Do You Think It's Inappropriate To Hit On Someone In Front Of Their Kids?

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JackSmy · Accepted Answer

Tough question!! If you know the child, through another child, and mom is single, "MAYBE"? Maybe not OPEN FLIRTING, or "Hitting On Mom!!"
I try to be a 'good uncle' and be with my brother's boy as much as I can! Sometimes we just kind of 'hang out' when they can't get a baby-sitter, or one is sick or, all you parents know!! I'm the 'cool' uncle, but I respect their ways, and don't let him get away with too much. . .
With that, you meet people, like divorced moms and their kids, or never married moms, and kids, through the kid's friendships.
Sometimes, I think my brother's wife PURPOSELY puts me into situations when I am going to be with some of the 'single' moms that she thinks would be good for me, maybe!
In those times, I think it is OK to talk, discreetly, together, while the kids play.
Maybe causally, at first, but after a few times, and getting to know each other, why can't I maybe 'flirt,' and even ask her out, for a simple 'coffee date' or something?
You never know when or where you will meet that SPECIAL one!!

Barbaric · Accepted Answer

In front of someone else's kids? No. Well, I'd never do that. If they're married it's disrespectful towards that. Even if they're not, it's disrespectful towards the same sex parent. Kids with broken up parents, especially younger ones, don't wanna see that.

Although I'd say that maybe it's more important for the parent not to flirt. I remember when I was little guys trying to flirt with my Mum subtly, giving her compliments and stuff, and she'd kind of smile and say thanks but also be rolling her eyes at the same time feeling awkward about it. If she would have flirted back I'd probably have looked at her a bit differently.

PinkMichae · Accepted Answer

Only if it's dirty flirting. We don't hide flirting, hugging, and kissing in our house. We want our kids to learn love. It will teach them to show love to the person they end up with. We are discreet when we make love because thats not necessary for the kids to hear us doing that. Thats a future conversation when they are teens to have the sex talk.

But innocent flirting it fine.

KeziL · Accepted Answer

I think if you can do it subtly in a way that cannot make it awkward for everyone, it's alright. Just interact with them normally to start and ask for their number or something casually, don't set the kids on alert that mommy's got an admirer, and it's alright. Definitely not okay if they're married or in a relationship though.

1Sophisticatedme · Answer

Nope, as long as you do it discreetly, it should be ok. You're just flirting not like you are going to make out in front of the kids. I have done it in the past, and we were all good at the end.

pepperhicks · Answer

I would not, it is easy enough to do this when you and the woman are alone. I was divorced at 46 and most women I met had kids. It is best to be very careful about even meeting kids of a date. I let the woman take the lead on this as they know best how to communicate what is happening and if the relationship is advanced enough to get kids involved. Especially younger kids. I am married again but friends with an ex-girlfriend I spent a lot of time with. Her youngest still has a doll I bought for her and still asks about me years later.

ecfresh · Answer

Yes, just like if they are at work it’s inappropriate. If I did want to initiate I would do the same as if they were at work and slip them a handwritten note.

Something like ‘your mission if you choose to accept it is to text this number (xxx-xxxx) with the secret code “I’m available to meet for dinner this weekend” and await further instructions. If you smell smoke, it’s not because this note will self destruct, it’s because you forgot to set the timer on the oven again!’

baconninjadc · Answer

I think it's okay to let someone know that you find them interesting. you definitely don't want to do anything a parent would object to or be embarrassed by because they're looking to set a good example for their kids. What you could do is just say hey I'd like to continue the conversation here's my number and leave it at that it's perfectly innocent and then you can flirt all you want when the kids aren't around.

GoodManDave · Answer

It partly depends on how I know the kid. I have had more kids try to "set me up" with their mom than I've ever flirted with a mom in front of a kid. Generally, I'm still not looking to date a woman with a kid right now, so other than returning some flirting, more just for fun than to date, the answer is no.

I may flirt with someone I think is cute, but not know if she's got kids. But it's not in front of the kids.

bluehen46 · Answer

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Yes I think it is. I am sure it happens as you have so many single people these days either relationships that did not work or whatever, but in general yes its not appropriate. There is nothing wrong with a minor expression of interest depending on the situation but in general i am going to say no.

