Is it appropriate to hit your children as punishment?

[letuswaltzforthedead]

Asking since most of the people I know were spanked as children, maybe hit with a belt or sandals. A handful of people I know were punched or threatened physical violence by their parents. Is this normal parenting? Is it acceptable to hit you children?

[MCheetah]

Yes, it is perfectly fine. And I don't mean "abuse." I mean your kid is a little sh*t of a monster and did something like tried to steal the neighbor's car or broke into the zoo to free the animals or something. If they're bad, spank the sh*t out of them! Spank them pants down, bare bottom, if you have to.

No, I don't give a f*ck if you don't like that, whoever is reading this. If you disapprove of spanking, especially as a male, you're probably either a child yourself or a pussy anyway and your parents failed you. And you'll end up being one of those losers on Dr. Phil who is surprised that "trying to negotiate" with your out-of-control nine year old doesn't work as they turn into Bhad Bhabie and say some new version of "Cash me outside, how 'bout dat?"

Shut the f*ck up. I don't want to hear any new age, "Current Year" pussies who think "spanking is child abuse" and that parenting is like summer camp and that you're supposed to be "best friends" with your children. I don't have kids and even I know kids don't respond to mental weakness. Kids and women have that in common; if you're weak, they will walk all over you.

I am a teacher, so I have probably dealt with more kids that most of you have, and have seen it in weak colleagues of mine. If you don't show who's boss and has authority, then they will take advantage of you. You can still do this with compassion and respect, but it has to be clear who is in charge here and who isn't. Unlike teachers though, parents CAN AND SHOULD smack the f*ck out of their kids, once they're being bad or have forgotten "who brought them into this world and who can take them out."

Therefore, I'd advise (but not going to insist) that you never spank your kids out of anger and emotion. I mean, I'm not going to judge you if you do, but that's what some people might decide is the difference between discipline and so-called "abuse."

I had a sh*tty mother, but my grandmother was on point and was a far better parent than my mother ever was. My grandmother came from a generation where parents still knew how to be parents. Gen X f*cked everything up though, and it's how we ended up with these soft pussies known as Millennials.

[SnowedIn]

Hit in the way you describe, never. Hits, punches, belts, sandals, etc. No. It's done but just no. I was spanked with a hand as a child. As we've raised our kids we can, to this day, count on one hand the number of times that we spanked our children. In those four or five (total, for four kids, over 20 years) occasions, it was once with a hand and it was tied very specifically to an action that they had taken and they knew why. The thing is that punishments for children need to fit the crime or offense. Spanking my son because he doesn't clean his room doesn't change the behavior. Therefore it's not worth it and it mentally hurts the child.

To your question, no, not appropriate.

[SnowedIn]

Thank you for MHO!

[alice55]

It's not cause it teach them violence is acceptable against weaker people. I used to hit my little sister to punish her (because she spend her time stealing my things and destroying it and y parents just told me to share even though she destroyed everything she touched), that's what my parents did with me so I didn't see the problem, that's also what bully do (hit and harass the weaker than them, etc...) hitting children just teach them that it's ok to be violent with weaker people. Not a good things.

[Apple1996]

I don't think hitting is appropriate but a little pop to their hand, leg, mouth is fine. Like my son had a biting phase and I got him to stop by lightly popping his mouth. So it really depends on the situation like I wouldn't pop him for not cleaning his room cuz that obviously isn't gonna make him go clean his room. Popping his mouth after biting is associating the pain he's causing others when biting so it made him stop.

[Fuentes]

Man I'm lucky I didn't have a son, I'd bite boy back like who you think you biting lolol jk

[Apple1996]

@Fuentes yeah we also bit him back a few times. He's my crazy one tho. Kicks, bites, starts all the fights around the house 😂
The worst part is at school or with babysitters he's a "angel" for them. Just bad for mom and dad ☠️

[Fuentes]

Lol that's where he's plotting at school "I can't wait go get home and start some stuff" hahaha

[lightbulb27]

yes to some degree, only with the right purpose. I was hit once... and it wasn't fair, but whatever... life ain't fair... that's the lesson. I know kids who are beat with a stick.

personally, I think it's a good idea and required for some kids. it's more about the personalities.

