How can I stop being obsessed?

[Anonymous]

Me and my homie where talking about this girl we’re friends with that I recently stopped talking to because I have feelings for her and he mentioned another guy that used to be obsessed with her and got blocked. All of a sudden I lost my appetite and felt really weird. Why does it bother me when other guys like a girl I like? I know I’m a bit more preoccupied with her than I should, how do I stop?

P. S. Not talking to her is helping to get over it but I’m curious why I feel like this

[PoliteSpeaker]

There is an essence inside you that is seeking expression through love. That is why you are obsessed with her. You can bury it if you want but you could use that same burning desire to get what you want or to discipline yourself. In the same way Samuel Adams and John Hancock got what they wanted against the great power that was Great Britain, which was freedom for America.

It is not the girl you want but what she represents that you want. True companionship. You can have it. But if you wish to stop the easiest way to make alive the statement, "There are plenty of fish in the sea", within you. In order to do this you must talk to many girls and most likely random girls you see anywhere and everywhere. If you do that you will emotionally understand that there really are plenty of fish. If you try to do this without the action you will only have the idea logically and it will not help you.

But you know motivating forces cause action so why not use the love you have for her in order to step up the vibrations of your own mind and use this energy for your goals. In the same way you get sudden energy when you find out school is closed due to a snow day, you will get energy from the thought of her. And if you wish to go deeper into the matter you will find that you can get the girl but not by force. But I recommend just using her for energy.

[Asker]

This helped a lot thanks!

[Wonderlady]

Seems like a mental habit which are the hardest to break.

[Anonymous]

So you are punishing her by your own non appetizing thoughts. That’s not fair.

[Asker]

I’m not trying to punish her, but I don’t think it’s healthy to be friends with somebody you’re attracted to

[Opinion Owner]

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