Have you paid your parents back for raising you?

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Mynameisbobby · Accepted Answer

My uncle adopted me when I was 13, I show my love and appreciation for what he did for me day. If it wasn't for him I probably would have ended up in a foster home. He chose to take me out of an abusive situation with my sister and mother. I see it differently than if he was my dad taking care of his child. My uncle didn't have to adopt me he CHOSE to and for that I will always be grateful. What he did I probably can never repay him for that, other than just show him how much I love him and appreciate him for giving me a second chance. I think I show him that everyday by studying hard at college. He's not only my uncle, to me he'll always be my hero ❤️ How do fully you repay that kind of love?

Andres77 · Accepted Answer

I’ve tried.

Dinklex3 · Accepted Answer

I mean.. it's their job as a parent to raise their child lol.

In general, I don't think someone has to "pay back" their parents for doing what they are supposed to do.

I do love and adore my parents and plan to be there for them whenever possible. Everything that's mine is theirs as well 🤷🏾‍♀️ Even as an adult they still spoil me and shower me with love, so of course I'd like to do the same. It's a continuous flow. There's no one thing i can do for "pay back"

Sour-rose · Accepted Answer

Yeah, pretty much. Of course, not with money. I paid them back by not drinking myself to become a vegetable and made sure that knocking at our patio door was not an animal and called the police just in case. (it was not a raccoon, as the dumb officer said, it was a human and could have been a threat)

Ian69 · Answer

Yes, absolutely. When my dad was diagnosed with vascular dementia. I went back home to help care for him, until he had to into a care home for the last few months of his life. Then I looked after my mom, until she could come to terms with our loss, but sadly she passed away a few months later from a broken heart.

NathanDavis · Answer

by being better than they raised me to be...  or so they say but, nowadays with all of us (three brothers) being grown-up, we just look out for another, so we really do not pay back, that's not exactly our way,  we pay forward ... we focus on our younger ones

melanieeeB · Answer

I mean I don't have to but I guess I kinda did... I had to pay the state, to not inherit my fathers debts and I paid a few debts off from my mom and raised my younger sister for her, plus half of the costs of that little kid... she owes me a few things and years lol

Philyouup · Answer

I don’t think you have to pay your parents back they’re the ones that choose to brought you into the world. But I think you have to respect them, my mother has dementia she can no longer be by herself, so my brother and I moved in and we take care of her now. She’s like a little girl now but with no short term memory at all. So if that’s not paying my mom back I don’t know what is

mobiusforniner · Answer

If paying back means having a full time career, being completely self sufficient, then sure. But my parents have made a full circle and now want me to be a stay at home vegetable living in their basement, mowing their lawn and buying their groceries.

Whole life growing up was "you're out of the house by 18 or else". And when I actually acheived that its now "you're a dick for leaving us behind".

FunkyMonkee · Answer

At least mom. There wasn't much to do for dad or, there WAS but, I didn't know it until the day he died! Thankfully, I put that new info to good use with mom and it helped her a LOT!! Otherwise, I gave up my life the last few years of hers to help her as much as possible. Thanks to my ex-sisters, I got shit on for it and they got all the "rewards"!!

DopeTurtle · Answer

How could anyone can? How could someone quantify the amount of years of complete devotion, time, love and money that prepared me for life. My parents are wonderful and still offer their sage advice to this day. That debt could never be completely eradicated. The best I can do is let them know I appreciate them and try to make their efforts for me don’t go in vain

Anonymous · Answer

You don't pay your parents back you pay it forward by carrying forth the family line and giving them grand kids.

Frankly you own the same to your sociality, and people who refuse to should be taxed at a much higher rate to help support those who did.

18Uma21 · Answer

I am being nice to them. I pay for stuff sometimes. But I won't forgive them for bringing me to life. I secretly hate them because of that. My hands are tied now I can't just go ahead and suicide. I have to experience this torture of life just because they wished for it

jennifer_bloom · Answer

My plan is to offer physical service or money if they can't care for themselves but I do not plan on giving them emotional benefits cause they have abused me ever since I was born.

