I am in my mid 30s and most of the time I feel like my family does not take me seriously as an adult. By the way I am not marrired. I am talking about my mom and my older brother. What do you suggest me to do? Should I talk with them, or do you think I am wrong?
Have you taken complete responsibility for your life? If you have your own place and pay your bills and aren't relying on anyone else for your basic living, then you should be treated like an adult.
If you have to always go back to your family for help (and I'm not saying that you do - I have no idea), or are always getting into trouble, then it's more understandable if they treat you that way.
Being an adult is less about age and more about taking responsibility for your own life and your own outcomes. If you have done that, and are getting good outcomes, and they still don't take you seriously, cut them off.
My godmother didn't take me seriously about an issue, and I cut her off for 4 years. I didn't attend functions at her house or go anywhere she was invited. She eventually apologized and now I get that respect. But there's no guarantee, because some people are just broken, and you may have to cut them off forever. Hopefully that's not the case for you.
Are you the youngest, most sensitive, meekest? People in family will bully over others.
Depends what you mean. It's a simple as this... people will continue repeating the same patterns developed over life, until there is a meaningful reason to change. If you feel like you are successful, independent, capable, on your own, and they don't respect you... then
You can talk to them, but talk doesn't change reactions. You will have to stand up for yourself, or create space. The real answer is in your sub conscious mind and theirs...
Whether your perception is correct, I cannot say. I got some of that and some is right, some is wrong, and some is on me and some was on them. It's relationship and "normalcy". If you don't like it, change it.
I don't know if it's normal. My family doesn't take me seriously either. I've been married for over 20 years and my kids are in high school and college. I think it's more of a control issue myself.
Actions make people take you seriously. Prove them wrong.
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s Your actions and mindset will make people take you seriously. Not your age. You can be 50 but still be a man child. Or you can be 20 and be very wise and mature.
Why do you feel that way? What do they do to indicate they don't take you seriously?
You should talk to them and let them know what you would like for them to take your seriously and that you have a voice. Sometimes it is easy to disregard other people when viewing them as "young"
If they don’t want to, that’s their choice.
Back away from the matter and then huff and puff. You are busy with other things. They’ll come around
It would make sense if you were the youngest
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