Is it possible to get over childhood bullying?

[Anonymous]

It's honestly hard. Because I can't erase my deep memory. I am searching for those who had this as well.

Until today I still classify people as good and bad. I can't stop doing this. Just because of people who wronged me for no reason. In a way I am supposed to accept this and hate myself.

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+1 y

One bully showed up out of nowhere. For people like us, it is about finding equivalence, balance and peace. Because - speaking for myself - then we have the urge to bully others, and belittle others. Again much respect to your understanding and the helpful opinions. cause It is hard to be a good person having been raised to this kind of attitude and behaviour that it should be ok and tolerated.

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+1 y

Thank you guys... When I was in Elementary school I was molested twice.. Bullied 2 times. It took a toll on my self-esteem and my self image. I have thought about suicide and been planning it for about 5 years. I don't know if I will end up doing it. But I know that my own life will become a nightmare for such people. A vow I took with God and with the Devil.

[Anonymous]

You’re similar to me.
I asked this type of question too

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Have you ever been bullied, and can you tell that story?

I have a really good memory and so these memories haunt me.

The best I can recommend is get some more testosterone into you. By going to the gym. Eating more meats. Eggs. A LOT of protein and fiber. Lifting heavy weights at the gym. Even in regular day activities try picking up random heavy things.
Testosterone can be very good at keeping those memories away.

And even help you get past feelings of depression.

As a man you might also want to consider getting into a “bar fight”. I forgot the health benefits to fighting as a man. But you can look it up. Just be careful and don’t get into any serious trouble.

Therapy can help too. But it just takes longer

:(

[Asker]

I have been in fights before, it feels good as you said. One of them was with a bully I kicked his ass, one of my happiest memories. But I am genuinely genuine, I think if I get in more fights the odds are there going to be a murder and at least two lives destroyed.
So we try being wise, fighting as a martial art sport is a good idea if God gives me more life I will do it.

[Opinion Owner]

Yup 👍
And definitely get more testosterone into you. Natural testosterone. Look up foods that’ll increase it.
And another thing, that chewing gum everyday can give you a tough/guy face.

I get this one, because it even helped women get a tough-face.
Try it 👍 well any gum works. But I use this one so I don’t get fat
www.amazon.com/.../ref=pd_aw_ic_dpcp_att_2_m_6

[Asker]

I masturbate 3 times a day. Does that count as high testosterone?

[Opinion Owner]

NOOOO, that makes it worse!
You’re getting instant gratification.
And also, you’re staying at a constant high estrogen level. Because you’re releasing alll the testosterone 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️
You’re literally doing the opposite.

I should make a masculinity Facebook Group to teach men about this.

[Asker]

I think you should go to Facebook and discuss masculinity.

[Opinion Owner]

You need to release, but once or 2twice a week only. The rest of the energy you need to save for working out.

[Opinion Owner]

Men that have real sex they get their testosterone back from a woman’s juices. Because they exchange secretions. That’s why the manly men that get plenty of women are always masculine and always manly.

They don’t bust nuts on themselves. They wait until they get the real thing.

That’s also why men would teach other men about no-nut November and semen retention. Because it’s real. If you turn to porn or jacking off you loose the testosterone and stay at a feminine state.
And women sense that, it repels women.

Women can sense high testosterone and low testosterone.

So do that. Get gum and chew everyday all day.
For at least 30 days.
And obviously workout.
And look up semen retention.

[Asker]

Ok, a lot of what you said is true, good and beneficial. but so many assumptions.. And inappropriate notions. to a guy with 5 years more experience than you.

Maybe! of course nothing is perfect. Maybe I am just a fagit, sassy bitch!! Ok?
Put that aside!

Saying what you're talking about.. is plain stupidity! Because we invoke morality and decency when it comes to your topic... We are a civilization. Should we become animals! I can seed a female so effectively, ability to walk for 3 days afterwards is very low. end of story! Maybe you won't walk for a lifetime. lol [joking]

That being said, bullying is a different thing.. it is a completely different topic.. I know this platform is about male and female understanding.. But bullying is not gender related, masculinity or femininity related.. Understand sweetheart!
It is the idea of someone making a child feel unqualified to live for the rest of their lives!!! It happens predominantly in societies with less institutions and civil mass behaviour. The victim of bullying can be made to hate themselves for anything.. It can be a physical outlook, something genetic, roots of family.. Identity, race.. It is usually something they cannot change about themselves.. Because,,, Again! criticism is different than bullying.
So as a result,.. a life is destroyed.. read about developmental psychology.
There's a lot to learn other than what you're talking about here.