Kori1236 · Answer

Pay back for what. I didn’t choose to be born they chose for me. If the question is do I and have I helped my parents like they would help me if I needed it then yes. But paying them back isn’t required.

TrueConfection · Answer

How would you pay them back for raising you?

Vikkrram · Answer

What the hell is this question is about. No one ever in the world can paid what their parents did for them. It's not about financial it's all about sacrifice they made

ARWINGx1 · Answer

I would say: Eff no. They choose to raise you. AND, you had no saying in whether or not you approve either, since you were not yet born at that time.

fonduegirl · Answer

So I have to? Because I didn't really want this life. They kind of chose to bring me to this world. That's their conscious decision. Of course they've been paying.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Yes. Started once I have my real career at age 22. before 22, I had other jobs and always contributed to the family.

Nikki1989 · Answer

They should pay me for all the hell they put me though.

Psychotic_Buddhist · Answer

I've tried at times, I'll try more in the future, but rn they don't really accept much help, they do however accept advice

AsaKyo · Answer

I'll repay mom back by taking her out to dinner, letting her have self-pampering days (when I get my life together lmao) and taking care of her when she gets older if she needs me

TroyDT2 · Answer

They passed when I was little, but I did take care of my grandfather, who along with my grandmother had raised me, for the last year of his life.

SaoirseS · Answer

With years of free labor, yes, and I’m always here for them.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

I try to be a good person, I won't step in their footprints, but I'll use their lessons as my guide.

Guccigabbana18 · Answer

I will when they are old and I look after them/care for them/support them.

Anonymous · Answer

I didn’t ask to be here. As a matter of fact I would have much rather not been considering the world sucks. I do appreciate my mom for giving me life though (even though again, still hate it here)

Anonymous · Answer

Did I ask my parents to give me birth?

It was their decision. They did not even have my consent.

I want my compensation from my parent for bringing me to this world. Coz I didn't ask for it.

If you think kids are burden then don't have it!

Agape93 · Answer

Why the fuck would I? They did nothing they didn't legally have to do.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I try to help my parents out whenever possible wether it’s with mundane tasks or finically.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

I didn't even ask to be born. Sure i can repay them but it's not an obligation.

Solitario_94 · Answer

Does paying rent for a period of time count, at their house? Cause I did that.

Alperengin1 · Answer

no because they dont need it and they didn't raise me to pay them back they did it for love

NickEnickS · Answer

You don't owe your parents are raising you is their choice to have you

AndrewAzul · Answer

Pay them back for what, they had birth me, I hate life and would rather have never been born at all.

TheAfrikan · Answer

I cannot ever pay them back for raising me, since I have nowhere to begin from since they did a lot for me.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Still paying with love. It's a debt that puts a smile on my face everytime I think of them :)

OddBeMe · Answer

No because I had no choice in the matter. If I did I’d have picked better ones.

msc545 · Answer

No. I did not ask them to do it - they volunteered.

Mamaganja · Answer

I didn’t fkn ask to be here lol

Anonymous · Answer

Not possible. I could never repay the debt I owe my parents.

Anonymous · Answer

No, that's not part of the deal. There suppose to raise you (until18) when they bring you into this world.

Marklaw12 · Answer

No.  Hopefully, I win by God's grace

Smashingdoozy · Answer

They didn't raise me sooo no

Adam1978 · Answer

You mean by getting grandchildren? No.

Sarataí · Answer

I would have to say yes, I took care of my Mother when she first got diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer up until the worst day when she passed.

exitseven · Answer

I did pay for it in many ways.

Fireguy17 · Answer

yes, I helped them out when they were older.

Jedi_Master95 · Answer

Hell no. I had shitty parents.

PainusNdeeAnus · Answer

What the fuck is a parent? 🤣

Guardian45 · Answer

That's a debt that can NEVER be repaid!

dragoblack · Answer

I help my mom whenever I can.

Anonymous · Answer

They ruined my life. I owe them nothing.

Blackcupcake · Answer

nope

jimmy2 · Answer

No one does

Anonymous · Answer

Nope.

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