I would be if the parents hitting the kid were actually doing it to punish them but parents do it for the sake of it. Personally I think it's stupid to hit a kid because when they grow up they will be finding it acceptable coming from other people such as their partners. Myself when I have a kid I will never hit them. I might punish them in less abusive way like not internet or no pocket money.
No it’s just shitty parenting. I was hit as a kid and it did nothing but mess me up mentally in multiple ways. It might prevent kids from acting out *in front* of their parents but physical forms of punishment does not correct bad behaviour long term or teach a kid right from wrong.
don't use the word hit, its is a smack, and I think smacking is a good way to teach, remember a smack at 18 months is a punch at 18 years, but one has to know their child or children, because, a child that wants to as go somewhere but you are going to punish them for something wrong they did, then stopping them from going is a better option regardless children have to learn to take punishment if they do wrong
Kids need spanking just like how sometimes kids need to touch the hot stove to learn. They don't have any sort of reasoning abilities for a long time so being bad = pain, being good = reward is the best motivator they can have until they're older.
Also, speak for yourself. I love my dog, but I'll swat it on the nose or butt if she's being bad as well.
0
0 Reply
Anonymous
(25-29)
11 mo
It really depends on many factors.
1. Where you are hitting the kid
2. What "tools" you use to hit
3. Why you are hitting the kid. Especially consider if it was a clear intent to disobey or not.
And some more I can't think of on the top of my head.
Punishment is supposed to deter behavior. If you go far enough with the punishment that it becomes a power trip, no lesson will be learned and the child will only try to be more secretive with the disobedience, thinking the disobedience is justified.
0
0 Reply
Anonymous
(18-24)
11 mo
Oh hell yeah. Still remember my mom’s flying chancla 😂 She has also hit me with a belt, cooking utensils etc lol. My dad has slapped and punched me, but that’s pretty much it. I wasn’t a terrible kid, but they did it for my own good, so it’s cool. When my parents tried hitting me when I hit 15-16, I defended myself and sometimes threatened to hit them back, they stopped 🤷🏻♀️ (I would never hit them though. I don’t believe in hitting people older than me)
Noting wrong with a parent spanking a child of theirs or a slap on the hand etc.. but do it out of love and not anger. It was how I learned to be what I am today , honest respectful and I learned fast to listen when my mom and dad told me what they wanted me to do etc.. or dont do.. just do it the right way. we all need to learn right..
i don't "think" that it is. it absolutely 100% is. of course you shouldn't just mindlessly beat your child. but it is very effective if used in the right context and within a transparent structure of parenting strategies that is openly communicated to your child, so your child knows and understand which actions will have which consequences for it.
Why do you have No I wasn't hit twice? Anyway, No and I was hit as a kid and bullied physically at school. It's no way to treat children definitely when they are trying to figure themselves out. Take the phones and all digital equipment out of their reach as punishment. When they act right they get it back.
There are certain instances where some children will test parents and see how much they can get away with. If all the scolding, time out, taking toys away, etc. doesn't work then what are you supposed to do? You can't put them in a cage like an animal.
Yes, my father beat me few times. It was rather a humiliation than it was painful. I think some people with huge fu.. hubris should have been hit much more often as children, because they think their action have no consequences for them and they don't belong clearly to the cast of people who can do what they want without fearing any consequences for their deeds.
Oh hell, I was spanked, mouth washed out with soap, paddled by a teacher, paddled by the principle, paddled by friend's parents (when we did something wrong together) or whatnot.
Was an excellent way to learn not to do something.
I was spanked as a kid, but rarely did it hurt as much as it startled. I'd say a slap behind the head that's meant to startle is sometimes appropriate when the kid is being a little shit. But it must not hurt, that would be excessive and it would not acchieve anything.
No God didn't bless you to hit your kids. There are more effective ways to punish your children. When they get out of line, and after punishing them you need to talk to them, tell them why they got punished. This way when they get older your words will resonate with them.
I watched a lot of children especially in the 80's and 90's and I was not only given permission to hit or spank them I was told to do that too. I never hit them never spanked them that would have hurt me more than it would have them and I refused to do it.
I was spanked or smacked when I was out of line and it worked on me. Just as long as you don’t go too far to where it turns into an abusive situation, I think it works.
I wouldn't do that. I wasn't hit as a child and I didn't cause trouble. I think as an adult who chose to become a parent you should be in control enough to raise a child without resorting to this.
When I did something wrong when I was a kid I got spanked. I knew that I shouldn't do that ever again. We didn't spank my kids but I now think we should have. Maybe they would respect us more.
I meant to select “no, but I was hit.” But not that bad.
Violence begets violence. Hitting makes the parent feel better which should never be a punishment for a child. This isn’t capital punishment. (Audience laughs).
What Girls & Guys Said
Opinion
68Opinion
I would be if the parents hitting the kid were actually doing it to punish them but parents do it for the sake of it. Personally I think it's stupid to hit a kid because when they grow up they will be finding it acceptable coming from other people such as their partners. Myself when I have a kid I will never hit them. I might punish them in less abusive way like not internet or no pocket money.