Otherwise thank you!

[Opinion Owner]

And I answered your question. I said get on testosterone. Or raise your own testosterone.

Then you go and say you nut on yourself 3 times a day. 😑😑😑

Dude, honestly, do what you want

[sage2021]

I just wanted to say that everyone thinks the victim should go to therapy. I always thought the bully should be the one to go to therapy to find out why they feel they need to bully people. That way, if one bully stopped doing it, it would save more people (kids) from being bullied. Of course the bully would go to therapy at the time he is doing his or her bullying.

I was bullied by my sister growing up. Also in high school by a girl that was a big girl and she was always beating up girls that were way smaller - me included. I felt really sorry for this one girl in junior high school that was a small girl and wore glasses. She was bullied to death by the same big girl that bullied me. I still think about the girl that was relentlessly tortured by the bug girl. She would make a circle with kids then push her victim into the middle of the circle. I remember her glasses flying off her face when she was in the mix of getting beat up. I did feel very bad after whitnessing the fight.
It still makes me sad. I always wondered what happened to the young girl that kept getting beaten up. Man!

[sage2021]

@asker Oh no,! This is not the way your life story will end. I just read your second update and there has to be another way besides ending your life.
I think of the hundreds or thousands of alter boy in the Catholic church who were sodomized by the Priests when they were young boys. As you probably know there have been many lawsuits over this. And as you can imagine, those boys are still feeling similar to what you are feeling.

You know you need to talk this out with someone - maybe a professional. I know this doesn't sound like the best help for you, the internet - like YouTube videos they have now might give you some new way of looking at this.

YouTube videos really are helpful for other things besides listening to music. A friend of mine has a condition called ADHD which is his brain has a deformity in it. He has found the ADHD has helped him to better understand his affliction.

Well, please think about this. I hate to say this, but you don't want to end up going to the bad place after this life. Please!!
Sage 🌹

[Mynameisbobby]

As someone who was bullied everyday by my older sister who was 5 years older than me, having no way of getting away from her I understand where you are coming from. Some of the things that she did to me were horrible and abusive. Like stepping on my belly when I was 12 for example. When I would tell my mother, she just brushed it off and said I must have done something to deserve it. I have been in therapy and I am getting better, although I still have nightmares occasionally from what I went through. Have you tried counseling? And also it never made me feel like bullying others, because I knew how much it hurt me so I never bully anyone, but I will stand up to bullies. I'm not a 12 year old boy anymore.

[TheVigilantOne]

I was bullied badly as a child every school I went to I went through hell, I have gotten over the bullying it was the abuse I suffered as a child into my adult life from my father that I can’t get over, and I don’t think I’ll ever be able to, then meeting my now ex who abused me it’s something I’m struggling to get over.

[misfittoy]

a lot of us were bullied, at some point you have to let it go not for them for you. some people are just aholes, but you aren't alone in what you have been through i assure you , maybe posting asking about bully stories (do a personal mytake about it) bonding with others might help and also venting about what you have been through

[Asker]

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[misfittoy]

thank you, hang in there my friend

[menina]

I believe it is. I was bullied when I was a child and it took me a long time to get over it. I'm still bullied now by my family pretty much every day.

I suggest you therapy, you can find a way of reconciling with yourself. Just know that there was nothing wrong with you, the bullies were the ones who had a problem.

Also, you can surround yourself by friends and people who love you.

[Asker]

I appreciate your helpful words.

[menina]

No problem, I just wanted to help you. :)

[BlueScorpio]

Yes, it's all about forgiveness. When someone has wronged you, you can confront the person and tell them how their mistreatment is making you feel. If they don't seem to care or no longer around to speak to, then you write all the negative emotions down on paper then bury it. By doing so you're releasing pint up anger and fear while laying it to rest. Also talking about with someone or getting counseling over it can help. Bullying can leave permant scars, but caring the anger and hate will never let that scar heal.

[DJB72]

I wasn't bullied physically, except by one guy who stopped after I decided I couldn't be bothered to deal with his shit any more and knocked him on his ass.

