My mom recently passed away& now my life is changing too much & I don't like it?

[Anonymous]

My mom recently passed away and I've been feeling miserable ever since. My bossy older sister wants me to move in with her since I have no money but I do not want to coz she always has to stick her nose in my privacy, "what are you doing" "why are you doing that" "why do you watch that". She lets my younger sister and brother make their own choices (probably because they have money) but gives me no choices, nope I have to move in with her. I'm devastated that my mom is gone she and I were close now I have no one near me to help me. Recently I kept coming across stupid facebook posts that say oh a better life is coming or you will be the happiest you ever been. Yeah right facebook how when I'm gonna be living a horrid new life with my bossy controlling sister and how is it going to be better than my amazing old life? I already miss it and am not looking forward to what's coming. The only thing I have is my girlfriend who lives in the UK who as far as I know can't come down to live somewhere with me and I can't go up there because I need a passport and of course have no money. I wish I could get my old life back!

[nolookingbackx]

I feel for you. You know, it will never be the same, unfortunately. But this is not the end. All you can do is try to learn to live in this new reality. And as long as you try and don't give up it's fine. Don't let the fate or anyone make decisions for you. I believe there is always a way out, even when it seems like there isn't. There's never a perfect solution, but there are some options and you can make it work out somehow. Please, don't ever fall for a lie that nothing can be done. I think you need a plan. A plan how to avoid living with your toxic sister or how to be able to move out as soon as possible if you move in there. I know that everything's very expensive these days and hardly anyone can afford an apartment living on their own, but independence is priceless. Maybe you can rent a single room somewhere. It's one of the cheaper options. Sometimes it's also possible to rent a room for little money when somebody needs some help, it could be an older person. There are also some jobs that provide you a place to live and let you save money, like a caregiver. That's what I want to do very soon. You don't have to pay for rent, food or anything. It doesn't have to be so hard, not everyone's very ill. You don't have to do it forever. After saving enough money you can find a better place to live or search for a better job. Most of all, stay strong. I am sure that your mom would want you to be.

[CrimsonAngel09]

It sucks.

I lost half my family in three years along with having to have had two pets put to sleep.

My Opa and Sugabud died in 2017. Three years later, my Oma and my Mom died a few weeks apart from each other. Last year, me and my sister had to put our cat to sleep.

I had to deal with so much death in such a short amount of time, my anxiety has become so much worse. I now have health anxiety, chest pain, tension headaches, mental breakdowns, and multiple times I nearly have had panic attacks to the point where I nearly passed out. If I thought my anxiety dealing with people was bad, this is a whole 'nother ball game.

I also deal with derealization, feeling like everything I do now is simply a dream. Nothing around me seems to be real anymore. The doctor recommend I see a therapist, but I have yet to do so as I had other problems going on.

When you suddenly lose people, suddenly things just... completely change. Routines you have done since you were a kid are just gone. The sudden new changes and routines are now just a dream. It's like there is no way to escape it, you can't wake up.

I miss the old ways too, you're not alone there.

[Bricealan]

When my mother died, my life was never the same... I think it is the worst thing that happens to us when our mother dies. I was 20, and nothing was ever the same.

[Iron_Man]

I am so sorry to hear that, but you better move in with your sister compromise with her you need help and support

[Asker]

She's usually not the compromising type she would probably get mad at me

[Iron_Man]

you have to try?

[ShesRad80]

sorry for your loss. get a job work hard and get yourself out of the situation

[Anonymous]

It takes time to adjust to everything. I’m sorry for your loss 🩷

[Anonymous]

Sorry for your loss but what’s your question? Did you come here just to vent?

[boggboss]

Just got to work with what u got