No it’s just shitty parenting. I was hit as a kid and it did nothing but mess me up mentally in multiple ways. It might prevent kids from acting out *in front* of their parents but physical forms of punishment does not correct bad behaviour long term or teach a kid right from wrong.
don't use the word hit, its is a smack, and I think smacking is a good way to teach, remember a smack at 18 months is a punch at 18 years, but one has to know their child or children, because, a child that wants to as go somewhere but you are going to punish them for something wrong they did, then stopping them from going is a better option regardless children have to learn to take punishment if they do wrong
It is the fear of corporal punishment. If a child is physically disciplined; that has greater repercussions to their behavior.
As a parent, you do have to walk that fine line between discipline and abuse.
I am always hearing that the issue with young Black men these days is the lack of a father being present in their lives.
Kids need spanking just like how sometimes kids need to touch the hot stove to learn. They don't have any sort of reasoning abilities for a long time so being bad = pain, being good = reward is the best motivator they can have until they're older.
Also, speak for yourself. I love my dog, but I'll swat it on the nose or butt if she's being bad as well.
It really depends on many factors.
1. Where you are hitting the kid
2. What "tools" you use to hit
3. Why you are hitting the kid. Especially consider if it was a clear intent to disobey or not.
And some more I can't think of on the top of my head.
Punishment is supposed to deter behavior. If you go far enough with the punishment that it becomes a power trip, no lesson will be learned and the child will only try to be more secretive with the disobedience, thinking the disobedience is justified.
Oh hell yeah. Still remember my mom’s flying chancla 😂 She has also hit me with a belt, cooking utensils etc lol. My dad has slapped and punched me, but that’s pretty much it. I wasn’t a terrible kid, but they did it for my own good, so it’s cool. When my parents tried hitting me when I hit 15-16, I defended myself and sometimes threatened to hit them back, they stopped 🤷🏻♀️ (I would never hit them though. I don’t believe in hitting people older than me)
Noting wrong with a parent spanking a child of theirs or a slap on the hand etc.. but do it out of love and not anger. It was how I learned to be what I am today , honest respectful and I learned fast to listen when my mom and dad told me what they wanted me to do etc.. or dont do.. just do it the right way. we all need to learn right..
And yes it effective if done right and for the right reasons and with love ,
i don't "think" that it is. it absolutely 100% is. of course you shouldn't just mindlessly beat your child. but it is very effective if used in the right context and within a transparent structure of parenting strategies that is openly communicated to your child, so your child knows and understand which actions will have which consequences for it.
Why do you have No I wasn't hit twice? Anyway, No and I was hit as a kid and bullied physically at school. It's no way to treat children definitely when they are trying to figure themselves out. Take the phones and all digital equipment out of their reach as punishment. When they act right they get it back.
There are certain instances where some children will test parents and see how much they can get away with. If all the scolding, time out, taking toys away, etc. doesn't work then what are you supposed to do? You can't put them in a cage like an animal.
Yes, my father beat me few times. It was rather a humiliation than it was painful. I think some people with huge fu.. hubris should have been hit much more often as children, because they think their action have no consequences for them and they don't belong clearly to the cast of people who can do what they want without fearing any consequences for their deeds.
Oh hell, I was spanked, mouth washed out with soap, paddled by a teacher, paddled by the principle, paddled by friend's parents (when we did something wrong together) or whatnot.
Was an excellent way to learn not to do something.
Needs to make a comeback, IMHO.
I was spanked as a kid, but rarely did it hurt as much as it startled. I'd say a slap behind the head that's meant to startle is sometimes appropriate when the kid is being a little shit. But it must not hurt, that would be excessive and it would not acchieve anything.
No God didn't bless you to hit your kids. There are more effective ways to punish your children. When they get out of line, and after punishing them you need to talk to them, tell them why they got punished. This way when they get older your words will resonate with them.
@lorenzomichael amazing answer
Thank you.
I watched a lot of children especially in the 80's and 90's and I was not only given permission to hit or spank them I was told to do that too. I never hit them never spanked them that would have hurt me more than it would have them and I refused to do it.
I was spanked or smacked when I was out of line and it worked on me. Just as long as you don’t go too far to where it turns into an abusive situation, I think it works.
I wouldn't do that. I wasn't hit as a child and I didn't cause trouble. I think as an adult who chose to become a parent you should be in control enough to raise a child without resorting to this.
When I did something wrong when I was a kid I got spanked. I knew that I shouldn't do that ever again. We didn't spank my kids but I now think we should have. Maybe they would respect us more.
I meant to select “no, but I was hit.” But not that bad.
Violence begets violence. Hitting makes the parent feel better which should never be a punishment for a child. This isn’t capital punishment. (Audience laughs).
me realising that there isn't "No but I was hit"
Oh you’re right there wasn’t one. But yeah still stands.
I shouldn't have said anything you wouldn't have noticed XD
It’s all good. This needs to be talked about more. Hitting doesn’t do shit for kids except make them think violence is ok.
I agree. My dad abused me and my brother. More so me than him... Its not ok
I would def not say my parents abused me. Just a few hits …sometimes. We still have a fractured relationship now tho.
How’s your relationship with the parents?
my mom is good. dad not so much
was he the enforcer?
yess