Should I stop being friends with her?

[lexih_919]

So this girl I was friends with for years we use to hangout every day but I did move a year ago. When I saw her 6 months ago I told her she can text me. Ever since I moved she doesn’t contact me unless I contact her first or she needs something from me. When I hung out with her last she had a moody vibe and I honestly I am getting annoyed with her. I told her to text me more and she just never keeps in contact with me and when I tell her how I feel and tell her to contact me more she says I’m creating drama and just dismisses my feelings. What should I do?

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[Black_Ivory]

Perhaps when you moved she felt abandoned and she is to put a wall around her heart.

It sucks that she only contacts you when she needs something, but maybe she feels confident that you will always have her back.

I suggest you have a face to face with her and tell her how you feel, otherwise you may end the friendship and move on without her and she will not know it until you do not answer her texts and calls anymore.

But it is your choice, trust your intuition and your best interests.

[MAC1983]

I was just going to say, it took you 6 months to tell her to text you more? Where're calling and Video-Chat? Weren't you friends? Wouldn't that be the logical step?

[Finchie40]

You don’t have to stop being friends with her but definitely move on and don’t make her a priority in your life , you don’t have to hate her, but if she isn’t giving the same friendship back that you are giving then it’s best to focus on yourself and find friends that want to be part of your life , so it’s best for you not to reach out to her and see if she reaches out to you , if she doesn’t reach out to you then just move on , One thing in life you will learn is that friends come and go , that’s why you should never prioritize a friend over your partner when you are in a relationship, your partner should be your number 1 priority and your best friend , it’s good to have friends but again never choose friends over your partner and your partner should do the same for you , when people choose friends over their partner they usually end up splitting up. And all hell breaks loose , i am drinking coffee and giving you a whole life lesson sorry lol

[Anonymous]

Well she seems toxic !
Don’t feel bad of what to do talk or not..
Move on from her and you also don’t live close with her anyways
Make new friends lol
But don’t be rude to her if you see her in person act like a lady.. show her how a lady should act instead ! Free lectures don’t hurt lol

[sweet-chocolate]

Let that friendship die sis. She's not worth your energy, your time, or your worry. I know it's hard to let go of certain people but you have to let go of her. If someone disregards your feelings then NOOOO, it's time for then to no longer exist in your life!

[D_Bone_Steak]

Friendship isn't the same when you don't share a mutual interest or deal with the same things day to day. I have some friends from the military side of things and I guess none of us went woke. We talk but live our lives now separately. There is a lot of other people though that just went off on some bullshit and they cut the ties.

[zeitgeist057]

Be friends with people you enjoy, who enjoy you, who don't require you to post questions here to determine what to do about it.

I'm just kind of teasing you, but really, why be friends with someone like that? She's just going to stress you out.

[MystiKaL]

I'm afraid you need to back off here. As others have said, friendship is a 2 way thing. If you find yourself initiating and making the first moves all the time, she is making very little effort, despite you telling her how you feel, then there is not much more you can do.

Don't make any more contact and see if she initiates any contact. If she doesn't then you'll have your answer there.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

A friend is a friend & some of our friends may not always be there & some of our friends might be a friend from afar. As for your friend like any other friend it’s ok to take a break & maybe a break is what you two need as of the moment.

[curlyfirecracker]

Not sure why you are asking our opinions. You've expressed she dismisses your feelings, you are annoyed with her, she doesn't reach out... sounds like she is already ending it, and you don't seem hurt to let it go.

[Anonymous]

You’re not really supposed to tell “friends” to contact you more. Either they want to or they dont. She obviously dont. Leave her alone and accept that people drift apart. Unless you’re okay being the only one who always does the work. Its hard but you’ll have to learn to let her go.

[rosemilk]

it sounds like she already stopped being friends with you so i would suggest you return the favor. she sounds like a terrible friend.

[weysally]

break off from her, you seem to be already in a state of some kind, things and thinking about this would most likely get worst

[Apulu_Imback]

Something which my mother would do. She hangs out better with people in offline terms but never calls or texts anyone unless required.

[AddylynnNightingale]

I would slowly ghost her by stopping to contact her. If she just annoys me, I don't see any point in keeping the friendship.

[Staximus]

Just let her fuck off for a while until she's ready to be a good friend again. Don't contact her until she contacts you. If she needs something, say "sorry I can't help you"

[Summeroflove]

Maybe no hard feelings between you both. She’s more of a Acquaintance at this point

[ZenJen444]

Sounds like she stopped being your friend long ago. Not much to do here. She doesn't call or text you anyway

[Anonymous]

For some reason or another, she no longer wishes to be friends with you. And moving probably has something to do with it. That is not uncommon among friends.

[Andres77]

Sounds like she’s not your friend anyway

[Andres77]

Just let her go

[Sparkie460]

Friendship is a two way street.