TCredo · Answer

I think yes it's pretty inappropriate... especially if the kids are younger or teens... if it's adult kids and the mom/dad is single and the person flirting does it nicely (not like flicking their tongue through their fingers lol...) then it might be ok... but beyond that, best done at non-kid times :)

Avicenna · Answer

I've never done it before or even had the desire to, but depends how it's done and whether the kids realize it's happening. The age of the kids is also be a factor.

Its definitely not OK to do it if the person is in a relationship, and I always assume a woman with a kid is if I see her in public

Kezzz · Answer

If it was my wife and my kids, then I'd not mind flirting with my wife in front of the kids, cause that shows love and kids need that assure that their parents have an amazing relation.
Flirting with some single parent in presence of their kids, just doesn't seem right to me. It's not really romantic or enjoyable in my opinion.

BellsShella · Answer

I do. For one I’m in “mom mind” when I’m with my kids so I probably wouldn’t even notice, and also, I had a complete stranger ask me out in front of my children and they were not about that at all!! See if you can wait for the kids to wander off a bit and get a phone number to talk later

SphynxUK · Answer

It depends. If they’re just being ‘friendly’ (Hi, hows your day going, are you enjoying the weather etc) as a means to get someone to engage, it’s ok.
If your blatant about it, it is inappropriate.

jessicasissy · Answer

Depends on the age of the kids and the level of flirting. For example if the kids are small and it's restricted to innocent flirting I think it's fine but more than that isn't. If they're teens a bit more than innocent flirting is fine. However since I'm not a big fan of intense public displays of affection I don't think it's more acceptable to do anything more adult in public let alone in front of the children

XRoseDropsX · Answer

Yes, i think its inappropriate to even yell in front of childs, it teaches them that yelling (or fighting) is a solution to problems. And it really isn't.

Anonymous · Answer

If either of them don't want that then yeah. The mother might be cool with it, but the child would hate someone trying to replace daddy. The kid might find you awesome and funny, but the mom would find you childish and not worth their time. Who knows.

DizzyDesii · Answer

No but def watch what you say cause kids know more than you think

Porcelaine · Answer

Depends on the way you do it. I think if it's not too forward and done in a respectable manner, it can work.

DanaeAdam5 · Answer

Yeah lol its not Innapropriate to hit on someone who has kids but hitting on someone in front of the kids is just... not right you know? ESPECIALLY if you are trying to sound sexual

loveslongnails · Answer

By kids, I presume to mean young kids, like 5 - 14 years old? Generally speaking, I'd say it shows a certain lack of "savoir faire" and tact, which I would not want to see in a potential partner, or even a date !!

robertKugler · Answer

No but... it should be suddle and not repeated and super attentive to boundaries.
In my case my son is 18 I stick out as a single dad once in a blue moon i get that sort of attention I welcome it and so does my kid... but women tend to be too mamma bear... n often take it the wrong way... even if they r potentially interested.. they r not ready for there children to see them in that light.. I've had a little girl say to her mom off in the distance say" he was cute what's wrong about him.".. I guess it was my approach...

KingdomForAKiss · Answer

It totally depends on HOW they're flirting. Obviously if it's overly sexual, it's inappropriate to flirt like that in front of kids.

Kitz95 · Answer

Depends. If it’s a casual compliment, I don’t see the problem. Now full put hitting on someone, I don’t think that’s ok.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

Yeah it is inappropriate. Being friendly and having nice conversation is OK but not to the point of hitting on them. 😉

rose004b · Answer

Yeah. I don't like people who would be bold and shameless to that degree, it shows that they act on their desires while completely disregarding other people.

Jjpayne · Answer

I'd say yes, in a certain way. Through a teacher filter. Imagine you were a single teacher on school property talking to a single mother or father. Using a talking filter like that. It's all about how you word it. Keeping in mind, it might not be possible to see the parent without the child in some situations. You also take care to include the child if you can. There are not invisible and any less meaningful

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

Very unprofessional, Inappropriate in a very creepy way.

oualid22 · Answer

Nah the kid will ruin it for you lool... no but really it is inappropriate, but if I like her I'd try to seize the moment she's alone and go talk to her lool

Anonymous · Answer

I've had this happen a few times.. I can't understand how they can't possibly think that I'm married or 'taken' considering my child is there with me.

ZackBan · Answer

Well there's hitting on someone and then there's courting.
I don't think it's inappropriate if what the person says is positive and respectful but it is if he crosses the line of decency.
Not to mention there's much that kids shouldn't be hearing and his chances are pretty much non existent if his move fills the head of the kid with stuff he's too young for.

zagor · Answer

Not as inappropriate as hitting on someone in front of their parents, when you went to school with their parents.

