Is my brother asking for too much?

[Vesuvius87]

My younger 20 year-old brother is another case with his own problems. He would like his girlfriend to be a pretty, white girl (he's white like my mom) from Argentina. He was actually born Miami, FL USA but has been living with us in Peru for many years by now. This is him:

A bit before the pandemic there was a Peruvian girl interested in speaking with him on Whatsapp. She found him attractive and initiated the conversation herself. He rejected her on the base that he's only interested in white girls. The issue is he really had nothing to really offer. He's a bit shy in social reunions, is improving his social skills (he's in acting classes), doesn't have a job yet and at times he gets stressed at still being a virgin.

What do you? Is he asking for too much?

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Note: I don't want to bring bad news but I can still beat him at arm wrestling. Heck I would be able to beat him up if I were a horrible bully but I'm not; I'm his loving sister. He's weak.

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The issue is he isn't not really working on himself too much either. He watches TV and sleeps all morning long.

[Bethany22]

If the only thing in his criteria is a pretty white girl, as opposed to a long list of personality and financial traits that women tend to have for men, then there should be a large enough group of women that he can have to choose from. If these women that he likes reject him because of any of the drawbacks you mention he has, then that will likely motivate him to snap into action and improve himself. It's only asking too much if he remains thinking that he doesn't need to change even after the women he likes keep rejecting him. Other than that, everyone is entitled to their preferences.

[Vesuvius87]

That's the issue. He's not doing anything to improve his situation. He doesn't want to join any sports, isn't looking for a job nor working on himself too much other than taking art classes, watching TV and sleeping all morning long.

[Vesuvius87]

I think the girls he wants are rejecting him because they likely want a strong man both mentally and physically, qualities he's lacking at this moment.

[Anonymous]

Women like confidence, status, coin, strength, a leader etc.

He seems to have none of these qualities and also has no experience.

Chances of success are currently zero.

He is also young and women like older men, even if they dont want 'an older man' he still has to be technically older than her in most cases.

He should spend the next 10 years at work, in the gym and socialising then he will have no problems.

[Vesuvius87]

I hate to admit it but true. He can't really offer too much at this moment. He's 6ft though and does have looks but lacks all those top qualities you just mentioned on your 1st sentence. If he were to improve all all that then I'm willing to bet he be the one selecting, tables would turn. It's like he can be a diamond in the rough.

[Vesuvius87]

He doesn't know his potential, thinks lowly of himself. That's sad.

[Opinion Owner]

Of course he does, he probably thinks life is fair and a level playing field but it isn't.

There are countless super chads out there with family money who fuck all the girls they want, why would or should he think that he has to have money and status to get a date and that who he is is irrelevant?

[JohnK123]

He looks like you!!! 😂 same facial features cool!!

tell him I’m still worried and stressed bout my v- hahaha

[Vesuvius87]

Yeah someone once told me he looks like the male version of my younger self. Genes are random alright. They can repeat the same features too, interesting.

[JohnK123]

Lmao ya that’s funny

[JohnK123]

Can I be ur donor- haha

[JohnK123]

Wow mho!!! Thanks so much @Vesuvius87

[IHateBeingaMan]

interesting because girls normally don't do that

[Vesuvius87]

I agree. That indigenous girl was the only one that ever messaged him and he rejected that possible opportunity. He still has a lot to go on the self-esteem and strength part, not just physically but emotionall and mentally too. He's lacking that.

[Guardian45]

He's still a 'teen'. He needs to 'grow up'.

[Vesuvius87]

He's turning 21 on May 5 and yes I agree he needs to grow up. I posted an update. It's very sad.
The issue is the girl he's asking for would be like an 8-10 out of 10. He really wants a pretty white girl and if she has blonde hair it's a bonus to him.