So I’m 24. Still living with mom-(moving in May). At some point of living together she didn’t have a consistent job for years at a time but this week my older sister moves in with us regardless of everything that I have been through with BOTH of them. My sister moved out 4-5 years ago and started lots of drama between my mom and I. She made my mom believe I was trying to poison her through the food I cooked. Mind you I’ve always cooked for everyone and never had any issues.
So accusations against me, getting a happy birthday this past Tuesday from my sister when I haven’t spoken to her in 3-4 years to my sister moving in TODAY!!! My mom have made me feel like shit from paying 99% of the bills on my own to saying I never supported her to moving someone in that literally told her I wanted to hurt her.
I’m always the bigger person but I can NOT get over this trauma. I’ve did therapy and I just can’t get over it. I’ve sacrificed my whole life for these two. And I feel like this whole situation is a set up. I honestly do not like either of them to the point I’d rather be homeless than live and take care of two grown adults who is toxic and can’t support them selves!
When I attempted to commit suicide my mom told me it was stupid but when I explained why she made the situation about herself. But when my sister called her crying because of drama with herself and my grandmother my mom had all the sympathy in the world.
So accusations against me, getting a happy birthday this past Tuesday from my sister when I haven’t spoken to her in 3-4 years to my sister moving in TODAY!!! My mom have made me feel like shit from paying 99% of the bills on my own to saying I never supported her to moving someone in that literally told her I wanted to hurt her.
I’m always the bigger person but I can NOT get over this trauma. I’ve did therapy and I just can’t get over it. I’ve sacrificed my whole life for these two. And I feel like this whole situation is a set up. I honestly do not like either of them to the point I’d rather be homeless than live and take care of two grown adults who is toxic and can’t support them selves!
When I attempted to commit suicide my mom told me it was stupid but when I explained why she made the situation about herself. But when my sister called her crying because of drama with herself and my grandmother my mom had all the sympathy in the world.
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You need to just move out. When I read "tried to commit suicide" I can have a bold opinion here. You need to move out. Get your own place. Invite your closest friends, have your own home parties, live a little, get a boyfriend with whom you can invite over without worrying about some mother or sister. Move out. You can still financially support your mother if she needs it like send her money every month.
... or girlfriend I should say if you have different sexual orientation.
I’m definitely moving out but I will no longer help her. She doesn’t help me so…
Maybe you can rethink it over time. Family is family as horrible as they can be. But right now I don't think you need to worry about that. You need to be free! Like bird stuck in the nest. Off you go! Fly! Fly fly fly!
Depression I think is about feeling stuck. It's not about being sad.