No one in my family wants to talk to me?

[Anonymous]

I live with my parents while I study online and work part-time. I feel like there is a lack of connection between my mother mainly, I try and tell her about my day but she does not want to hear it. Similar with my step-father, I will try telling him what happened to me but he gets up and walks away. I never felt so isolated before, even in social situations, say we go out for a family dinner I try to talk but no one listens to me. It really brings down my self-esteem, and how I think of myself. Sometimes I want to just find a new family who do appreciate me.

I actually didn't talk to them when they got home for afew days to see if they would say anything, but they never did. Didn't even ask me about my day, just treat me like a room mate. I have been to other families where the parents are so supportive of my friends, it makes me a bit jealous, I wish I had something like that.

I do not know why they do not want to talk to me at all, it seems like I am not even there. Anyone else experience this?

[Willlovewinintheend]

People do that to me all the time. I got used to it. You have to understand some of them might be having a bad day or they might be sick from cancer, diabetes or they might have PTSD.

They raised and now they might want a break because it is hard work to raise a child. But you got a job and you are independent now, so maybe you need to spend more time with other adults your age. Do not take it personally and see things from their perspectives.

When you show you are understanding of their issues than they might want to talk to you more again. You cannot just think about yourself all the time.

[Asker]

True! I can agree with you on this, I have been planning to spend more time away from them. I wanted to go overseas to travel, and do other activities locally. I never really saw them as "raising" me as I take care of myself, I do not need to be mothered I take myself everywhere and do my own thing. I just wanted to spend time with family because family is very important to me

[Willlovewinintheend]

Understandable. I get it. I hate that feeling too and I feel disrespected when it happens to me too, but I just try not to take it personally and just understand we are all human flawed, so I should not be offended by it unless the person is being totally unreasonable.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

I'm sorry. I don't know why your family is ignoring you, but try and make some friends from school to hang out with if you don't already. Lots of people have crappy parents, it's not acceptable, but it's the way it is unfortunately.

[YesterdaysChild]

Is this your actual real mother? You weren't adopted, were you? Why don't you sit down with just her, one on one, and tell her what you said here. Tell her how it makes you feel and that you no longer feel like part of the family. Unfortunately, sometimes when a woman gets remarried, she puts everything into the relationship to make it work this time, and often at the expense of her kids. That is sooo wrong, but it happens. Would you ever consider living with your dad instead?

[Asker]

My father is in the same boat, prioritising his new family over me. I barely see him and when I do it is up to his new partner to decide when it is good to come over to visit. I had already tried explaining to my mother but she says she is tired after work, and expressed my anxiety towards her and what she has said to me in the past but she says she never said those things. I just feel so on edge around her, like she is plotting something and I do not know what but I feel like she will use me for financial gain. I wish I had a caring family

[laraWM]

That's too bad. Do you have some friends you can talk about it? Do you see your father sometimes?

[Anonymous]

I'm truly sorry to hear that. I can see how that could make you feel down.

[Anonymous]

Leave them. You deserve better.

[barn_stormer]

your parents are assholes