Do you care if your girlfriend cries?

[anonymous147]

It could be any woman who you are with. But do you care if they cry-- do you like comforting them or do you feel awkward in the situation?

[Techan]

It's a little disconcerting, probably because we tend not to express emotions in that way (at least not usually), but yes I still want to comfort her. I want to be able to help, but don't always know how. This might just be me, but I have what I like to call "mr. fix-it" syndrome and I think a lot of other guys have it to. It's where you feel like if there's a problem you should be able to fix it or at least help to fix it. This gets me in trouble sometimes especially if my girlfriend is upset or crying, I do try to comfort but moreover I try to find the source of the problem and fix it if I can and I get frustrated if I can't. I end up feeling helpless. No matter how much I try to tell myself that I don't always need to try and fix the problem, especially if it's something I can't do anything about, it's still really hard to suppress that impulse and just try and be comforting.

I think that's why some guys become uncomfortable around a woman crying. It's not that they don't want to be of help, they just don't fully understand why you're crying or how to be of help. Guys and girls care about different things so a lot of times what makes a girl cry will seem trivial to a guy. And even if that's not the case, we're not used to dealing with such expressions of emotion. So, in general, yes I think most guys want to help, want to comfort, but don't always know how. A crying woman tends to make us feel powerless especially when we don't understand where the tears are coming from because the usual method of "find the source of the problem and fix it" doesn't tend to work in a lot of cases.

[Betawolf]

Us guys are here to comfort you women! Personally ill let them even cry on my chest or whatever, I love to comfort them, it helps both of us. You should never let a woman's cry go un hugged <:(

[sammyangel9991]

Aww that's so sweet :)

[Betawolf]

:)

[spartom]

Last Friday I was on the bus and I can't divulge more but I was with my girlfriend talking about something and she started to cry and gripped me and put her head into me. I knew she was getting upset so I had started to hug her more before that but knowing that she feels comfortable enough with me that she can cry with me about something no one else knows about and tellling me it made me feel so loved. I also loved the fact that I was the only one there that could have comforted it her because I want to be the one who makes it better whenever things do go wrong. It didn't feel awkward at all but probably because we're really close and we love each other.

[acealmighty13]

For my female friends I'm there for them. I'll let them vent(if they are angry), I'll let them cry and I'll hug them and let them know I'm here. It's the least I can do for them turning my life around and opening my eyes to a world I had missed out on.

[lanky1]

If it was my girlfriend I would definitely try to comfort her. On the other hand if she is one of my female friends it's kind of like "should I or shouldn't I?" and I usually end up going with shouldn't.

I know. I'm a terrible friend.

[anonymous147]

Aww- haha I definitely get what you're saying about the friend thing.. if I was a guy I'd probably feel the same way.

[Hercules]

Of course not! If my girlfriend cries, or any girl, I'd be there for her/them instantly.