JamesBlackDragon · Answer

Yes I've been told I'm a flirt but I have a hard time understanding what flirting is to me it's just how I talk and who I am and when I try to flirt people don't get it

Freddy78361 · Answer

It is inappropriate if: They are married. They are the same biological sex as you. You are crude and impolite in your approach. Their kids give you the stink eye as you approach.

dublin_sexyeyes0 · Answer

If its very subtle then its fine but not if its obvious and direct.

Pete671 · Answer

yes it indicates you don't respect the kids, I'd hit on the lady by being super-nice to the kids lol,,,

moreno8120 · Answer

Not only is it inappropriate but it's also disrespectful. Have some control be kind and polite go from there

Tstrbrainer · Answer

I think it's okay only if the children are too young, like babies to care about it.  Other than babies, it's inappropriate as the children would feel really uncomfortable.

Lliam · Answer

Kinda inappropriate, yes. A class person would be more subtle.

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes because I almost got into a fist fight with an a hole father at the mall several years ago and they're trying to set me up and have somebody video tape everything and the guy was pushing his luck and he is getting close to getting something. He could have had his kids walk away but kept then around. He
Even found a stranger to videotape the confrontation he had it set up

monkeynutts · Answer

It really depends on what you say and how it's received, if the child likes you, the mother is more inclined to like you also. So the idea might seem inappropriate, but if it's executed affectively I think you can be successful, I will always casually flirt with a woman, never say anything rude or inappropriate, but it's always nice to be polite to strangers, and make them smile, because it could be the best part about their day.

Nigjt · Answer

Not if u do it so its done for the respect of the kids a Man can always ask a Women a Lady out its her if she takes it wrong or something now a day's Women put to much on that thing in front of the kids Bs this 2020 almost 2021 not 1946 hell its time to get over that stuff for real.
God Bless

simplelikeme · Answer

Not in a low-key situation 🤣🤣🤣 and depending on their age too

BoxySama · Answer

Hell no, there is a behavior you have to hold with a single mother, there are rules 😎🤙🏼

Jerre · Answer

No, I do not flirt with girls in front of their children.

CordeLiara · Answer

Depending on what they say. Normal casual chat and asking their number at the end isn't so bad.

Cherokeehp · Answer

I don’t think it’s inappropriate as long as it’s not like sexual or explicit or anything.

Juggernautpunch · Answer

Dont think it's ever appropriate. Monkey see monkey do.

Machiavellio · Answer

Nah kids aren't stupid. You best leave that until you're kids free

NewZion · Answer

Nope. I'd rather be straight up than dance around it like some pussy. Stopped giving a shit about being "proper" long time ago. It's refreshing! =D

HonestWeirdo · Answer

yes I do. I mean 1 or 2 subtle comments or hints prob ok but nowt more. kids pick up more than we realise. but who am I to judge

crmoore · Answer

Not when it's explicit. But veru subtle and smooth things that the kid won't pick up on are fine as long as you're conservative with it.

AcidT0y · Answer

It's trashy as fuck. It's the kind of thing someone might do if they were not parented correctly.

scarlett774 · Answer

Yes why would you even do that in the first place

Bangalaraja · Answer

yes... on first hand you should'nt be hitting on a married person... so dont be a pervert to hit on an married person or else u will get into troubles...

Steve37 · Answer

I think it depends on the type of flirting. It should be something more mild than you'd do if she were not with her child, but some flirtatious behavior to show interest is fine.

0112358 · Answer

No, not if it's very mild. Workplace safe level of flirting.

FireRedPikachu · Answer

Guys try and finger me and grope my breasts sometimes.

Ericalovescats · Answer

Not really as long as you don't harass them

spartan55 · Answer

Yes, and in very poor taste too.

soleil2666 · Answer

I don't. Well, not if they give you room for it/if the vibe is there. In fact hoping to meet someone's children - and treat them like they might be staying at mine with their mom some time soon.

cth96190 · Answer

Yes. I think that it is wildly inappropriate.

ChefPapiChulo · Answer

I've done it. she was wearing a bikini that showed her whole ass. I was wasted too, and I thought she was looking at me seductively, but that was just the alcohol talking.

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