[DJB72]

My son is 4. I have smacked him a few times.

When he ran into a road
When he grabbed the kettle's cord
When he tried to climb onto a railway line

Basically any time it's better to get a smack than killed or seriously hurt.

Anyone who objects can kindly fuck off and mind their own business

[BarryLiverstone]

Spanking is acceptable but should be rare and the threat of a spanking often by counting slowly to three is far more effective. In any case other forms of violence shouldn’t be used on a child.


Taking away a toy or putting them in time out are far more effective when it comes to punishment and discipline. Actually spanking with the hand should be rarely used as a way of getting their attention.


Make sense?

[Havthrills]

Spanking after warnings I think is acceptable. It's punishment. Belt, sandle, punching... no way. My brother and I graduated to wooden spoon when regular spanking didn't do much. We weren't rewarded for kind of behaving or stopping throwing a fit "if you stop I'll get you a candy bar." I heard that many times.

[gerald5466]

i would say it is appropriate to hit your child but not like beat them and give them bruises and stuff like not child abuse. my mom hits me if i'm misbehaving and sometimes throws stuff at me but i know its not because she's trying to abuse me or sum i'm misbehaving so it happens

[USLegionary]

A light slap or a spank is fine but anything else is assault.

I've kids I don't need to hot them to discipline them.

[SlothySlob]

Define hit. Hit encompasses many forms of physical attacks, some are worse than others.

[letuswaltzforthedead]

are certain ways of hitting a child better? for example, spanking a child vs slapping them?

[SlothySlob]

Yes, why was the child slapped / spanked, and with what?

[letuswaltzforthedead]

Ok, what would be off limits to you when it comes to hitting a child? usually kids are spanked with a hand or hit with a sandal or belt (from what i've heard most of the time).

[SlothySlob]

An example of what I consider acceptable would be, the child has done something wrong and the parent hit them with something that sounds like the hit was more powerful than it actually was.

A slap is more favorable than a punch, a sandal (those soft foam ones) over the belt.

If the kid knows he did wrong, you can't omit the punishment, I'd just lessen it. Something like a soft twak on the head that would be more symbolic for punishment.

Ultimately, the most important part that people forget is that kids are not lesser than the parents. So when you come up with rules in the house, it should never be "rules for thee, but not for me".

[bean2k21]

My daughter grew up to be a perfect angel, and all we used were 'time-outs.' My dad, on the other hand, used to beat me with his belt and I turned out hateful and mean.

[Sparkie460]

I was spanked when I was little. It wasn't often but I got hit a few times. I think I spanked my kids maybe a half dozen times. I usually just had to give them the look of disappointment and they stopped what they were doing that wasn't acceptable

[TroyDT2]

My heart says no, but my head says, "They didn't have a bunch of mass shootings and punks sucker punching the elderly for fun when spanking was the norm."

[Fuentes]

Spanking is one thing although I never spanked my child. But I grew up being spanked but physical abuse to me is whole nother thing if you're having to fight your parent In anyway is wrong to me and seen as abuse.

[melanieeeB]

Hell NO, I'm so damn against it. Last year I even called the cops on one neighbor smh

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Growing up my late mom and dad would spank me and my sister, they used flip-flops and belt, so it was rough.

[LogicBomber]

No child has ever dies from a smacked ass. The only thing that dies is the asshole attitude.

The shit heads in this world should have been disciplined more as kids.

[bubblegunnn]

Yes, to give the childs a lesson, then they will learn, if they make the same mistake again they know they will get hit by their parents.. as long as it just harmless pinch or spank.. not abuse

[Charlesbrandonf]

Yes and no and Depends on the situation. Don’t put yourself in trouble though.

[Bunkerintegrated]

A hit may decrease attachment from you. Beware of handling a child

[eagle1951]

spank and having grown up being spanked, and seeing the world today.

[Agape93]

I say yes, within reason.

[BLP11520]

We got the belt and the paddle at school... my wife beat the boys asses i was at work

[MissMam]

Not as a punishment

[Brando10222]

It's not normal. It's torture

[Dat-Alpha-Lion]

Spanking? No. Actually slapping? Much worse.

[Debbie14217]

we had spankings nothing else