just want someone to listen. Fine: sit and listen. Try to guide them to a more secluded area if you are out in public. Don't ask "why" if you don't agree with a request: just be there for her, no questions asked. After you part that day/time/whatever, if you already know her, you might want to give a follow-up phone call the next day just to check-in on how she's doing.
If someone crying in front of you , they truly trust you, if you want to calm them down just listen to them what they want to say. See the problem try to solve them (the part which you can ) if she is suffering from something else be there for them Like hug them hard and tell that you are there for them (and be true that you would be there)
If she cries because of me. You know where is the door... you know you can't manipulate me with your tears...
If she cries because of someone else. I hear her complains/doubts and try to find a rational solution for her problems. If I'm not in a relationship and she cries because she needs body contact and I like this girl, I give her what she needs.
Give her a hug don't say its okay say your sorry don't ask what happened let her say it when she wants to say it offer her tissues ice cream maybe don't say anything don't be rational just say I'm sorry I can't belive x happened your safe now etc
Maybe a generalization, ladues please correct me if im wrong. First thing, dont try to calm her down, encourage her to "LET IT OUT". Works well for my wife and also most of my female friends.
When I'm crying I need to be left alone in order to calm myself down. When someone tries to comfort me it really only makes things worse 😅 So I would say this depends on the woman.
I often cry when I feel overwhelmed or frustrated, usually because of my cycle. And honestly just put your arms around a girl for a few minutes and hold her close, she'll be alright.
Women are way stronger than men and they only cry when the situation is grave and unjust. In this case, the lady needs to be put to comfort, needs a glass of water and face napkin. She should be heard and pacified. Later, can be suggested for solutions.
Just simply being there for them. You don't have to try to fix the issue, or try to logic the problem out, just be their support. And definitely don't dismiss it as something not worth being upset over.
I have no idea, I'm super awkward when having to confront someone who cry or is sad. Personally I just stand next to them not doing anything and waiting.
i started crying the other night while on the phone with a friend. He just told me to take deep breaths let me vent and helped me relax i felt so much better
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