Tough question!! If you know the child, through another child, and mom is single, "MAYBE"? Maybe not OPEN FLIRTING, or "Hitting On Mom!!"
I try to be a 'good uncle' and be with my brother's boy as much as I can! Sometimes we just kind of 'hang out' when they can't get a baby-sitter, or one is sick or, all you parents know!! I'm the 'cool' uncle, but I respect their ways, and don't let him get away with too much. . .
With that, you meet people, like divorced moms and their kids, or never married moms, and kids, through the kid's friendships.
Sometimes, I think my brother's wife PURPOSELY puts me into situations when I am going to be with some of the 'single' moms that she thinks would be good for me, maybe!
In those times, I think it is OK to talk, discreetly, together, while the kids play.
Maybe causally, at first, but after a few times, and getting to know each other, why can't I maybe 'flirt,' and even ask her out, for a simple 'coffee date' or something?
You never know when or where you will meet that SPECIAL one!!
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In front of someone else's kids? No. Well, I'd never do that. If they're married it's disrespectful towards that. Even if they're not, it's disrespectful towards the same sex parent. Kids with broken up parents, especially younger ones, don't wanna see that.
Although I'd say that maybe it's more important for the parent not to flirt. I remember when I was little guys trying to flirt with my Mum subtly, giving her compliments and stuff, and she'd kind of smile and say thanks but also be rolling her eyes at the same time feeling awkward about it. If she would have flirted back I'd probably have looked at her a bit differently.
Only if it's dirty flirting. We don't hide flirting, hugging, and kissing in our house. We want our kids to learn love. It will teach them to show love to the person they end up with. We are discreet when we make love because thats not necessary for the kids to hear us doing that. Thats a future conversation when they are teens to have the sex talk.
But innocent flirting it fine.
I think if you can do it subtly in a way that cannot make it awkward for everyone, it's alright. Just interact with them normally to start and ask for their number or something casually, don't set the kids on alert that mommy's got an admirer, and it's alright. Definitely not okay if they're married or in a relationship though.
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Nope, as long as you do it discreetly, it should be ok. You're just flirting not like you are going to make out in front of the kids. I have done it in the past, and we were all good at the end.
I would not, it is easy enough to do this when you and the woman are alone. I was divorced at 46 and most women I met had kids. It is best to be very careful about even meeting kids of a date. I let the woman take the lead on this as they know best how to communicate what is happening and if the relationship is advanced enough to get kids involved. Especially younger kids. I am married again but friends with an ex-girlfriend I spent a lot of time with. Her youngest still has a doll I bought for her and still asks about me years later.
Yes, just like if they are at work it’s inappropriate. If I did want to initiate I would do the same as if they were at work and slip them a handwritten note.
Something like ‘your mission if you choose to accept it is to text this number (xxx-xxxx) with the secret code “I’m available to meet for dinner this weekend” and await further instructions. If you smell smoke, it’s not because this note will self destruct, it’s because you forgot to set the timer on the oven again!’I think it's okay to let someone know that you find them interesting. you definitely don't want to do anything a parent would object to or be embarrassed by because they're looking to set a good example for their kids. What you could do is just say hey I'd like to continue the conversation here's my number and leave it at that it's perfectly innocent and then you can flirt all you want when the kids aren't around.
It partly depends on how I know the kid. I have had more kids try to "set me up" with their mom than I've ever flirted with a mom in front of a kid. Generally, I'm still not looking to date a woman with a kid right now, so other than returning some flirting, more just for fun than to date, the answer is no.
I may flirt with someone I think is cute, but not know if she's got kids. But it's not in front of the kids.Hello Brainsbeforebeauty been a bit your still hott
Yes I think it is. I am sure it happens as you have so many single people these days either relationships that did not work or whatever, but in general yes its not appropriate. There is nothing wrong with a minor expression of interest depending on the situation but in general i am going to say no.I think yes it's pretty inappropriate... especially if the kids are younger or teens... if it's adult kids and the mom/dad is single and the person flirting does it nicely (not like flicking their tongue through their fingers lol...) then it might be ok... but beyond that, best done at non-kid times :)
I've never done it before or even had the desire to, but depends how it's done and whether the kids realize it's happening. The age of the kids is also be a factor.
Its definitely not OK to do it if the person is in a relationship, and I always assume a woman with a kid is if I see her in publicIf it was my wife and my kids, then I'd not mind flirting with my wife in front of the kids, cause that shows love and kids need that assure that their parents have an amazing relation.
Flirting with some single parent in presence of their kids, just doesn't seem right to me. It's not really romantic or enjoyable in my opinion.I do. For one I’m in “mom mind” when I’m with my kids so I probably wouldn’t even notice, and also, I had a complete stranger ask me out in front of my children and they were not about that at all!! See if you can wait for the kids to wander off a bit and get a phone number to talk later
It depends. If they’re just being ‘friendly’ (Hi, hows your day going, are you enjoying the weather etc) as a means to get someone to engage, it’s ok.
If your blatant about it, it is inappropriate.Depends on the age of the kids and the level of flirting. For example if the kids are small and it's restricted to innocent flirting I think it's fine but more than that isn't. If they're teens a bit more than innocent flirting is fine. However since I'm not a big fan of intense public displays of affection I don't think it's more acceptable to do anything more adult in public let alone in front of the children
Yes, i think its inappropriate to even yell in front of childs, it teaches them that yelling (or fighting) is a solution to problems. And it really isn't.
If either of them don't want that then yeah. The mother might be cool with it, but the child would hate someone trying to replace daddy. The kid might find you awesome and funny, but the mom would find you childish and not worth their time. Who knows.
No but def watch what you say cause kids know more than you think
Depends on the way you do it. I think if it's not too forward and done in a respectable manner, it can work.
Yeah lol
its not Innapropriate to hit on someone who has kids but hitting on someone in front of the kids is just... not right you know?
ESPECIALLY if you are trying to sound sexualNo but... it should be suddle and not repeated and super attentive to boundaries.
In my case my son is 18 I stick out as a single dad once in a blue moon i get that sort of attention I welcome it and so does my kid... but women tend to be too mamma bear... n often take it the wrong way... even if they r potentially interested.. they r not ready for there children to see them in that light.. I've had a little girl say to her mom off in the distance say" he was cute what's wrong about him.".. I guess it was my approach...It totally depends on HOW they're flirting. Obviously if it's overly sexual, it's inappropriate to flirt like that in front of kids.
Depends. If it’s a casual compliment, I don’t see the problem. Now full put hitting on someone, I don’t think that’s ok.
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