Psychological is more damaging in the long term. The wounds are less apparent outside..

But yes, you can get past it. Pain never goes away, it just gets muted by time and experience. It just needs you to find a way past it. Forgive your bullies and your childhood self. That's the most effective way.

[Ria_300]

I understand it is hard I experienced it myself and it will take more or less time considering how badly one got bullied eventually you'll be fine everyone has to keep going... It might take time and effort and you might feel like you can't handle it but life eventually does gets easier.. you make friends.. partners etc.. you might never forget but slowly it just starts kinda being like an unpleasant memory

[AmandaYVR]

Yes, it's possible.

People are more than good or bad. That's one problem right there - distilling them down into one or another. Everyone's more than this.

You should go to a life coach and talk about with them.

[CallmeTheKnight]

Yes. You reflect and move on from it. You're just not certain of yourself and that's ok. That's why you have the option to receive therapy if you can manage it. Otherwise, you have to make the time and effort to have self respect and self love through healing

[fonduegirl]

It's definitely very difficult. I've been so guarded since middle school, thanks to all the bullying. I've fear of vulnerability.

[AddylynnNightingale]

Yes you can, by accepting what happened. You can classify people, but how accurate do you think that is? How well do you know a person before putting the bad or good stamp on their heads?

[melanieeeB]

Of course, letting this go and moving in from your bully-trauma, accepting what happened but stopping to be still in that mindset

[melanieeeB]

Make yourself aware that this is in the past, yes it was awful but it doesn't define you and you have to let go

[Dnice1]

Yes it is, it took me forever to get over mine. Sometimes you just gotta let go, stay stronger and move forward in life. Find people to vent to. I found that that really helped and surrounding yourself with people that love and care for you.

[AndrésC64]

I'm no psychologist/psychiatrist, but some of that bifurcation of good/bad sounds like borderline personality disorder traits. Which wouldn't be difficult to understand considering the bullying / trauma.

Therapy is always good.

[Exterminatore]

I’m sorry. Are there no people who behave in a predominantly benevolent way and some who behave in a predominantly evil way? I. e. good and bad people. No bully is a good person.

[AndrésC64]

So you're saying that there are no average people. That a person is either good or bad?

[Exterminatore]

There are all in the spectrum. Good, bad and in the middle.

[AndrésC64]

I agree.

[berwise13]

Most definitely I weighed 118 in high school. I joined the Marine Corp. I graduated boot camp at 165 pounds 12 years later I got out I weighed 289 pounds no fat.

[TacosRAwesome]

Ok I was basically the weird kid bullied by most growing up. And I'm over 95% of it, except for 3 girls who were the instigators. Screw them.

[DesertP]

I got over it but people tend to dislike my answer and methodology. Maybe pm me and remove it from the eyes of public opinion. Yes I got over it but maybe not the best answer

[TonightYouu]

Yes and no the trauma still remains and surfaces at the most random moments

being viciously bullied by women all throughout school has given me some very weird fetishes

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

All things are possible to him or her who believes.

[Hardworkingguy]

I was bullied in school and everything is fine now. I wish schools would actually pay attention to those details abd punish this behavior

[Dinosaursandanime65]

All wounds can heal. Scars can too but not all the time

[TrillXHippy]

I’ve been bullied so much in middle school I can’t get over it at all

[Nikki1989]

It's possible, but it takes some time.

[dustybiker]

Live and learn. Life is full of bullies.

[DesiUwU]

maybe for some people

[Iron_Man]

Yes of course

[FunkyMonkee]

Pretty much.

[FunkyMonkee]

Nearest I can tell, there are two reasons bullies bully.
1. They see you as someone weaker than them and that can't or won't fight back. This only proves how weak the bully is! If he was really that tough, he's pick on stronger guys.
2. People that he feels that, if he could beat THEM up and get away with it, it'd be a nice patch on HIS sleeve!
I kind fell into both camps, to a degree. I was the tallest kid in school so, that goes for the patch and, as I was never looking to fight anyone, they figured I'd be one that wouldn't fight back. But, I did!
I had several bullies on my ass growing up!! Even my best friend became one!! The thing is, quite a few of them, after we all grew up, wanted to BE my friend!! Then, there's been a guy or two that I looked at as a friend who turned out to be a vicious asshole!!
Give it a couple more years and those bullies will probably think of you as an old friend!