Do you believe mothers are the first teachers of compassion in a child's life?

[jennifer_bloom]

My mother is nice to strangers but is very abusive towards her own family and she is also extremely racist to almost all non white people, including many Chinese. She says it doesn't matter if non white people die cause their lives are cheap and not important are they are no more valuable than skunk.

Trying to be compassionate when you have a mentally ill narcissist that is always trying to ruin your life and abusing your dad in front of you and turning everyone who knows you against you with malicious and unfounded lies, is challenging.

But the bible says if you don't show compassion, you will not be given compassion by God. I had a lot of malicious people at church tell me I was evil for not loving somebody who has hated me ever since I was born, but its easy to judge when somebody else is being abused 300 times a day and it's not you.

[BadApple69]

First thing is…. I am very sorry for your situation. A moms love is a important thing in a child’s life. To not feel that love is a terrible thing. The thing to thing about is mothers are just people too. According to the CDC 20% of Americans live with some form of mental illness, that’s 1 in 5. This is mothers, fathers sisters and brothers. Your mom sounds like she is suffering some form of mental illness. Should we hate people with mental illness? No, we should be compassionate to them. To answer your question, children learn compassion from everyone they meet. I had a reverend that was more of an inspiration, gave me more guidance and taught me more about compassion then my parents did. I know it’s not easy but love your mom even though you don’t feel that love is being reciprocated. Jennifer, I will pray for you.

[LogicBomber]

Nope. Mothers are usually the worst teachers to children and 71% of the time when a child is abused, it’s the mother.

[comekitty]

Yes, I believe this is true. I'm really very sorry to hear about your situation - that must be very difficult.

~ hugs 💕

[Kathy1983]

I believe parents are both positively and negatively.

[exitseven]

yes, in most cases it is true.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the mother

[Agape93]

That is news to me

[SadyConfused1998]

Oh, yes absolutely