A friend of mine came to the UK from France last week. However, I feel she has not come to visit me but her friend whom she knows from her school/uni days in France. Her friend is also living here. She decided to stay with her friend who came to pick her up from the Airport too. However, she had asked me if I could host her at my accommodation but I was unable to asmy landlord refused. She and her friend ended up moving accommodation as the flatmate began harassing both of them.
She told that she would be visiting London. However, she said she would meet on Tuesday (when she's leaving on Wednesday next week). I mentioned how meeting on Tuesday would mean just one day so she agreed to meet on Friday last week. We met and it was fine. We had lunch, walked and talked.
However, from the next day onwards, she made all her plans with her French schoolfriend for every single day. She invited me but I don't know her friend. She wanted to go to the seaside but again she planned it with her friend so I didn't go as I also had work. Initially, she said that she won't go if it's too complicated for me but then she and her friend went to the seaside.
She asked if we could meet on Monday or Tuesday but she is again bringing her friend along with her and has already made plans with her.
I dont know what to do or say. I dont want to burn bridges but isn't it clear that she's just here to visit her friend and not me?
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It's understandable that you may feel disappointed or left out if your friend is spending most of her time with her other friend while she's visiting the UK. However, it's important to remember that people have different priorities and interests, and it's not necessarily a reflection of how much she values your friendship.
If you would like to spend more time with your friend, you could try communicating your feelings to her in a non-confrontational way. Let her know that you feel left out and would like to spend more time with her, but also understand if she has other plans or priorities during her visit. You could also suggest specific activities or outings that you would like to do together.
If, after communicating your feelings, your friend continues to prioritize time with her other friend, it may be a sign that your friendship is not as important to her as you thought. In this case, it's up to you to decide whether you want to continue the friendship on these terms or to distance yourself. Either way, it's important to communicate your feelings in a respectful and honest way, and to prioritize your own well-being and happiness.