Why are my parents persistent about kids & relationships?

[Brittanyroseee]

Once in awhile they will make comments to me. One time, during breakfast, they asked why im not dating anyone yet. I told them I don’t want a relationship after my ex. My stepmom proceeded to tell me “but you are 24! I got married and had my child at 21” and i said “ok but thats YOU. I have my whole life ahead of me” and she said “you are gonna be 30 in 5 years. What about kids?” And i said “I don’t want kids and I can meet someone in my late 20s or when im 30 when im ready”. Then, another time, I was at the store with my dad looking at the cute valentines day things to treat MYSELF and he began telling me I should begin seeing people. Then just last night, I was stressed about money and my dad told me “you don’t have to pay 10k a month for a house just wait until you have to!” Then my stepmom told me “oh and wait until you have kids! And you have to pay $400 for childcare!” And I proceeded to say “nope. I won’t need to worry about that because I won’t be having kids. Just pets!” And my dad made the ignorant comment to say “pets are more expensive!” And i said “no they are not.. they also don’t take away your freedom or privacy. I can leave my house whenever I want with pets. I can work a fulltime job with pets. They don’t throw tantrums in public or cuss you out because you didn’t buy them what they want” then my dad changed the subject.

[inhua]

parents are doing what they're suppose to be doing. yes they want grandkids and yes it may be selfish but it's no less selfish than you not wanting kids

if you were truly thinking about your whole life ahead of you, how long do you intend to live for? 30 years? 60 years? 90 years?

a woman's fertility window is much shorter than that of a man's. though to counteract this fact, society decides to virgin shame men to "equalize" a woman's declining fertility

and a lot of older women from later on in life do have regrets about not having a family. we can always tell ourselves it won't be us until it is.

friendships come and go and no matter how much we try to keep our circles big, life has a way of shrinking it. family bonds are forever and the only people who are going to remember you when you're gone are your descendants

at the end of the day, you do what you want however your parents aren't evil or anything when they're persistent about this. they do care about your wellbeing

if you think this is being tough on women, it's much harder on men. there's no such thing as a "strong independent man" like a "strong independent woman". society just wants to label those men are losers

[Brittanyroseee]

I don’t want kids🤷🏼‍♀️never did. I have never been a fan of children or babies. My friends have babies and i pay no attention to them but i pay attention to their pets… I don’t have a motherly instinct. Kids are stressful, a huge responsibility, expensive. It’s not something I want to do.. I have talked to plenty of women who are in their late 30s, 40s and even 50s who are happy being child free

[Brittanyroseee]

Of course people come and go. Just like a spouse can leave too! I would love to marry someone without the responsibility of a child. Because if i have a child with someone and he decides to leave me, im stuck with his offspring and I won’t be move on from him because I would be forced to stay in contact with him for the sake of the child KNOWING he left me. It’s even worse if the dad wants nothing to do with the kid and im struggling as a single mom. If i marry someone with NO kids, and they leave me for whatever reason, i can move on and have no baggage from that relationship. I can easily move on, done with.

[inhua]

actions speak louder than words. people can say stuff and still think and do differently. anti-depressants are quite common amongst older childless women. and yes I said childless not child free because a homeless person isn't actually home free

some people promise to always vote Democrat and never vote Republican and surprise, surprise, those people end up changing their minds. a cheater might've told their partner they'll never cheat that is until they did cheat. point is people make a lot of promises and later they do have regrets.

yes kids are stressful especially if you're by yourself. that's why you don't do it by yourself. a lot of things are stressful. eating healthy and going to the gym is stressful but it has its rewards. nobody says you have to do it by yourself. western cultures are simply too proud to ask for help. at least in eastern cultures, the extended family will come along and assist wherever they can.

[Brittanyroseee]

Im not liberal and i still don’t want kids. Period. They require huge commitment and sacrifice. I cannot offer that, sorry. I choose to be lazy and do what i like to do.

[Brittanyroseee]

I would most likely regret my child😂especially since I have no motherly instinct

[Brittanyroseee]

I value things like my freedom, privacy, my money, peace and quiet

[Brittanyroseee]

I literally was sitting at the front desk at work yesterday and saw a mom in her car with her toddler throwing a fit for 15 minutes. I have 0 patience for that shit😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂👋🏼👋🏼👋🏼

[inhua]

if you're worried about your husband leaving you and abandoning you with the child, then you need to vet your partners properly. understandably this is difficult to figure who is and who isn't a male snake. which is why you should get your dad to help you out with this. this is what fathers are for. call it male intuition because only men and tell which other men are snakes or not just like it's female intuition to tell which women are snakes or not.

[inhua]

you do whatever you want but you can't stop your parents from being persistent. it's your choice not to have kids but it's always their choice to be persistent about it.

[Brittanyroseee]

Bro my dad is in his 60s. He doesn’t have time to baby my “kids”😂not everyone has a support system bro

[exitseven]

Okay- examine why you are not dating. If you are scared you might get hurt again or if you somehow think you are not good enough, that is not the right reason. If you really do not want the drama in your life right now and want to concentrate on other aspects of your life, that is perfectly okay. Don't let people bully you into doing something you don't want to do.

[Brittanyroseee]

Relationships are stressful.

[Brittanyroseee]

I will meet people when I decide but kids will never happen.

[exitseven]

yes relationships are indeed stressful.

[midnightmoon05]

Relationships/life/kids can be stressful if, when we make it like that.
Life is not that stressful/complicated when we open our hearts to love/care for ourselves and others.

[Brittanyroseee]

Mmmm no lol kids are stressful in general. Not opening myself to that😂 relationship yeah however in future

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[Sour-rose]

Because it's the thing of history. You become an adult and you be fruitful. Hell, my mom thinks I'll be having those little, screamin' wallet eaters. Well it ain't 1990s anymore, things ain't gonna be the same. Especially when it isn't their lives. :1

[LiamJHayden]

Parents, and others who have a happy relationship, often think that everyone else will be happy if they follow the same path.

[es20490446e]

My last ex was 40. She spent her life as you say, and in her last years he discovered she wanted just the opposite.

But now it is hard for her.

[Brittanyroseee]

That is her. Some regret it, some don’t.

[es20490446e]

To be honest, I think that most women that say such things only do because they don't expect to be able to have a partner.

I let to you to judge if that's your case.

[Brittanyroseee]

My brother is married… him and his wife chose they don’t want kids😂

[Brittanyroseee]

So you are wrong lol

[Brittanyroseee]

If anything i would regret my child lol

[es20490446e]

You are probably just pointing me out your greatest desire.

[Brittanyroseee]

My greatest desire is not a child😂

[Brittanyroseee]

My greatest desire is to make good money and have a lot of pets!

[es20490446e]

Although I don't negate that, I estimate that to be very unlikely to be true.

[Brittanyroseee]

What is unlikely to be true? Are you me? Do you know what my greatest desires are in life? No you don’t lol

[Brittanyroseee]

A child is not something i want😂