If most woman have some sort of fear, distrust. of a guy from his physical appearance alone is that a sign that?

[Anonymous]

He's unattractive or attractive?

8 years ago I moved to a new city/neighborhood & I did notice that most of the woman there from sight alone did not like me one bit & would be very "on guard", standoffish, scared,& very distrusting

Im of average height/weight [5'9/178lb] & I look "okay"? In the face department

But. a y gals there would be on"guard" from me & sometimes very bitchy

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Dude, approaching random girls in general is going to put them on their guard. Women have been taught to understand that every man (especially if you live in the US where 60% of all serial killers in the world originate and work) has the potential to be dangerous and cause harm to them. Strangers in general have not earned any signs of trust, and you might just live in a neighborhood where the random man you live with isn't to be trusted. Don't take it personally, but maybe you should just leave them alone if you're getting the vibe that they don't want to talk to you.

[Asker]

I wasn't talking to them or even attempting too

The neighborhood I was living in wasn't even dangerous

The reason these incidents still gripe me is because these same woman who showed "fears, distrust," etc were all "giggidy" when a dude my age moved around the corner

He didn't get any of the negativity from them that I protruded

So from then on I still assume I was dealing with shallow gals who were only being "nice" when it was convenient

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Is it possible maybe you just have an unlikable personality and give off a bad vibe? Who calls that shit "giggidy" anyway? Who are you, Glenn Quagmire?

[Asker]

I've always wondered about the "unlikable personality" vibe

I've been in situations where girls would get very aggressive with me & I never knew why

Trust me... they did get "giggidy" (like quagmire) with him but with me all mad, disgusted, or nervous

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Then maybe it's time for you to do an ego check, start examining yourself from an outside perspective, maybe with the help in the form of a third party such as a therapist or an honest critique from a co-worker or friend.

[Asker]

Had a few female therapists perform some of the same "stunts"

But it's stupidity hilarious when I look back

Beefing with girls over looks or petty social/status differences for YEARS

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

So don't, if you think it's stupid then don't participate and just walk away.

[Asker]

So what's your opinion on girls who beef with unattractive guys over looks? Just the thought of it?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

They don't want you approaching them so they make themselves unlikable so you don't

[Asker]

But I'm not approaching & there the ones that get very aggressive with me but are "nice" with every other guy regardless of looks

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

It's the same as saying "I have a boyfriend" in response to an innocuous question. It's a survival tactic.

[Asker]

But why target me? It's a lot of times out of the blue where girls that I have to live by would start problems & I'm just strolling by

They didn't pester the other guys in my old neighborhood

Just me & very aggressively

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I don't know dude, but if they are making a point of telling you they don't like you and don't want you around, then keep walking and don't engage.

[Asker]

We were neighbors so we were forced to be around each other but as I stated... I don't go out of my way to flirt, tease, or "engage"

If I was attractive & still didn't engage & converse? I doubt I'd be hassled the way I was

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Engaging means responding. Don't respond, don't look, don't talk, just leave to do what you need to do. You are not required to talk to them, you are not required to look at them, just be stonefaced and say nothing and if you do not give them a reaction they will not continue to talk outside of some "walk away" comments that you, as the bigger person, can ignore.

[Asker]

All of this negative behavior towards me simply because I'm not some attractive cocky asshole?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Maybe it's just because you're an asshole without the cocky, attractive part. I don't know you or what you did or why they're responding this way and you're allowed to be upset over it but blaming them or blaming looks that you have admitted that you don't have just sounds like you projecting and giving yourself reasons to both be hated and hate yourself and jade yourself even more to the world around you. I'm probably horribly wrong and honestly the way you keep pushing this asking for validation that I'm not giving you probably has something to do with why you give off the wrong vibes. Be the bigger person, stop focusing on tiny nothings that make you mad in the moment but won't make you mad after 10 minutes of quiet time to yourself, and just avoid your neighbors as much as you can because you are not required to make friends with them if they already don't like you. You have no control over that just as much as they have no control over you and what you do or how you look or how you feel.

[Guy13]

Yeah that 180 is someone who is 5'10 plus. fat and muscle look different...

[melanieeeB]

It means he gives off creepy vibes

[Asker]

I can say the same for the woman who got into my personal space & got very condencending & patronizing (has happened)

But there cubta rather than creepy